Trialbyfire Posted July 12, 2008 Posted July 12, 2008 That is soo silly. I have not seen many men secure in being single. I on the other hand LOVE it. I am actually married at the moment. But sometimes I really miss coming home to an empty house, not having to call anyone, sleeping across the whole bed, waking up by myself. I really did enjoy the times that I was single, and had nobody to worry about. This is why I really didn't like being bothered at the gym. The 2 men that I had met at a gym and dated had a different approach then the rest. They would see me coming in for many months without saying anything, then eventually started saying "have a good night" as we were both walking to our cars at the same time. Never did they bother me while i was inside the gym. Maybe a smile towards me as I came in the gym but no words. Conversation would slowly start over a long period of time, but only on the walk to the car. Until finally I was asked out then had a 1yr relationship with one and a 3yr relationship with the other. I just want someone to respect the fact that my time at the gym is a sacred time for me to relieve the stress of my crazy life, I don't want to be bothered while inside this place. It is kind of like church to me. And even when I dated these guys there was not hardly any conversation while I was working out, still only after I showered, "decompressed", and on my way out. That's because men like bones feel that the ultimate in life for women is to "get a man". He's so ridiculous and transparent.
Trialbyfire Posted July 12, 2008 Posted July 12, 2008 TrialbyFire....could you just go ahead and put the WHOLE list on here....you know...so that we may scrutinize it? (just kidding) Nope, not going to do it 'cause it's my personal list. There are non-negotiables and negotiables on it. As for the gym, the last thing I want to do is to be hit on when I'm working out. Not everyone feels that socializing is necessary in every place. This is okay, y'know?
bones1 Posted July 12, 2008 Posted July 12, 2008 LOL... I know the definitions of the words...Do you? What kind of creeps do you surround yourself with that you feel that those are hard traits to find? How do you know if a man embodies that immediately anyway? You would have to actually date someone for a while to find out. Lets take morality... So you have a morality meter, and they have to be at the same exact level as you? And of course, their level of morality will never change under different circumstances? And obviously when you just throw vague terms out there, nobody understands what you mean.
porter218 Posted July 12, 2008 Posted July 12, 2008 TrialbyFire....could you just go ahead and put the WHOLE list on here....you know...so that we may scrutinize it? (just kidding) Hey my list is god awful long too. I didn't care that it crossed a lot of men off my list, because having a man in my life is not the highest thing on my list of priorities. I can take it or leave. My favorite person to spend time with is ME, I love myself, nobody but my son supersedes my love for me:D.
Trialbyfire Posted July 12, 2008 Posted July 12, 2008 LOL... I know the definitions of the words...Do you? What kind of creeps do you surround yourself with that you feel that those are hard traits to find? How do you know if a man embodies that immediately anyway? You would have to actually date someone for a while to find out. Lets take morality... So you have a morality meter, and they have to be at the same exact level as you? And of course, their level of morality will never change under different circumstances? And obviously when you just throw vague terms out there, nobody understands what you mean. Since you interpreted all three terms to mean "lie", apparently you don't understand them at all, therefore couldn't possibly hope to understand where I'm coming from.
bones1 Posted July 12, 2008 Posted July 12, 2008 Yes, unless you are some alien mutant female from another planet, chances are you are MUCH more complete with a partner. You are asexual? You don't like sex? Can't love? Don't have an instinct to reproduce? Don't have a period? (What do you think that is for?) Don't like intimacy? So when you are 80, you would rather look back on life and say "Well I never had a man that loved me. I have no family. But I worked a lot and have these cats!" Or, would you rather look back and say "I felt the love of a man everyday, I have kids and grandkids" If your choice is A, then you must be an alien.
CaliGuy Posted July 12, 2008 Posted July 12, 2008 Nope. I have a 400 ft scroll full of requirements which at the top of the list includes some of the most stringent moral requirements which most men aren't capable of meeting. If I die an old maid, so be it. I won't settle for less. TBF, I bet I'd meet about 399ft of those requirements. But I'm with ya. Just casually date. No expectations is best.
Trialbyfire Posted July 12, 2008 Posted July 12, 2008 TBF, I bet I'd meet about 399ft of those requirements. But I'm with ya. Just casually date. No expectations is best. I'm sure you could Cali!
