Fun2BMe Posted July 13, 2008 Posted July 13, 2008 I recently had a nasty break up with a female friend. She showed her true colors and I found out she was totally using me and got real nasty when I didn't want to have anything more to do with her. During the friendship she encouraged me to confide my secrets to her and swore to keep them in secrecy, saying that since she's a therapist she was sworn to secrecy and I could trust her with anything (she was never my therapist though so now I don't know if that means she has to keep my info private by law or not). I told her very sensitive information that could damage my and others reputations. She has obviously blabbed about it to a sleezy blogger who has a reputation to 'out' people and ruin lives. I got an email alert this morning that he had written about somebody concerning my secret, I went to his website and he's written all my secrets, and has withheld my name but taunts the readers that if they really want evidence he can provide it for them. Only she knew these things, and I feel like she is now on a mission to ruin my life. I am going out of my mind - what can I do? I feel like I am sitting on a ticking timebomb waiting for everything to blow up on me.
Nemo Posted July 13, 2008 Posted July 13, 2008 Is the information really that juicy? I say forget about it. The sooner you forget about it, the sooner they will lose interest, get bored, and move on to their next target.
jerbear Posted July 13, 2008 Posted July 13, 2008 She is doing blackmail. If he is that good of a blogger, to get his source, send the blogger's butt to the jail. Either release the slanderous sources or deal with hiding the source due to journalist source. Put the blogger in a less and lesser evil situation. Force the source out.
Author Fun2BMe Posted July 13, 2008 Author Posted July 13, 2008 I really do appreciate that advice nemo. I was getting ready to send an angry email to her but it will only fuel her to reveal more and more. And if I email to the blogger, it'll only confirm that what she told him was true. I need to sit back and strategize at this point. And yes it is that juicy. Unfortunately I can't sit back and wait until more is revealed unless I don't care about my life and if it gets ruined. But I do have dirt on her too so I can ruin some things for her too but it won't be as bad at all in comparison.
Author Fun2BMe Posted July 13, 2008 Author Posted July 13, 2008 She is doing blackmail. If he is that good of a blogger, to get his source, send the blogger's butt to the jail. Either release the slanderous sources or deal with hiding the source due to journalist source. Put the blogger in a less and lesser evil situation. Force the source out. I'm not sure I understand what you are saying - that if he doesn't force out the source he goes to jail? that doesn't make sense. He's a pretty big blogger who has been interviewed on major news stations and has some books out. It's early morning here - I just couldn't sleep so that's why I'm up - but I am so scared once people start reading it and some may put pieces together to figure out it's about me. i hate that bi***.
jerbear Posted July 13, 2008 Posted July 13, 2008 Since she is a "professional" therapist, didn't she break the right of patient doctor relationship? If your friend did this to you, should could do this to others. I still say ask the blogger for more info and once it can infer it is you. Sic him for his source & get him for libel and slander. Then get her for libel.
jerbear Posted July 13, 2008 Posted July 13, 2008 I'm not sure I understand what you are saying - that if he doesn't force out the source he goes to jail? that doesn't make sense. He's a pretty big blogger who has been interviewed on major news stations and has some books out. It's early morning here - I just couldn't sleep so that's why I'm up - but I am so scared once people start reading it and some may put pieces together to figure out it's about me. i hate that bi***. What I'm saying is he has to get his info from sources. If he makes things up it falls under libel and slander. If he can't produce a source on libel and slander then his reputation falls, so what if he wrote books? If he libeled and slandered, how are those books of value? Since he is a pro and has written books, now it is a "rich" mans game; to the courts!
