rachelk Posted July 14, 2008 Posted July 14, 2008 My bf& i would have been dating for a year next week. At first everything was great& it was throughout the whole relationship. We never had many communication problems or anything. Everything was great. He did so much for me, as i did for him in return. A few months ago I would say early April, we got into an argument. I can't control my anger very well& i punched him in the face giving him a black eye. Immediately i started crying& apologizing but the damage was done. We stayed together but i knew what i had done. He eventually told me he just wanted to take a break, be single& have fun. I did everything you dont do when this happens. Did the whole begging, pleading act. We still talked everyday& i still went to visit him at school. When he came home from school, he wouldn't see me. I feel like its bc he didnt want to let his emotions get the best of him by seeing me. I came to my senses & let him make contact. He called me one night asking to see me, that he had to tell me something in person. He came over, cried& told me he HAD BEEN dating someone else for a little while. Kissed me, hugged me, apologized up& down. I made him leave. He called me for the next week apologizing& i told him if he was really sorry he wouldn't have done it. Then I started NC. He tried to contact me alot& when i would decide to answer once or twice he told me it was weird w/o me in his life& he missed me, but still wouldn't see me. So i went back to NC. He called& called but i never gave in. Recently he's been so much to make me jealous. He messaged my 3 best friends just saying Hey whats up? & then the other day he called my work, asked them to call me& see if i was working bc he wanted to bring in his new girl but didn't want me to get upset, he used to work there& knows the person he talked to would tell me in a heartbeat. He went in and apparently was all over this girl. I'm almost positive she's just a rebound considering he still tries to call me. The situation in my opinion: I honestly feel that he's trying to use this girl to get over me& convince himself& everyone around him that he's over me. I don't think he is, or he would be more worried about this girl then me. If i was seeing someone else, & was as happy as he claims to be i would still think of him but would never care so much about what he was doing/where he was etc. Two weeks ago yesterday he told me he couldn't talk to me anymore because he's seeing someone else. Not anymore, but just at this time. Twice in the past week him and/or his best friends have come into my work and tried to get information about my life. New guys etc. Sorry this is so long im new here though and just want to give my whole story. Any advice would be helpful.
saraispiel19 Posted July 14, 2008 Posted July 14, 2008 Hmm. The part that puzzles me is that he states he can't talk to you yet he visits you at work or sends his flying monkies to do so. What an odd male. Well I think this whole wishy-washy behaviour of his is not something you need at the moment- or ever. Sorry your relationship went down the tubes; and I hope you've analyzed why it did and why you too are also at fault. Best thing to do is keep your distance from the boy and focus on yourself, he sounds fickle, childish and needs some maturing to do. In my point of view and opinion I would tell him that I no longer would like speak to him on a daily basis (if you do so) and keep it as a friendly aquaintance. Some ex's are okay to have as friends but not all of them work out that way, sometimes it's best to keep your past in your past. Goodluck to ya and keep us posted!
wareagle Posted July 14, 2008 Posted July 14, 2008 There is no excuse for physical violence in a relationship period!! You need to seek some anger management counseling!
Author rachelk Posted July 14, 2008 Author Posted July 14, 2008 well I've been doing nc. and yes I'm going to a counselor
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