Crush on my professor!

[nhnsen]

Ok I am taking summer school and I cant stop thinking about my teacher. She is a grad student and is only a few years (4 or 5) older than me. I wasn't really attracted to her until I started going to office hours for homework help.

Let me explain. Deep down I am a big nerd although Im not sure I look like a stereotypical nerd. (I run, work out and did construction for 5 years before reentering at the university) One day I went to office hours early and she was getting all excited about the new Harry Potter movie. I saw that she is a nerd too and has embraced her inner nerdom, and I think that is SOOO HOT! After class that day I told her I was having trouble and asked her if she could do some extra office hours for me(even though I got 107 out of 115 on the midterm). So when I went to office hours we did maybe 3 problems in and hour and a half. the rest of the time we talked. We have a lot in common and were joking about random things and laughing our asses off until other people started to show up for help (she did group office hours that day but specifically told me to come in early for "one-on-one" help)

I dont know if she is really attracted to me or if Im reading into everything the wrong way. Also I work really hard for my grades and I dont want to jeopardize her career if she was into me so I know I need to wait until the class is over but I am going nuts. I cant stop thinking about her. She is very attractive but I am most attracted to her mind and personality. I am also starting to find it hard to focus in class! Has any one ever been in a similar situation?

Anyway, sorry for going on and on, I just needed to get this all out and see if anyone has any advise..

 

Thanks

[KinAZ]

I've sort of been there before, so I know the feeling. But my first word would be... if you really like her, don't do anything to get her in trouble. Maybe some time later, after you graduate or something, who knows, and your paths cross again (and all that fate stuff), but I wouldn't go there, as it might make her feel uncomfortable too.

 

Do you know if she is a part of any organizations or clubs at the school? I don't think there's anything wrong with establishing a friendship. But if you wanted to ask her to hang out or invite her to an event, I would probably wait till after the class ended.

 

I had a horrible crush on a poli sci prof, and had 3 of his courses. He was out of my normal age range (in his 40s), but he was rather attractive, and had THE sexiest brain I have ever encountered.

 

I'm a bit of a nerd, always sit at the front of the class, and one day, he caught my eye turned red, and forgot what he was saying during lecture. Now... I was just thinking "Woooow! I KNOW that couldn't have been what I thought it was. Maybe he's just generally nervous!" LOL, and I had to find out!

 

So, I started looking at him (and trying to establish eye contact) on purpose. I caught him looking at me once after class, a long gaze followed, and I was totally freaked out from that point on. So, I wore a low cut top one day... not to get his attention, but to see if he would look. He did and wasn't bashful about it either. Not only was he my professor, but he's married. And logically speaking, I couldn't imagine him to be interested in me for too many reasons anyway. The eye contact thing was really weird after that, so I tried to avoid it. I ended up with a mini crush on another nerd in the class, the prof noticed, and gave me that "oh really!" look. Before this, he had actually gone into a dispassionate soliloquy about how he's a kept man.

 

In the end, while I hated to miss lecture, I started missing class a lot. If he was single though, I probably wouldn't have missed classes because of this. So, if you do try to establish a friendship with her now, try not to be obvious or flirty.

[Chinook]

Being a lecturer at a University... (although I'm in the UK it's slightly different)... I would say it's probably VERY unlikely she sees you in the same manner. If she is aware of your crush and how you feel, I would imagine she would be polite in ignoring it. It isn't unusual to do one-on-one extra hours when a student is either very strong or very weak in a subject. My advice to you would be to play it very very cool until class/course is finished. If anything transpires once the results are released, that's when you (and she) can do something about it. FWIW, I've been in this situation at least 3-4 times with students who have had crushes and whilst it is very complimentary, I wouldn't dream of doing anything about it.