gummybear Posted July 13, 2008 Posted July 13, 2008 The guy I'm dating is super skinny. I mean think clay aiken from American idol (link to pic http://img2.timeinc.net/ew/dynamic/imgs/070129/idol/clay_l.jpg) except this guy is even skinnier than that!!! I'm not kidding. At least he's like 5'10 tall (I'm only 5'3) so he's 'bigger' than me in some ways. I'm not sure how much he weighs but hopefully more than 120, which is my weight. I guess I've never been with a guy skinnier than me. All guys I've dated were very in shape and I mean I always enjoyed looking at them unclothed (they all had beautiful bodies.) I mean I like skinny guys before but not THIS skinny. And I have no idea how a skinny body like his would look unclothed. Anyone any links to pics or any experiences? I'm scared when the day comes I have to see him unclothed I might be utterly repulsed. But I have no idea. Cuz maybe by then I would have fallen for him so his skinnines would no longer even be a problem for me. But I also have no idea how a skinny body in real life looks like....
Enema Posted July 13, 2008 Posted July 13, 2008 Here's a picture of Christian Bale (Batman) from when he was in Pscyho: http://www.bennadel.com/resources/uploads/christian_bale_in_american_psycho.jpg And, here's a picture of Christian Bale when he slimmed down for the movie The Machinist: http://i305.photobucket.com/albums/nn234/Badabing00/Bale.jpg I guess your guy is closer to the 2nd photo ;)
Author gummybear Posted July 13, 2008 Author Posted July 13, 2008 Here's a picture of Christian Bale (Batman) from when he was in Pscyho: http://www.bennadel.com/resources/uploads/christian_bale_in_american_psycho.jpg And, here's a picture of Christian Bale when he slimmed down for the movie The Machinist: http://i305.photobucket.com/albums/nn234/Badabing00/Bale.jpg I guess your guy is closer to the 2nd photo ;) omg the second pic is just . I actually don't think my guy's skinniness is far from the pic though. I got this other link http://cdn-www.cracked.com/articleimages/wong/balejuice1.jpg where christian stands normally in the pose to the right and I think my guy's skinniness is almost like this. Omg this might scare me. I've never felt this confused. I mean I like this guy and I'm excited to see him but at the same time his thinness make me unsure whether I enjoy kissing him and any thoughts of doing him just make me . But with my last 2 bfs, thoughts of ya know with them were very positive from the start.
Storyrider Posted July 13, 2008 Posted July 13, 2008 Don't ignore your intuition. If you can't let go of your doubts, back off. DO NOT under any circumstances, go into this with the hopes that he will change his physique for you.
melodymatters Posted July 13, 2008 Posted July 13, 2008 I adore skinny men, and simply can not do the "teddy bear' type no matter how great the guy. We all have our turn ons, and i don't think you can really change them.
Storyrider Posted July 13, 2008 Posted July 13, 2008 Some preferences are very negotiable because there is no visceral reaction and it doesn't seem to touch a deep psychological nerve. I find I am neutral on a lot of physical attributes and find some attributes a turn-on that others would definitely not. However, other preferences seem to be ingrained and no amount of common sense or reasoning will change them.
xpaperxcutx Posted July 13, 2008 Posted July 13, 2008 And, here's a picture of Christian Bale when he slimmed down for the movie The Machinist: http://i305.photobucket.com/albums/nn234/Badabing00/Bale.jpg I guess your guy is closer to the 2nd photo ;) The only reason Christian Bale looks like this is because he went on a 4 month diet of just apples. He did it for the movie role. And he looks really unhealthy. Most skinny guys are either skinny because of genetics, or they're part of the 10% population of male that are suffering from anorexia. To use Christian Bale as an example for skinny guys is not a good idea, because I know that most skinnyguys at least looks healthy. OP, if skinny guys are not your preference then you shouldn't date him. I can understand that most people's reaction as to how certain people physic is even remotely possible. But all it comes down to are how they were raised, and their diet. Like asian males for example, they're usually skinny and the same weight as girls.
Trialbyfire Posted July 13, 2008 Posted July 13, 2008 If you're that worried about it, take him to the beach so you can get a look beforehand. Are you sure you're really into this guy, that his body is such a great concern for you?
Author gummybear Posted July 13, 2008 Author Posted July 13, 2008 If you're that worried about it, take him to the beach so you can get a look beforehand. Are you sure you're really into this guy, that his body is such a great concern for you? ha the beach! awesome idea. And actually, I'm just confused bout this guy really. It is not clear cut as to whether I'm into him or not. I think the reason is that I'm attracted to how nice he is to me and he's funny and a gentlemean, but perhaps I'm not that attracted to him physically. But at the same time I know that physical attraction can increase over time?....
JP77 Posted July 13, 2008 Posted July 13, 2008 Physical attraction doesn't incraese over time, just let him be with someone who actually likes him. I'm sure you can find someone more suited to you, who will judge you as being too fat or something and then holding it against you.
thebrunette Posted July 13, 2008 Posted July 13, 2008 I prefer average sized men or more musclier men to skinny ones. I don't like bodybuilder types either though. I think it sounds to me like you want to like him, but you really know that it isn't going to last. I would be upset if a man I was dating waited to see me naked to decide whether or not he wanted to continue seeing me. If you're that unsure maybe let him down gently because if physical is important to you then being with someone you don't find physically attractive is going to get tiresome after a while, and by then you'll both be further in and it will be harder to break it off. Only you know how you feel though.
