Marriage, Vows. What do they really mean today?

[Curmudgeon]

Hey big cat. How is that lion's heart holding out? I pray all is well with you and your loved ones.

 

DNR

 

Thanks, DNR. We still have pulse and respiration

 

And you and yours?

[Chrome Barracuda]

Yes you do!

 

But CB, you said, "...it be a cold day in hell for me to ever get married!"

 

I hope you find her, or she finds you, and you change your tune!

 

I'm trying to let my guard down but it isnt easy, because everytime I start trusting a woman she goes and F's it all up. It aint easy.

 

but im trying.

[Order & Chaos]

I'm trying to let my guard down but it isnt easy, because everytime I start trusting a woman she goes and F's it all up. It aint easy.

 

but im trying.

 

Quite the martyr, how do you go on?

[Chrome Barracuda]

Quite the martyr, how do you go on?

 

 

I move on by not dwelling on it and take women on a case by case basis. There's a lot of good women out there that's no doubt but I'm not with them because their taken and I have mch more respect for myself not to be the OM.

 

I dont know if that comment was sacastic or sardonic but it wasnt appreciated. but whatever.

[SunnySideUp]

1) What does the vows mean to you? Are they real or fiction? Do they mean anything to you (please explain)?

 

The vows to me are a reminder that you've promised to stay with this person through thick and thin, and to only be with them.

2) What are your concepts of marriage? What does it really mean to you?

 

Marriage is like saying "we're in this together, until the possibly bitter end, and we're going to try our best to stay content with each other."

3) How many of you who are or were married, after you got married realized you really did not know what you were in for?

 

I definitely did not realize what it would be like. Does anyone really? That's part of the process to me. You struggle with it and with problems and question the marriage, then realize this is just what it's like, there is conflict and there ARE resolutions to problems that arise. I think you have to really open yourself up and accept new things and grow with the other person.

4) Do you believe that it is important to take certain steps prior to marriage to help have better odds for the survival of the marriage (i.e. you and your spouse getting to know each other's family and friends, counseling, sitting down and seriously discussing what are your expectations from the marriage, etc.)? If so, what are they?

 

Yes! All of those suggestions sound good. The expectations part especially.

5) What are the things you think are a must in a marriage?

 

Fidelity

Repsect

Trust

Humor

Friendship

[Haloandhorns85]

I move on by not dwelling on it and take women on a case by case basis. There's a lot of good women out there that's no doubt but I'm not with them because their taken and I have mch more respect for myself not to be the OM.

 

That's quite refreshing to hear. I know so many men that just because one woman f'ed them over.."all women are evil b*tches"! My man is one of em! After three years together, I think I've just about got him convinced I'm in the Good Woman catagory!! Lol! BTW...we met at Wal-Mart! Maybe you could look there!