purplepoodle Posted July 12, 2008 Posted July 12, 2008 A mutual acquantaince of mine and X is having a party tonight. I have been making plans for weeks with friends to go, even bought a snazzy new outfit. He texts me just now telling me him and his new GF are going!! He ends it with see you later tonight. Should I cancel my plans? How can I handle seeing them all over each other?
saraispiel19 Posted July 12, 2008 Posted July 12, 2008 Hmm. Why would he text you saying that? I find that a little odd. Anywho- If you bail (he'll know why guys aren't stupid) you'll look like a sap. So put on your snazzy little outfit go doll yourself up be yourself don't try to be like every other ex on the planet trying to "show him what he's missing"- it's p l a y e d o u t. Have a great night and enjoy it!
Author purplepoodle Posted July 12, 2008 Author Posted July 12, 2008 Of course there is no showing him what he's missing. He has held my hair back while I puked. I think he knows everything there is to know about me, good and bad. He knows who and what I am. LOL Can someone tellme how I can get rid of the ! on top of this reply? I'm not sure how it got there.
saraispiel19 Posted July 12, 2008 Posted July 12, 2008 ah well good for you. like I said have fun and by all means eck don't compare yourself to the new girl- as ugly or as pretty she may be it is never good. I've had many many friends that have done that and well they became a bigger mess. Good luck to ya!
Author purplepoodle Posted July 12, 2008 Author Posted July 12, 2008 I am afraid I am not going to be able to help but to compare myself.
saraispiel19 Posted July 12, 2008 Posted July 12, 2008 I am afraid I am not going to be able to help but to compare myself. oh snap! Well I hope she's a doozie!
Nevermind Posted July 12, 2008 Posted July 12, 2008 Just think of her as the new girl who is unaware of his internet sex buddies. Think of her as the girl you were when you first met your ex and think of the heart-ache that she might have to go through as well. Then forget her. Smile and enjoy your life. He is just a remainder of the past, pretty maybe but out-dated. Try to have fun!
orangehose Posted July 12, 2008 Posted July 12, 2008 Just think of her as the new girl who is unaware of his internet sex buddies. Exactly, just remember what a yucky guy he is and what she has in store for her. Try to will yourself into a state of mild antipathy towards him beforehand - repeat to yourself, 'eww, this gross guy i used to date is going to be there, along with some poor chick who doesn't know what she's getting into!' But I very much understand it's hard to be so blase about it. You should still go - you've wanted to for weeks!
ladyinlimbo Posted July 12, 2008 Posted July 12, 2008 Just curious - why on earth would he be so rude as to send you a txt msg to advise you that him and his new gal-pal will be at the same party you'll be attending? What a totally pr*ckish move on his part. If I was you, I'd get your cell # changed so that he's no longer able to txt you. He sounds like a real prize. Not.
Wonderlandless Posted July 12, 2008 Posted July 12, 2008 You better go and show that boy what he is missing! Nothing feels better than showing yourself off to an ex when you look better than before! Touch up your roots, wax your eyebrows, get a facial. Just make sure you glow, babe! Then, when you do go, politely acknowledge him, but don't hang all over him. Remember, you're the good-looking ex who is moving on with her life and looking faaaabulouuuus.
saraispiel19 Posted July 13, 2008 Posted July 13, 2008 You better go and show that boy what he is missing! Nothing feels better than showing yourself off to an ex when you look better than before! That is a complete waste of time and energy-most girls that do that have self esteem or acceptance issues (really think about it- your getting dressed up for him in a sense and utimitaly still want his acceptance). If she wants to look pretty- hey go right ahead, but going out of her way to "show him what he's missing" is, well, very childish.
Wonderlandless Posted July 14, 2008 Posted July 14, 2008 "If she wants to look pretty- hey go right ahead, but going out of her way to "show him what he's missing" is, well, very childish" Not if she looks better than his current fling. But whatever you say. I think its a rush to see him enviously eying you over the new fling.
saraispiel19 Posted July 14, 2008 Posted July 14, 2008 Not if she looks better than his current fling.. and if she doesn't? in the end the other girl either is skinnier, taller, has bigger boobs, or nicer hair, sometimes it's all of that--- it's just setting yourself up for a date with Häagen-Dazs and "They Way We Were".
Wonderlandless Posted July 14, 2008 Posted July 14, 2008 I don't think there is anything wrong with her spiffying herself up a little extra knowing the ex is going to be there. But, go ahead, take Sara's advice and just dress like a bag lady who doesn't care...it screams "HEY I HAVE SELF-CONFIDENCE!".
saraispiel19 Posted July 14, 2008 Posted July 14, 2008 I don't think there is anything wrong with her spiffying herself up a little extra knowing the ex is going to be there. But, go ahead, take Sara's advice and just dress like a bag lady who doesn't care...it screams "HEY I HAVE SELF-CONFIDENCE!". Oh no no you've been mistakend. It's one thing to dress up for yourself to feel good about yourself and another for her to get all fixated on what he's going to see. If you read my first post you would've known that I did not intend it in that manner. Jumping to conclusions is just being primitive.
Wonderlandless Posted July 14, 2008 Posted July 14, 2008 Jumping to conclusions is just being primitive. Jumping to conclusions that I didn't read your first post is also being primitive.
saraispiel19 Posted July 14, 2008 Posted July 14, 2008 Just shut up wonderless! We just have different views, that's it. The end. I am not looking for an online "fight", if you are go look elsewhere.
LikeCharlotte Posted July 14, 2008 Posted July 14, 2008 I was wondering how it went for you purple. Did you go? Are you feeling good about your choice?
Lizzie60 Posted July 14, 2008 Posted July 14, 2008 You better go and show that boy what he is missing! Nothing feels better than showing yourself off to an ex when you look better than before! Touch up your roots, wax your eyebrows, get a facial. Just make sure you glow, babe! Then, when you do go, politely acknowledge him, but don't hang all over him. Remember, you're the good-looking ex who is moving on with her life and looking faaaabulouuuus. I totally agree here.. and I would go one step further.. ('hire' a knock-out to accompany you).. and just watch the look on his face.. (I'm thinking about a movie)... Just go and acknowledge him and his new gf.. then ignore him for the rest of the evening.. not one look towards him... for the rest of the evening..
Wonderlandless Posted July 14, 2008 Posted July 14, 2008 Hahaha, oh Sara, you were the one who started it. But, you're right, we have different views. Anyway, back to the topic at hand. Did you go? Did you dress up really nice and enjoy the look on his face when he saw you?
saraispiel19 Posted July 14, 2008 Posted July 14, 2008 I totally agree here.. and I would go one step further.. ('hire' a knock-out to accompany you).. and just watch the look on his face.. (I'm thinking about a movie)... the wedding date perhaps with debra messing;)
Author purplepoodle Posted July 14, 2008 Author Posted July 14, 2008 Looked gorgeous, but for myself. Like I said earlier, the man sat next to me in the hospital before and has held my hair back while I puked, so he knows how breathtaking I can be as well as how skanky I can look. I felt sad seeing him, all of the times he kept walking by me. Only saw her once. He texted me again today and asked why I didn't talk to him. Got hit on a few times, which was fun.
saraispiel19 Posted July 15, 2008 Posted July 15, 2008 Aw, well that's great- without a doubt it was going to be at least a little harsh on your heart. It's great to hear you had a nice time. Hmm-- why does he still contact you, do you wish to remain friends or something (obviously you guys have been through a lot), but don't you think it's best to just cut him off completely since there is more emotion involved...I wonder if the new gal is alright with this too..ho hum just a thought Goodluck to ya and keep on postin'!
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