xxmeganxx Posted July 14, 2008 Posted July 14, 2008 Hi. My fiance and I have been together for a little over a year. A few months ago, he started playing World of Warcraft (an online game). He had cancelled his account when we first started dating because he wanted to spend as much time as possible with me. Since he began playing it again, we have gradually grown apart. We do not talk like we used to or even cuddle and watch tv together. He insists on playing as soon as he gets home from work (at about 6pm) until he goes to bed at 11:30ish. He says he plays the game to "escape life". I have told him how I feel about this but he thinks I am just trying to start an argument and that the fact that I think it is driving us apart is "bull****". In our latest argument about this yesterday, I asked if he would pick WOW or me if it came down to that. He said he would pick World of Warcraft but only because that would be a very selfish thing to ask on my part, not because he loves the game more than me. He has made it clear that he WILL NOT stop playing the game because of me. I love this man with all my heart and I desperately want this relationship to work out, but I am really confused about what to do. Please help!
Nemo Posted July 14, 2008 Posted July 14, 2008 Why don't you share in his passion? Trust me, World of Warcraft is truly better than life!
Author xxmeganxx Posted July 14, 2008 Author Posted July 14, 2008 Tried it for a little while, got really tired of it.
Nemo Posted July 14, 2008 Posted July 14, 2008 , not because he loves the game more than me. I should add that being jealous of a computer game is more than a little silly.
CaliGuy Posted July 14, 2008 Posted July 14, 2008 He's addicted to the game, obviously. I play it but only when I have nothing else to do. If I was dating ATM, I would be out with her. The game is like, the last thing on my mind. Seriously, he told you he'd pick the game over you. That's how addicted he is. If you are ok with being #2 in his life, then stay with him. If not, find a more mature guy that isn't addicted to video games!
Nemo Posted July 14, 2008 Posted July 14, 2008 Tried it for a little while, got really tired of it. Maybe he will tire of it, too? Or you could "accidentally" break the computer.
CaliGuy Posted July 14, 2008 Posted July 14, 2008 LOL, ok.... Well you asked for advice. I'm just telling what you I see based on what you told me. I wasn't sitting there when he told this to you. It's up to you what to do but it obviously bothers you enough to post about it.
kizik Posted July 14, 2008 Posted July 14, 2008 I think you need to move to your mom's or something for a while and really let him see what he is missing. If he is "fine" without you and with his dumb little game, then you know where his priorities are. People are so stupid, they never appreciate what they have, and when it's gone because of their own ridiculous actions, they act surprised.
Nemo Posted July 14, 2008 Posted July 14, 2008 If not, find a more mature guy that isn't addicted to video games! In many ways, computer games are more challenging than relationships. There are a myriad of exquisite skills, and elaborate finesses involved, and those translate directly to the bedroom. It's not for us to judge.
Author xxmeganxx Posted July 14, 2008 Author Posted July 14, 2008 Well you asked for advice. I'm just telling what you I see based on what you told me. I wasn't sitting there when he told this to you. It's up to you what to do but it obviously bothers you enough to post about it. Sorry, i was talking about what Nemo said. Thanks for the reply.
Storyrider Posted July 14, 2008 Posted July 14, 2008 They should make a game kind of like guitar hero, where the joy stick is a real woman.
kizik Posted July 14, 2008 Posted July 14, 2008 I asked if he would pick WOW or me if it came down to that. He said he would pick World of Warcraft but only because that would be a very selfish thing to ask on my part, not because he loves the game more than me. What a d*ck. What does that even mean? This guy is a loser, and for some reason you tolerate him. Respect yourself more; many men would treat you better. When we don't get the attention we need, it's a problem. We cannot be secondary (like CaliGuy basically said).
Author xxmeganxx Posted July 14, 2008 Author Posted July 14, 2008 We actually both still live with our parents. (Im 22, he's 21). He suggested that we see each other every other day instead of almost every day so that he can play WOW when we're not together and go out on the days we ARE together...
Nemo Posted July 14, 2008 Posted July 14, 2008 We actually both still live with our parents. (Im 22, he's 21). He suggested that we see each other every other day instead of almost every day so that he can play WOW when we're not together and go out on the days we ARE together... Every other day sounds great! You really don't want to be in each other's pockets, and you need to get your own life. He sounds very level-headed, and it's a very mature suggestion on his part.
xpaperxcutx Posted July 14, 2008 Posted July 14, 2008 Every other day sounds great! You really don't want to be in each other's pockets, and you need to get your own life. He sounds very level-headed, and it's a very mature suggestion on his part. Are you kidding me? WOW is such a terrible game, and I've seen many people succumb to it's addiction. My best friend's bf only recently got into the game and already there's problems that arose because the bf would rather spend his free time playing than actually spending time with her. She told me that she would rather not bring up the problem rather than start an argument so she'd put up with watching him play the game than have him take her out. OP, if you have a problem with it, then it's best you bring up the issue. Keeping it bottled up is not going to help because it does make you frustrated about his immaturity. Try to come to a compromise. But if he refuses you have to wonder where his values truly lie in. If I were you, and he told me that he would rather choose WOW over me, I'd dumped him on the spot.
xpaperxcutx Posted July 14, 2008 Posted July 14, 2008 It's a phase. In a year or two he'll be tired of it. I do not encourage her to put up with it for 2 years. Compromise or break up. Why should she wait 2 years of her life waiting around for him to give up playing? Might as well just break up and let herself find a better guy than sitting around waiting for him to grow up.
Nemo Posted July 14, 2008 Posted July 14, 2008 Don't listen to these crazy biatches. He's offering you his entire attention on every second day, which is more than enough tender man meat for your diet. Honestly, you would think people have no life besides hanging with their partners.
xpaperxcutx Posted July 14, 2008 Posted July 14, 2008 Don't listen to these crazy biatches. He's offering you his entire attention on every second day, which is more than enough tender man meat for your diet. Honestly, you would think people have no life besides hanging with their partners. No I think he can do something more productive with his free time rather than wasting it on video games. And they're engaged. If they were to have a baby one of these days, would you put up with him saying " I'm choosing video games over my family and child?"
kizik Posted July 14, 2008 Posted July 14, 2008 Don't listen to these crazy biatches. He's offering you his entire attention on every second day, which is more than enough tender man meat for your diet. Honestly, you would think people have no life besides hanging with their partners. Nemo, I can't wait to see your un-sarcastic side someday. But if the above isn't sarcasm... no, it has to be. But if it ISN'T? No, it has to be.
Nemo Posted July 14, 2008 Posted July 14, 2008 And they're engaged. If they were to have a baby one of these days, would you put up with him saying " I'm choosing video games over my family and child?" Great idea! A baby might solve their problem. He would have a lot more time to play video games, while she's breastfeeding and changing diapers.
Author xxmeganxx Posted July 14, 2008 Author Posted July 14, 2008 It's a phase. In a year or two he'll be tired of it. Im not sure if he will tire of it, though. He says thats how he escapes life (he has a very stressful job) but shouldn't I be who he turns to when there are other problems in his life??
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