Author gummybear Posted July 13, 2008 Author Posted July 13, 2008 Physical attraction doesn't incraese over time, just let him be with someone who actually likes him. I'm sure you can find someone more suited to you, who will judge you as being too fat or something and then holding it against you. I don't know why, but despite everything, I still have the desire to keep seeing him. I've had nice guys who I wasn't physically attracted to and those I let go after one date, but I dunno maybe it's just something about this guy... And for me maybe because I'm a girl, I think in many instances for me physical attraction does increase over time but they were cases where i had some decent physical attraction to them to begin with...
JP77 Posted July 13, 2008 Posted July 13, 2008 I don't know why, but despite everything, I still have the desire to keep seeing him. I've had nice guys who I wasn't physically attracted to and those I let go after one date, but I dunno maybe it's just something about this guy... And for me maybe because I'm a girl, I think in many instances for me physical attraction does increase over time but they were cases where i had some decent physical attraction to them to begin with... You just want to see his body, so you can taunt him and make him feel a cm tall. I've met women like you before.
Author gummybear Posted July 13, 2008 Author Posted July 13, 2008 I prefer average sized men or more musclier men to skinny ones. I don't like bodybuilder types either though. I think it sounds to me like you want to like him, but you really know that it isn't going to last. I would be upset if a man I was dating waited to see me naked to decide whether or not he wanted to continue seeing me. If you're that unsure maybe let him down gently because if physical is important to you then being with someone you don't find physically attractive is going to get tiresome after a while, and by then you'll both be further in and it will be harder to break it off. Only you know how you feel though. Wow you hit what I'm feeling on the spot! I've thought about exactly what you just wrote. I guess one thing though, is that I'm afraid that I might regret it if I stop seeing him after only 2 dates so I'm thinking to give it a few more dates first to see what happens...????
Author gummybear Posted July 13, 2008 Author Posted July 13, 2008 You just want to see his body, so you can taunt him and make him feel a cm tall. I've met women like you before. wha!???? I've never taunted anyone before. I really am fond of this guy so I want to think and see it through before I make any decision on him.
JP77 Posted July 13, 2008 Posted July 13, 2008 wha!???? I've never taunted anyone before. I really am fond of this guy so I want to think and see it through before I make any decision on him. I think he can do better than you, you're comments about him are degrading, so why don't you go for a more built man? Leave him to someone who actually appreciates him, because you do not, won't and never will be able to.
thebrunette Posted July 13, 2008 Posted July 13, 2008 Wow you hit what I'm feeling on the spot! I've thought about exactly what you just wrote. I guess one thing though, is that I'm afraid that I might regret it if I stop seeing him after only 2 dates so I'm thinking to give it a few more dates first to see what happens...???? I don't think you're going to change your whole idea of sexiness in a few more dates, it's better to give the guy a chance to run free before he gets attached to you because I think you might end up upsetting him. You can't help what you do or don't find attractive, but you can help him by not hurting him. Just think about if roles were reversed, you wouldn't want to be someones 'trial'. Not meaning to sound harsh at all, I just think you might be trying to convince yourself that he'll grow on you, when he won't.
melodymatters Posted July 13, 2008 Posted July 13, 2008 I agree. I mean i've met some WONDERFUL men, BUT they we're not my type, and i just can't, can't, can't hug a gut. Call me shallow or call me realistic about my preferences, but it sounds like you're forcing yourself and that has never worked for me, at least.
xpaperxcutx Posted July 13, 2008 Posted July 13, 2008 You might not even come to like the guy. It's like forcing you to eat veggies when your preference is a hamburger.
Author gummybear Posted July 13, 2008 Author Posted July 13, 2008 I'm seeing him for lunch in 2 days. If I ain't feeling it then, sadly I will have to cut if off
Dark-N-Romantic Posted July 13, 2008 Posted July 13, 2008 You must see something in him though Gummybear, you said you were dating him. How serious are you two? Maybe you should have him go to a doctor to make sure he is okay. My best brother is like 6'5" and thin as a rail, but he is strong too. So, he might just be the extra skinny type. He must weigh like 160 to 180 lbs, he is just compacted muscle. DNR
Lookingforward Posted July 13, 2008 Posted July 13, 2008 I'm more for the taller heavier type (not fat just more heavily built) - I tried going against type with a tall skinny but wiry guy and it was never really "there" chemistry wise......
Shygirl15 Posted July 14, 2008 Posted July 14, 2008 I think he can do better than you, you're comments about him are degrading, so why don't you go for a more built man? Leave him to someone who actually appreciates him, because you do not, won't and never will be able to. ... or she can do better than him.
Storyrider Posted July 14, 2008 Posted July 14, 2008 You shouldn't date some one who looks better to you with his clothes on than with his clothes off. Taking someone's clothes off should reveal something better in your eyes.
Jake Barnes Posted July 14, 2008 Posted July 14, 2008 You shouldn't date some one who looks better to you with his clothes on than with his clothes off. Taking someone's clothes off should reveal something better in your eyes. Well I guess Im screwed then.....
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