HiItsMe Posted July 12, 2008 Posted July 12, 2008 I saw this as one of the responses to a thread in this message board..... to a woman wondering first of all about some guy striking up a conversation with a woman at the gym. And was gauging his level of interest.....since she apparently didn't have a problem with it...she was just trying to figure out if the guy was interested in her. Apparently and obviously this woman didn't think he was creepy<shrug> If that's the case, I guess I'm guilty of being a straight, heterosexual male then, either that or a "so-called creepy guy". Depending on who you ask. I admit it, after years of having a member ship at the gym, and having gotten to know people after being there a time....call me "creepy" That the gym is somehow a "Sancturary". It's remarks made by women like this that really do themselves a disservice in the dating world. Probably a bra-burner as well. I wonder if women who make these kinds of statements are actually lesbi and/dyke OR a misandarist OR, has selective misnadrism (only likes it when an ATTRACTIVE man hits on her....ether it be the gym or anywhere else) Of course, I have heard some people would rather focus on their workouts, and that's understandable...I let them be if they appear focus...but if they are cooling off at the front desk or something I don't see why not. But it's remarks like this that concern me about some U.S. single women
cutegirl Posted July 12, 2008 Posted July 12, 2008 Also, some single U.S women are not interested in meeting any men (attractive or not) and wish to remain single. No one is obligated to talk to you. No one is obligated to even be polite to you. No one is obligated to have anything to do with you. I don't understand why someone would get so offended just because a woman wants nothing to do with you or conversate with you. It is my prerogative to be left alone and not talk to you. Has it dawned on you that some women LIKE to be single and CHOOSE to be single and have no interest in meeting any males? That doesn't mean they are lesbians. Perhaps they just prefer their vibrator to you? AND?
MaxManwell Posted July 12, 2008 Posted July 12, 2008 A lot of women are selfish and are lesbians. Very selfish and I hope that they 'chose' to be single for so long that their ovaries dry up and they die alone. Spend their last few years in misery. Sobbing and weeping bitterly at the life they have missed. Straighten up lesbos or you will die bitter, somber old women with dried up ovaries and no children.
LoveDeluxe78 Posted July 12, 2008 Posted July 12, 2008 Actually my guy friends have told me this. I work out with them a lot, and my brothers too, and they see girls they want to talk to, but don't because they are afraid of being thought of that way. I personally don't agree with it, I'm just saying maybe guys feel that women feel this way. A really nice guy at the gym saw me working out wearing my SF Giants t-shirt and asked me out for a game. It was an amazing date!!! In addition, when I say pick up, I am referring to lines that may be expected in a bar or a club, but NOT in a gym. I have told my guy friends that it's OK to start a CONVERSATION. You are taking it way too personally! The guy who came up to me started a great conversation with me about my favorite baseball team! Totally found that acceptable and went to a game with him!
LoveDeluxe78 Posted July 12, 2008 Posted July 12, 2008 Lastly, if you actually read my other posts, you would also find this: I meant as in not acting like it's a damn bar or a club! lol But starting a conversation is ok. I think guys are a bit nervous about starting conversations in gyms because they think not wanting to be hit on includes not being wanting to be talked to, and this varies with each woman - you gotta see whether she's so into her workout or has her ipod on and is blocking everyone out.....yup, lighten up! lol
xpaperxcutx Posted July 12, 2008 Posted July 12, 2008 Why would you hit on a woman at a gym? You're there to work out, not ogle people. Besides, everybody's sweating, isn't that a turn off? That's another reason I go to a women's gym, less distraction.
torranceshipman Posted July 12, 2008 Posted July 12, 2008 'I wonder if women who make these kinds of statements are actually lesbi and/dyke OR a misandarist OR, has selective misnadrism (only likes it when an ATTRACTIVE man hits on her....ether it be the gym or anywhere else)' LOL!! What the hell is wrong with you? And you know what, if she is a lesbian, none of your business. Women go to the gym to work out and having some guy bother her while she tries to exercise is not cool. Speak to her after in the cafe area or something. And for the love of God do not chat her up when she is in the sauna or steam room-thats REALLY gross.
