Ever worked full time with the guy you want to break it off with?

[cjanee]

I thought I would ask people if they have ever had experience with this and how did they deal with it.

 

Recently things have gone from bad to worse at work with this guy I got involved with. It is clear that things need to end.

 

He back stabbed me to a co worker and listened to this worker talk crap about me for several months which just came out with my boss a few weeks back. My co worker admitted that he too was talking about me to him. I found this to be the ultimate betrayal especially since I had been telling this guy the frustrations I was having with my co worker(pillow talk).

 

He bullies me in meetings and tries to take sides with this co worker who doesn't like me. The last meeting I got into an argument with co worker and a staff complained to boss, (thats how bad it was).

 

He informs me that the boss wants him and that he could have her in the sack at anytime even though she is married and has two kids,(that is an example of the kind of boss I have). He is such a ladies man (not)

 

He and I became lovers with no committment and I found out he has been playing me while in or atleast doing the same thing to his ex. Telling her no committment or involved with her the whole time.

 

Needless to say I did not speak to him for three weeks when I discovered that he was talking about me to this co worker (who admitted that this had been happening once the boss called it). For some reason this was the bottom line for me regardless of the roller coaster ride we have been on emotionally, like " I could see myself with you when I settle, but not right now crap."

 

Things got ugly at work. It was like he was in competition with me. He set up a party that everyone went to and did not invite me.

 

He came to work the next day and proceeded to show everyone the pics of him necking with the other woman in the office and really rubbed it in my face. This was while we were not talking. Apparently the boss said I was really jealous and was also getting some sick satisfaction out of it!

 

Finally he approached me and tried to talk me out of what he did by saying it was his duty to listen to my coworker. "It's a team thing."

 

To avoid the hostile and nasty nature of this man. I pretended like we were cool.

As of late he has been trying to get me in the sack again. I have said no.

 

This guy is a real charmer when he wants to be. If it is on his terms and he is going to get something out of it. It dosen't seem to matter what I say about him, (since I know the truth), everyone absolutely loves him! I have even wondered if he is sleeping or has slept with the boss. My boss slept with her last manager while married.

 

I am worried about how I am going to deal with this at work. I have no protection. My boss loves him and if I take it higher I will be pegged as the back stabber of the office because I went above my boss's head. I am very isolated in this. I have started seeing a counselor through work.

Yes I am looking for work! but what do I do in the meantime?

 

This has been hell