george1122 Posted July 14, 2008 Posted July 14, 2008 I have liked this girl for quiet some time now. I have got a big crush on her. I asked her out last month and she said yes, we went out couple of times. Then she went on vacation out of town and when she got back she got sick, so we did not go out for 3 weeks. Wednesday before last (Jul 2), I asked her out to see Hancock. She said she had plans with family for the fourth of July weekend with family and can't go but does really want to see that movie. I asked her that we can go weekend after fouth of July. She said, don't wait up on me, see the movie if you can, we can always do somethig else, lets talk next week. I said ok. So, I couldn't/didn't see the movie on 4th of Jul weekend, gave her a call last wednesday (Jul 9), and she did not pick up. I left a message, she didn't call back. I saw her on Saturday (as we have softball league together) and just said Hi, she was kind of avoiding eye contact so I didn't really talk to her. I gave her another call on Saturday after the game, she again did not pick up and I left a message saying, "I wanted to see if you had fun playing softball. Give me a call back". She did not give me a call on Satuday, so I thought its over, let me get over her (feeling terrible) and move on. I went out on Saturday with friends, had dinner and saw Hancock. She calls me back on Sunday, I was taking a nap, she left a message saying, "Hi, I am sorry I haven't returned your call, I have been very busy, I did have fun playing softball. Talk to you later". Now, whats going on? She did wait until after the weekend to call me. But she did call me. I am so confused. Can anyone shed any light on it? What should I do next, let it go or ask her out again?
portcitykitty Posted July 14, 2008 Posted July 14, 2008 Hey, I'm going through a very similar situation with the guy I'm seeing. He's busy a lot of times with his job and I don't hear from him for days, unless I call (sometimes he answers right away, sometimes I leave a message), but he's usually pretty good about calling me back. I've called him and left a message, and a week goes by and I still don't hear from him, so I call him back, and he'll tell me he's sorry for not calling me back, he's been busy, blah blah blah. I always wonder, too, if he really is that busy, or if he's just trying to make me sweat, or what. I don't think this boy is out to hurt me. He seems to give me the run-around, kinda like that girl does to you, but at the same time he does something that throws me off and I think, Hmm, he did do this, so maybe things are okay?? I get confused too! I'm trying not to sweat it and let things run their course with us. Some people would get fed up with that and say let it go, but I'm a patient person. I'd say wait it out, and give it a little bit and ask her out again. I guess if she continues to give you the run-around, try to move on to something better.
Author george1122 Posted July 14, 2008 Author Posted July 14, 2008 Thanks for replying protcitykitty. It can get frustrating. I get no definite answer from her, either yes or no. I am thinking about giving her a call and making myself clear by saying that I really like her and I am interested in a relationship with her. I hope it does not scare her away but I guess I will get my answer.
MadDog Posted July 14, 2008 Posted July 14, 2008 Thanks for replying protcitykitty. It can get frustrating. I get no definite answer from her, either yes or no. I am thinking about giving her a call and making myself clear by saying that I really like her and I am interested in a relationship with her. I hope it does not scare her away but I guess I will get my answer. Don't do this. It sounds way to early to be making statements like this even if it's true. You might want to screw a girl's brain out the first time you meet her but it's not appropriate to say that either. What I think you should do is start to date other girls and this way you won't be the one sitting there calling her all the time and being frustrated when she doesn't call back--you'll be going out on dates with other girls as well. The ideal situation is when you're casually dating 2-3 girls and you aren't having to focus all your time and energy on one of them. If things become serious with one of them, of course you have to end it with the others. MD
Arise_Serpentor Posted July 14, 2008 Posted July 14, 2008 I think your first mistake was suggesting the movie Hancock! LOL! just kidding! actually, she probably went on a date with another guy during that time and didn't want to tell you. Thats usually the case when they are all distant and avoid eye contact, act uneasy, etc! i'm a good read of people so i know! that said, ask her out again! yes or no, at least you know! and as a favorite show of mine always said 'knowing is half the battle!'
Author george1122 Posted July 14, 2008 Author Posted July 14, 2008 I think your first mistake was suggesting the movie Hancock! LOL! just kidding! actually, she probably went on a date with another guy during that time and didn't want to tell you. Thats usually the case when they are all distant and avoid eye contact, act uneasy, etc! i'm a good read of people so i know! that said, ask her out again! yes or no, at least you know! and as a favorite show of mine always said 'knowing is half the battle!' Actually she told me on the second date that she would like to see Hancock thats why I asked her out for that movie. I will try asking her out again to dinner or something.
