Art_Critic Posted July 14, 2008 Posted July 14, 2008 Well I guess Im screwed then..... I'm afraid we all are...
Citizen Erased Posted July 14, 2008 Posted July 14, 2008 I adore skinny men, my ex boyfriends, my current one, even the celebs I think are hot are all thin. When it's your type, it's your type you know.
carhill Posted July 14, 2008 Posted July 14, 2008 Lookin' good @ 50 in a mirror of my own design OP, please wait until you're over your ex before passing attractive judgements on a new guy, or even dating anyone seriously. This is the good, nerdy guy who scared you a bit with the intensity of his kisses. If you've not moved on and/or are distracted with other feelings, stop. Be fair to yourself and this gentleman. Thank you
Storyrider Posted July 14, 2008 Posted July 14, 2008 Well I guess Im screwed then..... I'm afraid we all are... Oh, come on guys, I'm not that shallow. There are all different flavors of yummy, suited to every taste.
Trialbyfire Posted July 14, 2008 Posted July 14, 2008 ha the beach! awesome idea. And actually, I'm just confused bout this guy really. It is not clear cut as to whether I'm into him or not. I think the reason is that I'm attracted to how nice he is to me and he's funny and a gentlemean, but perhaps I'm not that attracted to him physically. But at the same time I know that physical attraction can increase over time?.... I'm not certain physical attraction can increase over time unless it's your style that you become attracted to the person for what's on the inside. It doesn't work for everyone.
Jake Barnes Posted July 14, 2008 Posted July 14, 2008 Oh, come on guys, I'm not that shallow. There are all different flavors of yummy, suited to every taste.Oh please you sound like Barack Obama..
xpaperxcutx Posted July 14, 2008 Posted July 14, 2008 I'm not certain physical attraction can increase over time unless it's your style that you become attracted to the person for what's on the inside. It doesn't work for everyone. Reminds me of a post I read in a thread around here; the person had asked whether he can make a fat girl want to lose weight if he dated her....
Trialbyfire Posted July 14, 2008 Posted July 14, 2008 Reminds me of a post I read in a thread around here; the person had asked whether he can make a fat girl want to lose weight if he dated her.... We're all guilty to some degree about wanting to change people we're in relationships with. It's so futile, if you think about it.
maynicholas Posted July 14, 2008 Posted July 14, 2008 My own personal rule is that if he can fit into my jeans I won't date him. It's bad for my self esteem.
Star Gazer Posted July 14, 2008 Posted July 14, 2008 My own personal rule is that if he can fit into my jeans I won't date him. It's bad for my self esteem. That's a good rule to follow!
Author gummybear Posted July 14, 2008 Author Posted July 14, 2008 My own personal rule is that if he can fit into my jeans I won't date him. It's bad for my self esteem. :lmao::lmao: Honestly, with a guy it's usually pretty clear cut whether I like him or not. But for the first time with a guy, I'm genuinely confused. I REALLY do enjoy spending time with him and being physically close to him (ie sit close, hug, arms around each other etc) and he makes me feel fuzzy inside at times, but at the same time when I kissed him after the second date yesterday I wasn't sure if I liked it. But after we talked again today I felt like I'm liking him more again and the kiss didn't seem that bad anymore. It DOES feel like he's growing on me. To be honest I used to be VERY superficial and would only date hot guys, but then over time I started seeing the beauty in guys who were not so super hot but who were much more attractive in the insides -- nice, modest guys. Perhaps with this new guy, it's just another stage of my evolution to actually like a guy who I in the past may not have liked. Because I dated my ex (who is not exactly hot at all) for 6 months and was madly in love with him, whereas I knew had you asked me 1.5 years ago, I would have just ignored him had he asked me out....but then again he gave me butterflies and I had not doubts about my attraction to him from the very first moment we met.
Star Gazer Posted July 14, 2008 Posted July 14, 2008 Eh, Gummy... I've been where you are, both with too-skinny guys and too-fat guys. Try as you might to allow them to grow on you, the moment they do something to irk you personality wise, ALL physical attraction will be lost. Physical chemistry is something that cannot be forced...and the kisses in the beginning should always give you butterflies........
Author gummybear Posted July 14, 2008 Author Posted July 14, 2008 Ironically, I saw some pics he took from years past (photography is his hobby) and a few of them included pics of his ex gf and with him and his ex gf together and I got supppeerrrr jealous and felt a bit hurt by them. If I don't like him, why did I get all worked up over some stupid pics? What gives? Confused. I have no thoughts to ever change him. He's been skinny all his life and is just naturally skinny cuz he doesn't eat alot (he eats less than me!). I guess I'm wondering as to whether I can just accept it.
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