Storyrider Posted July 12, 2008 Posted July 12, 2008 TBF, I bet I'd meet about 399ft of those requirements. What is the one you couldn't meet?
porter218 Posted July 12, 2008 Posted July 12, 2008 Yes, unless you are some alien mutant female from another planet, chances are you are MUCH more complete with a partner. You are asexual? You don't like sex? Can't love? Don't have an instinct to reproduce? Don't have a period? (What do you think that is for?) Don't like intimacy? So when you are 80, you would rather look back on life and say "Well I never had a man that loved me. I have no family. But I worked a lot and have these cats!" Or, would you rather look back and say "I felt the love of a man everyday, I have kids and grandkids" If your choice is A, then you must be an alien. LOL. You are one funny guy. Well I really don't fit into anything you just said. And I hate cats. I am a dog person. I am pregnant and already have a 3 year old son, so I have that whole reproduction thing down. I love sex, have it 2-3 times a day but I can also easily live without it If I am not in a relationship. I would never be able to say that I never felt the love of a man. Even my ex fiance from when I was 18 still loves me above all others, and many other exs of mine feel like that. My H would rather die then not have me, so I will never know what it is like to not be loved. But really I don't care if I have someone or not because I love myself and enjoy the life that I have made for myself. I am a complete person, nobody has to do that for me. Who knows, maybe I am some alien mutant female. But I really don't think that I am that abnormal.
CaliGuy Posted July 12, 2008 Posted July 12, 2008 What is the one you couldn't meet? Oh I dunno, I'm not perfect so.... lol
bones1 Posted July 12, 2008 Posted July 12, 2008 Porter, you must be confused with the thread... You are married with children, obviously I am not talking about you. What are you trying to say? You wish you never had your kids? or dont care either way? Its just not that important in life?
Trialbyfire Posted July 12, 2008 Posted July 12, 2008 Yes, unless you are some alien mutant female from another planet, chances are you are MUCH more complete with a partner. You are asexual? You don't like sex? Can't love? Don't have an instinct to reproduce? Don't have a period? (What do you think that is for?) Don't like intimacy? So when you are 80, you would rather look back on life and say "Well I never had a man that loved me. I have no family. But I worked a lot and have these cats!" Or, would you rather look back and say "I felt the love of a man everyday, I have kids and grandkids" If your choice is A, then you must be an alien. If you consider who you've settled for, a woman with no job, is sponging off you, won't do anything around the house and can't get up in the morning, no wonder you have issues when women have criteria. Carry on with your wonderful and happy existence!
porter218 Posted July 12, 2008 Posted July 12, 2008 Porter, you must be confused with the thread... You are married with children, obviously I am not talking about you. What are you trying to say? You wish you never had your kids? or dont care either way? Its just not that important in life? No not at all confused. I am talking about before I was married, and while I was separated for 9 months. But still I get bothered by men at the gym currently, I don't feel I should have to tell them I am married..I wish they would just let me work-out. Do you really think that all those women you are trying to converse with are single. A good majority are not.
Tomcat33 Posted July 12, 2008 Posted July 12, 2008 I wonder if women who make these kinds of statements are actually lesbi and/dyke OR a misandarist OR, has selective misnadrism (only likes it when an ATTRACTIVE man hits on her....ether it be the gym or anywhere else) Of course, I have heard some people would rather focus on their workouts, and that's understandable...I let them be if they appear focus...but if they are cooling off at the front desk or something I don't see why not. But it's remarks like this that concern me about some U.S. single women Women like this are just women who have completely lost the ability to have and be fun, so either way you are better off without someone like them. They often take themselves WAY too seriously and are more than likely a stick in the mud. I have absolutely NO problem being hit on anywhere, any social place is fair game and I don't look down on a man that has the courage to step to me and test the waters. I have been hit on taking public transit, at work, at the gym, shopping, on the street, you name it and I would never look down on a man that tries to get to know me in an unconventional setting. And though I may not be interested in him I would never make him feel bad for hitting on me since I can respect it takes a great deal of courage to do the unconventional and I can respect a man that goes out of his way like that. Why would anyone meet another human being who shows interest in them with negative resistance? Their worst crime is that they like you and you want to punish them for that? Makes no sense to me. Having said that, if a guy becomes persistent after you politely decline, that to me is not cool. Since what I also respect in guys is a guy who actually "gets it" so if he doesn't get it that would only make me like him even less so it would be a lose/lose for him anyway. PS I understand why it would be pointless for commited women to be hit on at the gym but still consider yourself lucky that men still find you attractive enough they want to get to know you. Some day when we are old and feel like no one looks at us anymore we might just miss the attention ;-)
bones1 Posted July 12, 2008 Posted July 12, 2008 Tomcat exactly. Yes Trial, at least I have sex, companionship, and fun. With a hot, educated, intelligent, and wealthy girl that speaks 4 languages that lived in Paris, Switzerland and NYC. So there are pluses and minuses. If it doesn't work, so be it, I am living life and learning. Since she always had maids she never had to learn how to cook and clean. In my opinion, that is far better than never having sex, being alone, and claiming to have a 400 ft long list of requirements while sitting on dating sites saying how nobody can match what I am looking for.