Arise_Serpentor Posted July 14, 2008 Posted July 14, 2008 Actually she told me on the second date that she would like to see Hancock thats why I asked her out for that movie. I will try asking her out again to dinner or something. Yeah, when I mentioned Hancock, i put a 'LOL!' and 'Just Kidding'. That was kind of a clue it was a joke about the movie. that being said, 'dinner or something'? Sounds like you are going to wing it and not really plan it out. GET A PLAN! Make it super special man! You almost blew it with her! Now its time to sweep her off her feet! You got this forum! Get some suggestions from all the women here! Leverage that!
Author george1122 Posted July 14, 2008 Author Posted July 14, 2008 Don't do this. It sounds way to early to be making statements like this even if it's true. You might want to screw a girl's brain out the first time you meet her but it's not appropriate to say that either. What I think you should do is start to date other girls and this way you won't be the one sitting there calling her all the time and being frustrated when she doesn't call back--you'll be going out on dates with other girls as well. The ideal situation is when you're casually dating 2-3 girls and you aren't having to focus all your time and energy on one of them. If things become serious with one of them, of course you have to end it with the others. MD I need a closure, I hate to leave things in the middle. She works in the same comany as me but in a different department. We seldomly see eahc other at work but I need to know whether it is going to work out with her and I or not. I have asked her out a couple of times before se went on vacation and after second date. She said she would love to go but she is busy and can't, so I do not know where is this going. I have known her for about 8 months now but started dating a month ago. Do you still thing I should not tell her how I feel? How about telling her that I really like her and how like to take her out on dinner?
portcitykitty Posted July 14, 2008 Posted July 14, 2008 Thanks for replying protcitykitty. It can get frustrating. I get no definite answer from her, either yes or no. I am thinking about giving her a call and making myself clear by saying that I really like her and I am interested in a relationship with her. I hope it does not scare her away but I guess I will get my answer. You're welcome! It is extremely frustrating...I feel your pain! It's funny how you read back on some of these posts and see how many people are going through what you're going through...I thought I was the only one with these problems! Anywho, I wish my guy would come out and say he wants to have a relationship with me...he threw hints at me when we first started hanging out, and I was a lot shyer then, so I kinda blew them off, thinking he wasn't serious and really didn't want me (I have some insecurities as well), but as time went on, we haven't said anything else. I don't know if we just assumed we're exclusive, or what. I've even been debating about asking him myself where this is going and that I'd like to have a more serious relationship with him, but like you, I fear his reaction and afraid of scaring him off. From my personal experience, don't give up, cuz my guy sure didn't! He chased me for a long time, for several months! I work for an auto parts store, and I delivered to his shop. He was so persistent in asking me out, and the flirting (my God lol)...I was really flattered, but at the same time hesitant! I'd try to flirt back, and I would drive myself crazy trying to convince myself to go out with him. I felt bad for dragging it out for so long and driving him crazy, but I guess I was just unsure! One day I finally gave him my number, and we've been hanging out for about 7 months. We decided to take things very slow, due to our past relationships. But since we've been hanging out, he got a job at another shop where we don't deliver to, so I hardly see him anymore. The shop he's at now does a lot more business, and he's always stressed and working longer hours. By the time he's off work, he feels like hell, and I feel bad for having him meet me in that condition! Sometimes, our plans are we'll mention getting together one night, then that night comes up and he has to cancel...it sucks, but as much as I like this guy, I still hang on--I understand $h!t happens, and you can't do much about it! But when we do get to meet up, it's sooooo worth it--absense does make the heart grow fonder, but at the same time it can drive you insane! I miss him like crazy though! But, yeah, if you really dig this girl, try to be patient...try not to seem too pushy, but yet still show her you're interested. Take Arise_Serpentor's advice : "GET A PLAN! Make it super special man! You almost blew it with her! Now its time to sweep her off her feet! You got this forum! Get some suggestions from all the women here! Leverage that!" GOOD LUCK!
Author george1122 Posted July 14, 2008 Author Posted July 14, 2008 GET A PLAN! Make it super special man! You almost blew it with her! Now its time to sweep her off her feet! You got this forum! Get some suggestions from all the women here! Leverage that! Any girls here have good suggestions? She likes being on water, did not tell me about anymore interests that she has. Dinner is always an option. How can I blow her off of her feet? I was thinking about following: 1. Ask her out on a kayaking trip and have a little picnic with a bread and fruit basket (about 3-4 hrs including drive from my place) 2. Ask her out to Cheese Cake Factory (She has never been). How can I make it really special? Any help would be greatly apreciated.
refurb Posted July 14, 2008 Posted July 14, 2008 How can I make it really special? Any help would be greatly apreciated. If I can make a suggestion, save the special stuff for a girl who deserves it. This girl doesn't sound that into you and you'll just feel like an idiot if you put a ton of effort into it and it doesn't go anywhere. If I were you, I'd make one more effort to setup a date or something and if it doesn't happen, considered it over and move on. RF
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