Author HiItsMe Posted July 12, 2008 Author Posted July 12, 2008 'I wonder if women who make these kinds of statements are actually lesbi and/dyke OR a misandarist OR, has selective misnadrism (only likes it when an ATTRACTIVE man hits on her....ether it be the gym or anywhere else)' LOL!! What the hell is wrong with you? And you know what, if she is a lesbian, none of your business. Women go to the gym to work out and having some guy bother her while she tries to exercise is not cool. Speak to her after in the cafe area or something. And for the love of God do not chat her up when she is in the sauna or steam room-thats REALLY gross. I thought the Sauna was for seperate genders (men suana's and women's saunas). Heck, there are some women that want men talking to them at the gym....sometimes I'd see women that would deliberately were some skimpy sports bra (with no T-shirt over it) and short short spandex shorts working out at those places. In addition, when I say pick up, I am referring to lines that may be expected in a bar or a club, but NOT in a gym. I have told my guy friends that it's OK to start a CONVERSATION. Starting a conversation and getting "hit" on is all the same in womenese. LOL. Most women in a gym don't see the difference....you even say "Hi" to a woman at a gym...he's "Hitting" on her, (Well at least according to her). I was at a gym, and a guy told me that he approached a woman at a piece of work out equipment, and asked her how long she'd be in a polite fashion, and she said "Why are you hitting on me?" LOL He just wanted a simple questioned asked. Love Deluxe...you seem cool about it thought, you're the rare few....but men hate getting labels slapped on them if they show interest in a woman.
Author HiItsMe Posted July 12, 2008 Author Posted July 12, 2008 'I wonder if women who make these kinds of statements are actually lesbi and/dyke OR a misandarist OR, has selective misnadrism (only likes it when an ATTRACTIVE man hits on her....ether it be the gym or anywhere else)' LOL!! What the hell is wrong with you? And you know what, if she is a lesbian, none of your business. Women go to the gym to work out and having some guy bother her while she tries to exercise is not cool. Speak to her after in the cafe area or something. And for the love of God do not chat her up when she is in the sauna or steam room-thats REALLY gross. I thought the Sauna was for seperate genders (men suana's and women's saunas). Heck, there are some women that want men talking to them at the gym....sometimes I'd see women that would deliberately were some skimpy sports bra (with no T-shirt over it) and short short spandex shorts working out at those places. Why would you hit on a woman at a gym? You're there to work out, not ogle people. Besides, everybody's sweating, isn't that a turn off? Not to me, but I'm not superficial.
Balthazar Posted July 12, 2008 Posted July 12, 2008 I don't go to a gym, but I don't see why you shouldn't hit on a chick in the gym. In fact, a red-blooded male should hit on a chick wherever the hell he feels like it. If the lady likes him and his approach, fine. If she doesn't , that's fine too. As long as he doesn't become abrasive, it's all good. CHeers,
Author HiItsMe Posted July 12, 2008 Author Posted July 12, 2008 I don't go to a gym, but I don't see why you shouldn't hit on a chick in the gym. In fact, a red-blooded male should hit on a chick wherever the hell he feels like it. If the lady likes him and his approach, fine. If she doesn't , that's fine too. As long as he doesn't become abrasive, it's all good. CHeers, High Five! Yes, just keep doing what every north American, straight Heterosexual male does...HIT on women! It's NORMAL, NOT creepy!
Balthazar Posted July 12, 2008 Posted July 12, 2008 There are millions of fine women out there waiting for us to hit on them. We would be selfish and lacking in out duties as men if we did not do so. Remember the immortal words of Shaft: "It's my duty.... to please the booty...";)
carhill Posted July 12, 2008 Posted July 12, 2008 There are millions of fine women out there waiting for us to hit on them. We would be selfish and lacking in out duties as men if we did not do so. So, how's Joanne doing? Topically, a guy is generally only "creepy" anywhere if he's not attractive to the lady. The gym is irrelevant
saraispiel19 Posted July 12, 2008 Posted July 12, 2008 I say if you don't want to be hit on at the gym don't wear skanky gym attire. If thats not the case then who cares at least someone is paying you some attention- big deal creepy or attractive there are some people out there with bigger problems. I wow just really hate it when women complain it's like shut up look what your wearing!
