porter218 Posted July 12, 2008 Posted July 12, 2008 What are you talking about? I am listening to everyone's advice, but I am getting conflicting opinions so I am asking people to clarify. You think I should tell him, porter thinks I shouldn't. I haven't made a choice yet and I don't know WHAT I want to do. How have I in any way made it sound like I am just looking for a certain answer? I think I am being very honest in this thread about myself and my reasons for doing what I did and I have even agreed that I could use therapy. I am just debating out loud here the pros and cons to help me decide what to do. I'm kind of insulted that you think I am just looking for support on whatever decision I made (I guess you are saying I decided not to tell him?) and won't listen to anyone else. I have tried to be honest and consider everyone's opinion in every response I have made to this thread. I think you are really jumping the gun with snooping already so early in this relationship. I think you shouldn't worry about telling him. Just try to work on trusting him. I think he feels like he has already told you about the ADD in his own way. I am pretty certain this is a trust worthy guy so just start believing him. I think that when you snooped through his bag the first time it was like opening Pandora's box and you haven't been able to close it since. Relax and start to enjoy your relationship instead of sabotaging it. If things work out for you two then tell him about it in passing, joke about how ridiculous you were "way back then". Just don't do it again unless you have a good reason.
Author endlesstrains Posted July 12, 2008 Author Posted July 12, 2008 In the begining you wanted to tell him half truth and now that you found a way around it you'd appealed to you. Sorry if the past remark sounded condescending that was not my intention- I just love it how computer set out the wrong tone. However if you want to beat around the bush go right ahead in the end it's your desicion. I was just responding to what porter said, asking questions about it, etc. I never once said that was what I was going to do or what I wanted to do. I don't know why so many people come on here with an agenda. I wouldn't have posted here if I already knew what I wanted to do. Anyway, I talked about it with a family member who I trust and I am going to take the advice they have given me. And I'm going to close this thread (if that's possible on this board) because I don't feel like being insulted for trying to make a careful decision (which I still had not made until I talked to my family member.)
saraispiel19 Posted July 13, 2008 Posted July 13, 2008 Anyway, I talked about it with a family member who I trust and I am going to take the advice they have given me. well goodluck to ya! And I'm going to close this thread (if that's possible on this board) because I don't feel like being insulted for trying to make a careful decision You shouldn't feel offended nobody including myself have not been insulting you in any way- If it may have seemed so I'm sorry you were mistakend. (which I still had not made until I talked to my family member.) I thought you said that you already talked to them? (first quote)
Lizzie60 Posted July 13, 2008 Posted July 13, 2008 I didn't read the whole thread so I don't know how long you two have been together.. but I have to confess that I would be a huge snooper too, if I was with someone.. I would just need to know what's going on.. why would he hide things that he shouldn't hide in the first place. So snoop all you want.. I would...
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