loveinlife Posted July 14, 2008 Posted July 14, 2008 Does it ussually work out where the couple becomes exclusive? Im dating a girl at the moment. I might be the rebound since she still uses her exbfs cell phone, hangs out with a lot of boys, and is going on a camping trip with some guy friends. I feel like im in a bad situation. dunno where its going to go. Seems like thinking about her makes me more sad than happy. I treated her very nice, maybe too nice that she is taking the advantage of it or im letting her take advantage of me.. So my thought is, she is pulling away. I want to see if there is more to us? If not its going to be hard to break it off with her since we've already shared an emotional and physical bond... Any comments? or if you guys/girls have any experiences like this, please feel free to drop me a few lines. Im kinda sad right now and dunno what to do. Im somewhat of a classical nice guy... get to have a chance to date a few... but they always turn bad.
xpaperxcutx Posted July 14, 2008 Posted July 14, 2008 Back off the girl!! I probably can see you waiting hands and feet on her. Try to gain back some masculinity yourself and start doing your own things. I hate it when guys don't have any backbones and start getting taken advantaged of, and then complain about what they're doing wrong. Obviously you either put with it, or you don't.
Trialbyfire Posted July 14, 2008 Posted July 14, 2008 love, it sounds like the two of you have some serious compatibility issues to do with what constitutes a relationship. She appears to want her freedom but it's difficult to say without knowing if you've had the exclusivity discussion. If you have and she continues to act in a way that you don't appreciate, it might be time to chat with her about what you perceive a relationship structure to be and also, what she sees as a relationship structure. If the two of you can't come to some kind of compromise between the two that's acceptable for both of you, then you know what to do.
Author loveinlife Posted July 14, 2008 Author Posted July 14, 2008 Thanks everyone! I've spoken to her about it, she does want her freedom and im the type who loves to be in a relationship and something to build upon. Thought i wanted to go for the ride and find out if there is such compatibility. It was a trail, part of dating i assume. I let her have that freedom because that was what she wanted to be non exclusive but intimately dating without seeing other ppl. But she is pulling away and going her way of doing things that isn't promoting a relationship. This is the part i see as destructive and maybe time to put her away for good. however, the physical bonding and part emotional is what im gonna miss..
Author loveinlife Posted July 14, 2008 Author Posted July 14, 2008 Back off the girl!! I probably can see you waiting hands and feet on her. Try to gain back some masculinity yourself and start doing your own things. I hate it when guys don't have any backbones and start getting taken advantaged of, and then complain about what they're doing wrong. Obviously you either put with it, or you don't. good point, i need to man up. Thanks!
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