Trialbyfire Posted July 12, 2008 Posted July 12, 2008 Tomcat exactly. Yes Trial, at least I have sex, companionship, and fun. With a hot, educated, intelligent, and wealthy girl that speaks 4 languages that lived in Paris, Switzerland and NYC. So there are pluses and minuses. If it doesn't work, so be it, I am living life and learning. Since she always had maids she never had to learn how to cook and clean. In my opinion, that is far better than never having sex, being alone, and claiming to have a 400 ft long list of requirements while sitting on dating sites saying how nobody can match what I am looking for. I highly recommend that you start a list of criteria for future reference. Daddy's money isn't your money. Anyone who sponges off someone else and is too lazy to do anything, needs a reality check. You've settled for the superficial and shallow. I can see you're very happy with it. You get what you pay for!!
bones1 Posted July 12, 2008 Posted July 12, 2008 Trial... You cant blame someone for what they are born into, or other circumstances that happen in their life. Things you would have no idea about. Anyway, I would rather support someone interesting, than marry a boring worker bee who pays half of the dinner bill. Once again superficial and shallow is subjective,,, Claiming you have a list 400 ft long for a mate seems superficial and shallow to me. If things don't work out it is a learning experience. If you don't give others a chance, you won't learn anything. As an example, you might be 35 and still have this silly list idea.(I am sure it will be much shorter) And I tend to follow my heart, not my head at all times. So shoot me. However I would rather meet a woman like that than a cold fish judging people according to her "list". Once again its love, not buying a car.
Trialbyfire Posted July 12, 2008 Posted July 12, 2008 Trial... You cant blame someone for what they are born into, or other circumstances that happen in their life. Things you would have no idea about. Anyway, I would rather support someone interesting, than marry a boring worker bee who pays half of the dinner bill. Once again superficial and shallow is subjective,,, Claiming you have a list 400 ft long for a mate seems superficial and shallow to me. If things don't work out it is a learning experience. If you don't give others a chance, you won't learn anything. As an example, you might be 35 and still have this silly list idea.(I am sure it will be much shorter) And I tend to follow my heart, not my head at all times. So shoot me. However I would rather meet a woman like that than a cold fish judging people according to her "list". Once again its love, not buying a car. Since you don't know my financial status, you're making judgements based on thin air, as you've been doing all along in this thread! I wish you well with your shallow and superficial relationship. Once again, enjoy!
Tomcat33 Posted July 12, 2008 Posted July 12, 2008 Once again superficial and shallow is subjective,,, Claiming you have a list 400 ft long for a mate seems superficial and shallow to me. Have to agree with you on that, you cannot seriously have a 400ft long list of expectations and not consider yourself shallow. I just don't see how you can point the finger the other way if you do?
bones1 Posted July 12, 2008 Posted July 12, 2008 Tomcat exactly... Superficial and shallow sums up anyone who has a gigantic list of requirements they expect others to meet to date them. Of course, they can only post the obvious that EVERYONE seeks in a mate, "moral, sense of humor, integrity, intelligent, honor" lol. Like ANYBODY says "I want a mate who is immoral, with no sense of humor, dumb, and with no honor or integrity" I can tell you really don't need a man! I mean thats why you go on dates and over analyze every little thing, then post it on LS. Wow, you really don't need a man!
Trialbyfire Posted July 12, 2008 Posted July 12, 2008 Tomcat exactly... Superficial and shallow sums up anyone who has a gigantic list of requirements they expect others to meet to date them. Of course, they can only post the obvious that EVERYONE seeks in a mate, "moral, sense of humor, integrity, intelligent, honor" lol. Like ANYBODY says "I want a mate who is immoral, with no sense of humor, dumb, and with no honor or integrity" I can tell you really don't need a man! I mean thats why you go on dates and over analyze every little thing, then post it on LS. Wow, you really don't need a man! I don't want just any man, particularly one like you. I'm interested in someone who can be a partner, not my bankroll...
bones1 Posted July 12, 2008 Posted July 12, 2008 Well you have neither, lol.. A guy needs to have every trait on a 400 ft list to match up to you? Lets hope he doesn't have a 400 ft list if you actually meet him. His might list might say 36dd and blond. Would he be "superficial", or really commendable for not settling..
Trialbyfire Posted July 12, 2008 Posted July 12, 2008 Well you have neither, lol.. A guy needs to have every trait on a 400 ft list to match up to you? Lets hope he doesn't have a 400 ft list if you actually meet him. There's no doubt you couldn't hope to match my criteria. I sincerely doubt you could match one of them.
bones1 Posted July 12, 2008 Posted July 12, 2008 Well I am in good company, because as of yet no man on Earth seems to have matched your criteria, and also liked you in return. Just wait a few years, and that list will magically shrink..
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