Author Fun2BMe Posted July 13, 2008 Author Posted July 13, 2008 What I'm saying is he has to get his info from sources. If he makes things up it falls under libel and slander. If he can't produce a source on libel and slander then his reputation falls, so what if he wrote books? If he libeled and slandered, how are those books of value? Since he is a pro and has written books, now it is a "rich" mans game; to the courts! Well his source is my friend so or course he could always say she told him so I don't see how that's an issue?
jerbear Posted July 13, 2008 Posted July 13, 2008 The thing is, she played and used you. You're playing her game. If you want the info to come down you'll have to change the rules of her game on her and force her to follow your rules. Since she doesn't have the money, she probably can't fight a libel or slander case? The blogger might but it will feed his blog. He will profit either way. The blogger is just a 3rd party. I'm all for a take down of the potentially slanderous info on the blogger's site. Sometimes it takes force to get something done. He provides the source and you out her. If you are a public person and this info came out, well that is part of being a local celebrity. The thing is, she challenged the queen and now she needs to get punished which is to "kill the challenger." There is a saying that, If you challenge the king, you'll have to kill the king. In your situation, you'll going to have to send her back into steerage. The other idea is to just let the scandalous info get out and just let it roll off your teflon exterior . Just let it go. If the blackmail info or discredit attempt does not work, guess what, she would no longer have control.
Lookingforward Posted July 13, 2008 Posted July 13, 2008 Since she is a "professional" therapist, didn't she break the right of patient doctor relationship? If your friend did this to you, should could do this to others. I still say ask the blogger for more info and once it can infer it is you. Sic him for his source & get him for libel and slander. Then get her for libel. Just a point - you can only sue for libel and or slander if the information is untrue......not simply because you didn't want it released. there is no doctor/patient confidentiality if the therapist is not her therapist....... what she revelaed was revealed as a "friend to friend" discission - no confidentiality issues
jerbear Posted July 13, 2008 Posted July 13, 2008 Just a point - you can only sue for libel and or slander if the information is untrue......not simply because you didn't want it released. there is no doctor/patient confidentiality if the therapist is not her therapist....... what she revelaed was revealed as a "friend to friend" discission - no confidentiality issues I know you point. My point is the blogger and the ex-friend. To out the ex-friend you get the blogger to release the source based on libel and slander charges IF he releases her name. If he doesn't the ex-friend knows the OP means business and will still get hers. Can't get the main person, hit her lieutenant. What is going to potentially happen is the OP "gives up" and contacts ex-friend and goes back under her control and being used due to her dirty laundry being displayed by the blogger. The OP's laundry is already out there because of the blog. Now it is time for the ex-friend to get her laundry out by discrediting her in the eyes of the public. Let the public decide, even if the "truth" is true, the ex-friend/therapist is routed out. It may hurt her business because if she outed a friend, what about them? Create the doubt in her clients. I am sure some of the ex-friend's clients maybe powerful so they can put HER in line. or both the OP and ex-friend in line. The ex-friend doesn't have the resources to fight but the OP does. It will be a pissing contest with the OP slated the out piss the ex-friend.
Lookingforward Posted July 13, 2008 Posted July 13, 2008 I know you point. My point is the blogger and the ex-friend. To out the ex-friend you get the blogger to release the source based on libel and slander charges IF he releases her name. If he doesn't the ex-friend knows the OP means business and will still get hers. Can't get the main person, hit her lieutenant. What is going to potentially happen is the OP "gives up" and contacts ex-friend and goes back under her control and being used due to her dirty laundry being displayed by the blogger. The OP's laundry is already out there because of the blog. Now it is time for the ex-friend to get her laundry out by discrediting her in the eyes of the public. Let the public decide, even if the "truth" is true, the ex-friend/therapist is routed out. It may hurt her business because if she outed a friend, what about them? Create the doubt in her clients. I am sure some of the ex-friend's clients maybe powerful so they can put HER in line. or both the OP and ex-friend in line. The ex-friend doesn't have the resources to fight but the OP does. It will be a pissing contest with the OP slated the out piss the ex-friend. The blogger isn't going to be fooled - if he's been doing it long enough he knos the laws too - he will know as I said that as long as it's true he has nothing to fear from libel/slander charges
