AnLandy Posted July 14, 2008 Posted July 14, 2008 I decided to go with my gut instincts and called my ex yesterday. I left a voicemail, he called back this morning, and we would up having a two hour conversation. Calling was the best thing I could have done. We cleared the air, talked about a lot of our thoughts and reflections over the past two weeks, discussed our friends' and family members' reactions to the breakup, and shared our own emotional state. We are both in pretty much the same place, relieved that the tension of the relationship is over, slowly easing back into our single lives, and incredibly happy that we did right by each other in the end. We managed to realize the limitations of the romantic relationship, recognize the issues, and find a way to end that part of the relationship without a ton of drama or petty, vindictive behavior. We hurt each other, but we managed to avoid inflicting any serious emotional damage on each other. Oddly, without the stress and pressure of the impending marriage, we were able to talk to each other honestly and reconnect with the friendship that was getting pushed aside because of all the doubt, angst, and pressure over moving in together and progressing towards marriage. All of the characteristics and qualities that I love about him as a person are still there, and I'm grateful that we can still appreciate each other and be honest with each other. The romantic part of the relationship did not survive, and neither of us has any regrets about that. We both learned a lot about ourselves through the relationship, and we're both greatful to have been a part of each other's lives. The fact that we were able to express grattitude to each other was amazing. He's a wonderful man who will make some woman very happy some day. One day, I will meet someone with his kindness and openness who is more in tune with who I am as a person and shares the same goals and values. In the end, we both walked away a little bit wiser and a little bit better than we were before we met. We didn't manage to find a soulmate, but I think we each managed to find a valuable friend.
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