StartingOver07 Posted July 12, 2008 Posted July 12, 2008 I don't go to a gym, but I don't see why you shouldn't hit on a chick in the gym. In fact, a red-blooded male should hit on a chick wherever the hell he feels like it. If the lady likes him and his approach, fine. If she doesn't , that's fine too. As long as he doesn't become abrasive, it's all good. CHeers, That's the ticket! I think it's natural to be drawn to people who share your interests. If going to the gym is one of them, why not tak to that woman you find attractive? As long as you're not an idiot about it - interrupt in the middle of a set or won't take no for an answer, etc. -- it's fine.
blondiepants Posted July 12, 2008 Posted July 12, 2008 For that matter, I even hate getting talked to by anyone at the gym, men or women. I go to do my workout, sweat, look like crap, and get out of there. I listen to my IPod because I don't want to talk to you, or anybody. Women - it's not social hour. Men - it is not a club. Leave me alone and let me kick my ass for an hour and a half. This process of kicking my ass does not involve anyone but myself. A LOT of people seem to think that the gym is social time. Maybe for some it is, but for me it's not. It's a daily routine that is for ME and only ME. I am very social. I go out all the time. I love clubs, dancing, and parties. But I don't want to talk to you at the gym unless you are my trainer. Would you go up to someone and try to hit on them if they are jogging down the street? No, you wouldn't because it is rude. How is talking to someone in the middle of a workout at the gym any different? I can't jog down the street because I have a knee problem. Therefore I have to use low/non impact machines inside. People seem to think that because I'm on a stationary machine, I am accessible. Ladies, here's what you do when men (or women trying to make friends) try to talk to you. Wear headphones. Ignore them them the first time they say something. If they are persistant and try again, shout "WHAT? I HAVE MY HEADPHONES ON - SORRY, I CANT HEAR YOU". If they STILL don't walk away then remove your headphones from ONLY ONE EAR and say "I'm sorry... you were saying?" Just leave me alone at the gym.
CaliGuy Posted July 12, 2008 Posted July 12, 2008 Hint for men: Most women only think you're creepy for hitting on them IF they are not attracted to you. If they think you're attractive, they won't care when or where you're hitting them. They'll be open to it. My point is simply that you should approach a woman if you are interested in her. If she acts all creeped out, take it as a hint that she's not attracted to you and move on. It really is that easy.
Author HiItsMe Posted July 12, 2008 Author Posted July 12, 2008 No, you wouldn't because it is rude. How is talking to someone in the middle of a workout at the gym any different?Well, you can kinda wait between work outs, or chattin' on the treadmill...makes the time go by faster. Lighten up, hon...it's just the gym. Most women only think you're creepy for hitting on them IF they are not attracted to you.Yeah, chances are the woman who posted what I quoted...if the guy made her weak in the knees....she'd turn into a hypocrite real fast. LOL! BUT..what I don't understand is..t.hat women just LOVE to label men as "Creepy losers" as opposed honestly admitting that they just arent' attractted to said "creep"
Trialbyfire Posted July 12, 2008 Posted July 12, 2008 But not at the gym. That's my time... Same here which is why I've stopped going to the gym, instead working out at home. The gym is a place to get fit, not get hooked up.
Author HiItsMe Posted July 12, 2008 Author Posted July 12, 2008 Same here which is why I've stopped going to the gym, instead working out at home. The gym is a place to get fit, not get hooked up. And you wonder why you're still single *ducks* lol
Trialbyfire Posted July 12, 2008 Posted July 12, 2008 And you wonder why you're still single *ducks* lol I'm single because I want to be. Getting dates or finding men for relationships is never a problem for me.
Author HiItsMe Posted July 12, 2008 Author Posted July 12, 2008 I'm single because I want to be. Getting dates or finding men for relationships is never a problem for me. Well, if it's not a problem for you.....then how come you're single because you want to be?
Trialbyfire Posted July 12, 2008 Posted July 12, 2008 Well, if it's not a problem for you.....then how come you're single because you want to be? I'm a tad jaded about relationships in general and right now, just need to date casually, which is what I'm doing. I'm enjoying the freedom of being single, no one to answer to, do what I want, when I want. In the past, beyond a few crazy dating periods, I've always been in a relationship of some kind. It's time for me.
Author HiItsMe Posted July 12, 2008 Author Posted July 12, 2008 I'm a tad jaded about relationships in general and right now, just need to date casually, which is what I'm doing. I'm enjoying the freedom of being single, no one to answer to, do what I want, when I want. In the past, beyond a few crazy dating periods, I've always been in a relationship of some kind. It's time for me. Guess you don't like to make it easy for us men.
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