Lookingforward Posted July 13, 2008 Posted July 13, 2008 I know you point. My point is the blogger and the ex-friend. To out the ex-friend you get the blogger to release the source based on libel and slander charges IF he releases her name. If he doesn't the ex-friend knows the OP means business and will still get hers. Can't get the main person, hit her lieutenant. What is going to potentially happen is the OP "gives up" and contacts ex-friend and goes back under her control and being used due to her dirty laundry being displayed by the blogger. The OP's laundry is already out there because of the blog. Now it is time for the ex-friend to get her laundry out by discrediting her in the eyes of the public. Let the public decide, even if the "truth" is true, the ex-friend/therapist is routed out. It may hurt her business because if she outed a friend, what about them? Create the doubt in her clients. I am sure some of the ex-friend's clients maybe powerful so they can put HER in line. or both the OP and ex-friend in line. The ex-friend doesn't have the resources to fight but the OP does. It will be a pissing contest with the OP slated the out piss the ex-friend. The blogger isn't going to be fooled - if he's been doing it long enough he knows the laws too - he will know as I said that as long as it's true he has nothing to fear from libel/slander charges
Lookingforward Posted July 13, 2008 Posted July 13, 2008 oops double post - not sure how that happend
jerbear Posted July 13, 2008 Posted July 13, 2008 The blogger isn't going to be fooled - if he's been doing it long enough he knos the laws too - he will know as I said that as long as it's true he has nothing to fear from libel/slander charges No kidding. I know that, I'm not after him. If he is willing to say it is the OP, then he has to "prove" it is not libel or slander, which would involve the source. If not a cease and desist kicks in, either way the OP would mean business. He releases the source, the ex-friend gets slapped. Blogger withholds, cease and desist, kicks in. The blogger will profit no matter what. The damage has already been done, the dirty laundry already out there. Even if a take down cease and desist is ordered, the info is still out there. The point is to get the ex-friend.
Trialbyfire Posted July 13, 2008 Posted July 13, 2008 If your name is never printed or posted, ignore it. You'll only fuel the gossip mill by acknowledging the information. Also, go talk to your arms-length (you know what I mean) legal counsel and get some advice.
Chrome Barracuda Posted July 13, 2008 Posted July 13, 2008 I recently had a nasty break up with a female friend. She showed her true colors and I found out she was totally using me and got real nasty when I didn't want to have anything more to do with her. During the friendship she encouraged me to confide my secrets to her and swore to keep them in secrecy, saying that since she's a therapist she was sworn to secrecy and I could trust her with anything (she was never my therapist though so now I don't know if that means she has to keep my info private by law or not). I told her very sensitive information that could damage my and others reputations. She has obviously blabbed about it to a sleezy blogger who has a reputation to 'out' people and ruin lives. I got an email alert this morning that he had written about somebody concerning my secret, I went to his website and he's written all my secrets, and has withheld my name but taunts the readers that if they really want evidence he can provide it for them. Only she knew these things, and I feel like she is now on a mission to ruin my life. I am going out of my mind - what can I do? I feel like I am sitting on a ticking timebomb waiting for everything to blow up on me. I'm sorry this has happened to you. some females can be super bitches. You need to stop being involved in this situation take yourself outta it.
Author Fun2BMe Posted July 13, 2008 Author Posted July 13, 2008 If your name is never printed or posted, ignore it. You'll only fuel the gossip mill by acknowledging the information. Also, go talk to your arms-length (you know what I mean) legal counsel and get some advice. This is what's killing me. I am going through so many friggin issues and my dam therapist is on vacation for the whole month of July which I think is BS and my sensitive issues are not stuff I can just go to anyone about which I don't want to get into here, but I told her before she left that she knows I can't go to any of the referal therapists she gave me while she is away. I can't believe she hasn't called to check in how I'm doing even once given all the stuff I had going on. Even my former therapist who I have issues with would call or text every few days while he was on vacation to check up on me so I'm not used to this "I'm outta here good luck" treatment. I am going our of my mind and am going to call my ex to help me out any minute now.
Author Fun2BMe Posted July 13, 2008 Author Posted July 13, 2008 I'm sorry this has happened to you. some females can be super bitches. You need to stop being involved in this situation take yourself outta it. Thanks to one of the previous posts I changed my mind about emailing the bitch and the blogger - that will only fuel things more and confirm things are true for their records in email form. One of the things he wrote is totally exagerated which pisses me off but that psycho girl is behind all of it. He's even disabled anyone from commenting on the story but I have a few tricks up my sleeve I'm planning on getting revenge in different ways for each of those losers so that gives me hope to look forward to. They won't be laughing for long. They're just digging their own graves.
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