johan Posted July 14, 2008 Posted July 14, 2008 In the first few dates, in your experience, does the woman talk more or does the man? Speaking for myself, I'm pretty happy if the woman does the majority of the talking. I'm rarely really chatty with someone I don't know very well.
jerbear Posted July 14, 2008 Posted July 14, 2008 Most the dates I've been on, it was majority woman talking with me asking deeper questions. The ones with a lull are the ones I tend to throw back or the ones where she is 100% chatty. The quiet and shy ones I also throw back. For those that are more balanced, I would interrupt and just ask if she wanted "dessert" at another place. Hence, 2nd date. Those balanced conversations makes the date more fun. Quiet and talkative ones, they get boring after awhile.
xpaperxcutx Posted July 14, 2008 Posted July 14, 2008 Most the dates I've been on, it was majority woman talking with me asking deeper questions. The ones with a lull are the ones I tend to throw back or the ones where she is 100% chatty. The quiet and shy ones I also throw back. For those that are more balanced, I would interrupt and just ask if she wanted "dessert" at another place. Hence, 2nd date. Those balanced conversations makes the date more fun. Quiet and talkative ones, they get boring after awhile. So if we're quiet and shy, we get boring... but if we're too talkative, we're considered annoying and bitchy?
carhill Posted July 14, 2008 Posted July 14, 2008 A man who keeps his mouth shut stays happily married a lot longer I'm a chatterbox, so am always in trouble
Citizen Erased Posted July 14, 2008 Posted July 14, 2008 Well I guess jerbear would be throwing me in the too talkative pile, I never shutup. J-Bot dear, you not talkative? Never!
Author johan Posted July 14, 2008 Author Posted July 14, 2008 Well I guess jerbear would be throwing me in the too talkative pile, I never shutup. J-Bot dear, you not talkative? Never! Sometimes I talk.
Nemo Posted July 14, 2008 Posted July 14, 2008 Let the girl do all the talking. Don't even utter a word. Example: Let's ****! *nods*
xpaperxcutx Posted July 14, 2008 Posted July 14, 2008 Let the girl do all the talking. Don't even utter a word. Example: Let's ****! *nods* Probably not even thinking either...
carhill Posted July 14, 2008 Posted July 14, 2008 Yep, cerebral cortex disengaged. Separate saucer section, warp speed with the drive section (that's the gonads ).
Nemo Posted July 14, 2008 Posted July 14, 2008 Well I guess jerbear would be throwing me in the too talkative pile, I never shutup. I'm trying to imagine you with your mouth always open. Almost like you are wanting something to plug the gap. Or wishing to put all that vibrational energy to much more productive use.
Citizen Erased Posted July 14, 2008 Posted July 14, 2008 I'm trying to imagine you with your mouth always open. Almost like you are wanting something to plug the gap. Or wishing to put all that vibrational energy to much more productive use. Oooh so my fondness for giving head is the reason for me constantly talking? I will inform my boyfriend of that the next time he tells me to shut it.
jerbear Posted July 14, 2008 Posted July 14, 2008 So if we're quiet and shy, we get boring... but if we're too talkative, we're considered annoying and bitchy? Yelp! I like my women bitchy but not annoying. She can hold her own and not be quiet and shy; knows when to talk and when to listen. A balanced conversationist. A man who keeps his mouth shut stays happily married a lot longer I'm a chatterbox, so am always in trouble Yelp, I've learned to not be condescending by saying "Yes, honey, anything you say honey, I was wrong your right honey!" All with a smile too. After awhile I'll just be quiet. I have to keep the peace. Happy SO is a good SO! Well I guess jerbear would be throwing me in the too talkative pile, I never shutup. J-Bot dear, you not talkative? Never! You're already taken so you've already been thrown back!
Star Gazer Posted July 14, 2008 Posted July 14, 2008 In the first couple dates, I'm usually the one asking the most questions to keep conversation flowing, but the guy is the one to literally be speaking the most. I read somewhere that in a relationship, the guy talks the most he ever will during the course of the entire relationship on the 3rd date. Something about the 3rd date being the "hard sell," or something, and that after that he just nods and listens.
Tomcat33 Posted July 14, 2008 Posted July 14, 2008 On a good date typically he dominates the conversation and in turn does most the disclosing on the first few dates. I ask questions on what he chooses to talk about and they seem to really open up, we engage like that. I'd say it flows evenly back and forth. But if he is the type of guy that only talks about himself and does not engage in a conversation it turns me off. By the second/third date they sometimes realise they don't know a whole lot about me and I should talk for a change, it's quite funny (cute) actually.
Lyssa Posted July 14, 2008 Posted July 14, 2008 In the first few dates, in your experience, does the woman talk more or does the man? I was always the one asking questions to keep the conversation going. It was refreshing for me when I went out on date with my current BF - he did most of the asking. From what I've heard from my friends (their experiences), men talk more than women.
Carmen87 Posted July 14, 2008 Posted July 14, 2008 My bf definitely did most of the talking on our first date. He still does now, actually.
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