Vegas Baby Posted July 14, 2008 Posted July 14, 2008 This guy & I have known each other for awhile now. When we first met (last Jan) we became friends, then a month later he got a gf, which didn't bother me because I considered him to be a friend. Well we talked more & more & then one thing led to another & we started liking each other. He even visited me while he had his gf, BUT I didn't want to do anything because he still had his gf. Then just last month he broke up w/his ex, & he visited me again since then. Well...lately this other girl seems to be getting in the picture, such as she will flirt w/him on his myspace & just read that apparently she is visiting him this weekend. I asked him about her before & he said she is just a friend. He always asks about my guy friends, so I felt like it was good reason enough to ask him about her. Anyway, I got kinda pissy after I read that she was visiting him so I wrote him a message telling him that I think she digs him & I said "whatev have fun", to let him know I don't put up w/that. Well since I said that I haven't heard from him, so I'm wondering if I shouldn't have said that? I just want him to know that even though he might tell me those things that he wants to be with me, etc, I don't play games especially if I think another girl is trying to interfere, and that's when I back away. But what should I do??
Arise_Serpentor Posted July 14, 2008 Posted July 14, 2008 I know you said YOU don't like playing games, but you were playing a game yourself when said 'whatever, have fun.'. Thats not a major game, but a game anyway! And he figures he don't need that crap! Now, why couldn't you just tell him what you think? Flat out straight?! Its not too late! Try it! I bet you will be surprised!
Author Vegas Baby Posted July 14, 2008 Author Posted July 14, 2008 yah maybe with what i said was sorta gamish, but i was just curious, and plus he asks about guy friends of mine but NONE of my guy friends are overtly flirtatious like this girl is. but i think i've told him where i stand with her, so should i text him since its been since friday or just wait to see what happens? it's funny because i don't want to "give in" & contact him if there is really something going on between him & her ya know?
Arise_Serpentor Posted July 14, 2008 Posted July 14, 2008 well, you gotta balance something: your ego or your desire to date him. Weigh that out and there's your answer!
xpaperxcutx Posted July 14, 2008 Posted July 14, 2008 If you like him then go after him. He's single, so it's anybody's game who wants to flirt with him. Why should you feel intimidated? Guys are not mind readers and sometimes they don't know that you're crushing on them. The best thing you can do is open up about your feelings. Saves you alot more trouble than a misunderstanding.
Author Vegas Baby Posted July 15, 2008 Author Posted July 15, 2008 errrrrrrrrrrr....sooo...apparently this girl in question did come & visit him this past weekend because she commented (with a picture) revealing that she was there, saying what she thinks was funny when they hung out. Sooo..it's confirmed that she visited him. well today he was asking me if I was still coming out and making sure I was still good to come out the weekend that we had originally talked about awhile back. well without seeing that comment first, I sent him a comment saying "I'm searching for flights! ;)" well he approves comments before putting them on his page, well he approved her comment, but didn't approve mine!!! I know he read it because right after I sent it he said "get it done boo". WTF?!! I think it's pretty obvious why he didn't approve my simple comment. So I dunno what to think, I know it's myspace n all BUT actions speak louder than words in this case, do you agree?
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