johan Posted July 12, 2008 Posted July 12, 2008 Yeah, you could do that. Maybe you could give him a little background like: "Hi. I was lying on my bed, wearing nothing at all, and somehow you popped into my head. Not sure why. But if you'd like to meet up... etc..." Or, "Hi. I was watching some gay porn and feeling a little lonely. I started thinking of you, and.... "
Balthazar Posted July 12, 2008 Posted July 12, 2008 WTF? I get flak for one comment about Joanne, and you've started a thread on its eighth page about this cop you are cheating on me with? What a brazen hussy you are:laugh:.
johan Posted July 13, 2008 Posted July 13, 2008 LOL. I would send him a text, and just say, "hey! would like to meet for drinks sometime?" FYI: the background stuff was just a joke. I think what you have here is fine. Just keep it simple and straightforward.
Author Jilly Bean Posted July 13, 2008 Author Posted July 13, 2008 WTF? I get flak for one comment about Joanne, and you've started a thread on its eighth page about this cop you are cheating on me with? What a brazen hussy you are:laugh:. See how I am? JOHAN - Shame on you! We do not poke fun at gay porn. EVER. How about, "A - do you think that our history is too much for us to consider dating again, or do you think the fact that our paths keep crossing means that we should?
2sunny Posted July 13, 2008 Posted July 13, 2008 See how I am? JOHAN - Shame on you! We do not poke fun at gay porn. EVER. How about, "A - do you think that our history is too much for us to consider dating again, or do you think the fact that our paths keep crossing means that we should? for some reason - i like this approach!
johan Posted July 13, 2008 Posted July 13, 2008 How about, "A - do you think that our history is too much for us to consider dating again, or do you think the fact that our paths keep crossing means that we should? What part of "simple and straightforward" do you need me to help you with?
Author Jilly Bean Posted July 13, 2008 Author Posted July 13, 2008 What part of "simple and straightforward" do you need me to help you with? Er, I guess all of it. What was so wrong with what I wrote? (Remember - BONEHEAD)
johan Posted July 13, 2008 Posted July 13, 2008 Ok, it wasn't so bad. I don't want to micro-manage you. But maybe just suggesting some time hanging out together is enough. If he says yes, then all the deeper stuff you can just take for granted. Or discuss it maybe on the third or fourth date.
johan Posted July 13, 2008 Posted July 13, 2008 There's only so much dating advice you should probably take from me, to be honest. My record is not stellar. But I'm here for you anyway!
Author Jilly Bean Posted July 13, 2008 Author Posted July 13, 2008 Aw, thank you, sweetie! So, I did it. Via text: Me: Would you like to get together sometime? Him: Sure, I would... Me: Cool! Im heading to sf in a few 4 a few days for biz. sometime end of next wk or wknd? Him: Absolutely! Have a safe trip... Me: Thx! just let me know what looks good 4 u when you know how ur week looks. Him: Ok, cool! And...scene.
2sunny Posted July 13, 2008 Posted July 13, 2008 Aw, thank you, sweetie! So, I did it. Via text: Me: Would you like to get together sometime? Him: Sure, I would... Me: Cool! Im heading to sf in a few 4 a few days for biz. sometime end of next wk or wknd? Him: Absolutely! Have a safe trip... Me: Thx! just let me know what looks good 4 u when you know how ur week looks. Him: Ok, cool! And...scene. wow- that went very well! cool!
Author Jilly Bean Posted July 13, 2008 Author Posted July 13, 2008 wow- that went very well! cool! Thanks! I would have preferred he picked a day flat out, but I do know his schedule is so changeable, it's often hard to predict when he is free or not. I guess now I wait to hear from him? (I'm all sweaty! lol)
Star Gazer Posted July 13, 2008 Posted July 13, 2008 I'm glad I didn't bother responding during the course of the thread... I just got to wait until the semi-conclusion! I think you can wait for him to contact you OR give him a ring when you get back from SF. Damn, I'm tempted to meet you in SF and get you to teach me how to gather a 3-way! HAHA!
johan Posted July 13, 2008 Posted July 13, 2008 That's cool! See? Simple and straightforward. I'm not sure what happens next. One or the other of you will have to make the next move. If I was him, I'd do one of two things: 1) flirt with you a bit over the next few days to keep the line open, or 2) get in touch with you on Thursday to figure out which day you're actually available. 1 is probably better.
Author Jilly Bean Posted July 13, 2008 Author Posted July 13, 2008 I'm glad I didn't bother responding during the course of the thread... I just got to wait until the semi-conclusion! I think you can wait for him to contact you OR give him a ring when you get back from SF. Damn, I'm tempted to meet you in SF and get you to teach me how to gather a 3-way! HAHA! Yes, sometimes it's best to wait a bit. lol Girl, I hardly qualify as the teacher of a three-way, but in all honestly, if it wasn't with my (gay) best friend of 25 years, I never would have done it. So, start with one of those...
