cjanee Posted July 12, 2008 Posted July 12, 2008 Ladies, have you read the RULES Book? or Men Who Love Bitches by Sherry Argove? What do people think of these books?
LucreziaBorgia Posted July 12, 2008 Posted July 12, 2008 I'm not a big fan of the Rules, but the Bitches book is ok. It tries to lead women to be more confident and emotionally self sufficient. Makes sense that someone would be attracted to that - confidence and emotional self sufficiency for women AND men are a must for a healthy relationship. Men usually don't want to date a woman who relies entirely on him for her emotional well being and sense of security and self worth. Those are the types that call ten times a day, demand that he call that often, who are jealous, insecure, clingy and so on. Too much of a burden. What is the fun in chasing a woman who drapes herself over a man like a dreary wet blanket? He wants the woman he has to chase: the woman who wants him and chooses him rather than needs him. The Rules are mostly superficial and silly in comparison to what the Bitches book has to say IMO.
Author cjanee Posted July 12, 2008 Author Posted July 12, 2008 yes I agree the bitch book makes sense. The rules book is a bit extreme and not always realistic.
Tomcat33 Posted July 12, 2008 Posted July 12, 2008 Oh my god AGAIN? Another thread about the Rules book? This book is like 20 yrs old and people are still going about this crap? Enough already! I am going to write a book called the Rules Rule. It will consist of one page and in it it will say Rule #1 No more talking about The Rules. Follow this rule and you will live your life happily ever after.
Author cjanee Posted July 12, 2008 Author Posted July 12, 2008 LMAO why don't you tell me how you really feel ha ha... Just curious... gotcha
xpaperxcutx Posted July 12, 2008 Posted July 12, 2008 I've actually never read "The Rules"... but I remember the Archive had it posted on there somewhere... but the Bitch book is empowering. I bought it and read it in one sitting. It really gave me alot of perspective on how I can avoid being a doormat.
Author cjanee Posted July 12, 2008 Author Posted July 12, 2008 I hear you on that. Its the best book I think I have ever read when it comes to dating.
Tomcat33 Posted July 12, 2008 Posted July 12, 2008 LMAO why don't you tell me how you really feel ha ha... Just curious... gotcha Sorry CJ meant no offense it's just that it has been talked about to death and inevitably people start arguing about it and men get very upset about the Rules. Dig up some threads and see. Haven't read either but know the general concepts. In what I have seen I think the Biiitch book is prob more realistic to what men tend to respond to, The Rules just seems like a game for the desperate. And you don't get anywhere playing games in life. But a little Biitchiness, in the sense of how the book presents it not just a princess biiitch, seems to go a long way. I am a bit of a "Biitch" myself so I also speak from experience.
Author cjanee Posted July 12, 2008 Author Posted July 12, 2008 No offense taken. Thats why I asked. I have friends that respond quite passionately to The Rules book so was actually curious to how people would respond. I read it and didn't like it. It seemed totally unrealistic. I also joined a forum for it and the women on there were extremely harsh.
Tomcat33 Posted July 12, 2008 Posted July 12, 2008 No offense taken. Thats why I asked. I have friends that respond quite passionately to The Rules book so was actually curious to how people would respond. I read it and didn't like it. It seemed totally unrealistic. I also joined a forum for it and the women on there were extremely harsh. WOW there's a forum about the Rules? NOW you have totally peaked my interest!! I bet you see all kinds of stuff on there.. Is it women only or guys too? If it is co-ed I can imagine a lot of arguing happening. And do these women follow the rules to a T? What a train wreck!!
Author cjanee Posted July 12, 2008 Author Posted July 12, 2008 Lol! It is strictly for ladies. Apparently there are some hardcore ring leaders that follow the rules or did to the T and are now married leading the way. They refer to NC as "bootcamp." While in "bootcamp," if you break a rule you can actually be asked to leave! There is a series of rules that have been set up for bootcamp that I don't believe are all in the book. I did find that some of it worked. However, the bigger picture is missing, like why do you want this idiot to call in the first place etc.
HiItsMe Posted July 12, 2008 Posted July 12, 2008 Ladies, have you read the RULES Book? or Men Who Love Bitches by Sherry Argove? What do people think of these books? The Rules....there are none....just something someone to make money off of.
Jilly Bean Posted July 12, 2008 Posted July 12, 2008 Enough already! I am going to write a book called the Rules Rule. It will consist of one page and in it it will say Rule #1 No more talking about The Rules. Follow this rule and you will live your life happily ever after. I thought we were working on sister companion books on My Vagina. My Curse and My Power...
Author cjanee Posted July 12, 2008 Author Posted July 12, 2008 Sorry Jilly bean.. I'm new here and had no idea that this topic had been done to death peace
Jilly Bean Posted July 12, 2008 Posted July 12, 2008 Sorry Jilly bean.. I'm new here and had no idea that this topic had been done to death peace Oh, I have no problem with it, hon! I actually like a lot of what The Rules said. Some of it was terribly 1950's, but I am traditional when it comes to courtship. I know for me, I have had more luck being receptive, than the pursuer. When I have aggressively pursued men, it hasn't worked well. I ascribe a lot more to the John Gray Mars/Venus philosophies, which believes in gender specific roles, but with a bit of a modern twist. It doesn't preach for women to have such hard rules, but it does support why a man prefers a certain role and does well with it in dating, and same for women. Pick up Mars/Venus on a Date. It goes through all the phases of dating through engagement, and advises on how best men and women navigate the waters and what motivates the actions from each. Fascinating read!
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