Author Jilly Bean Posted July 13, 2008 Author Posted July 13, 2008 There's only so much dating advice you should probably take from me, to be honest. My record is not stellar. But I'm here for you anyway! Thank you for being the final push to get me to reach out.
Author Jilly Bean Posted July 13, 2008 Author Posted July 13, 2008 That's cool! See? Simple and straightforward. I'm not sure what happens next. One or the other of you will have to make the next move. If I was him, I'd do one of two things: 1) flirt with you a bit over the next few days to keep the line open, or 2) get in touch with you on Thursday to figure out which day you're actually available. 1 is probably better. THU? You think he'd wait that long to contact me back? I'm glad you said that. That will keep me from wigging. I get back TUE PM. SAT night I know I have plans... And yes - thank you for saving me from myself and being so friggin confrontational. Ugh.
johan Posted July 13, 2008 Posted July 13, 2008 Woman! You'll be back on Tuesday, but you told him maybe next weekend. And you're not even available on Saturday?? Do you want to see this guy or not? You're welcome, by the way.
Author Jilly Bean Posted July 13, 2008 Author Posted July 13, 2008 Woman! You'll be back on Tuesday, but you told him maybe next weekend. And you're not even available on Saturday?? Do you want to see this guy or not? You're welcome, by the way. I do. It's a good thing I'll be out of town for a few days. I need to calm down. CLEARLY. And I said end of next week OR weekend. That leaves THU, FRI, SUN... OK, Im out. Driver is here, and I gotta bounce to the airport. THANKS again! And same to all those who contributed their opinions and views. Even though I know a few of you think I am making a mistake, I guess I need to go here one last time. Hopefully this time the ending will be a better one...
Author Jilly Bean Posted July 16, 2008 Author Posted July 16, 2008 Well? How is my competition doing? LOL. I don't know! I haven't heard from him yet, but we did say end of the week or the weekend. It's only TUE, right? I REFUSE to contact him again. Balls in his court on this one. I figure I would hear from him tomorrow, if I'm going to. Right? I will add that he's been checking out my profile daily. If he doesn't pursue this when I dropped it all in his lap, then I'm done with it. There shall be others, if not him...
HeartLikeLead Posted July 16, 2008 Posted July 16, 2008 Aw, thanks PG. And I know you're right. If it was about me, then he would be happy with someone else by now. King of the 3-4 month relationships is all he can handle, then he has to go get his GUY on, then he starts all over with some new chick. Pity he can't see that what would set him free is right in front of him. Then again, maybe he feels that if he was with me, my acceptance and tolerance of his lifestyle might leave the door TOO open, and he's afraid of who or what he would become with no boundaries placed on him. Know what I mean? Like I'd be a gateway to him REALLY acting out. Who the hell knows. All I know if that he has now ruined my online dating experience on that site. Fuc*er. ding ding and double ding ding........ Um Ive been there and done that (well not done THAT) A guy who I dated is a superhot mess. And I just know he had a strong bi or gay side to him. His Mom is the most devout Christian ever and it would KILL her if he is revealed any gay. But yeah he got a calf massage from a gay man last year, he wont sotp talking about his body and how pretty he is. I wanted to test him so I aske dhim what he thinks about giving women oral. He said he likes doing everything BUT that. He is absurdly hot and although he thinks Im beautiful and we have core values/religion/interests I know that something is wrong with his sexuality. He just cant face himself and NEITHER can your guy. You seem like a very vivacious and motivated chick. You also must be very hot cause gay guys dont do threesomes with ugly chicks Find someone who wont be PURE DRAMA!
2sunny Posted July 16, 2008 Posted July 16, 2008 log into your profile JB and see if he tries to contact you once he realizes you're home...
Author Jilly Bean Posted July 16, 2008 Author Posted July 16, 2008 log into your profile JB and see if he tries to contact you once he realizes you're home... Oh, I've been on all night! lol. He hasn't been on. Says the last time he checked me out was yesterday. Sunny - should I write this off, or do you think he would still contact me WED or THU? I can't like and say I'm not waiting on that call!
2sunny Posted July 16, 2008 Posted July 16, 2008 Oh, I've been on all night! lol. He hasn't been on. Says the last time he checked me out was yesterday. Sunny - should I write this off, or do you think he would still contact me WED or THU? I can't like and say I'm not waiting on that call! no don't write it off yet! you haven't even gotten started yet! wait for him to contact you (which will most likely be tomorrow or thurs.) then be happy and pleasant about making plans. do some research about what's happening in your area this weekend so if he asks what you want to do - you have something to at least suggest that's fun. just settle down and be patient honey!
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