Arise_Serpentor Posted July 12, 2008 Posted July 12, 2008 Ok, I'm just going to put it all out there! I've been dating a girl that I dated in the past. We broke up before, but we got back together. I'm only doing it until she gets back on her feet. Now, I think she is ready to go live on her own. What do you think is the best way? I still care about her, and I want to be friends, but I don't want to hurt her feelings! Any tips would be greatly appreciated!
Lauriebell82 Posted July 12, 2008 Posted July 12, 2008 So the reason you are with her is that you feel sorry for her and are just leading her on? Man, end it right now so she can find someone who really does have feelings for her. Why where you helping her anyway? Why is she ready to get back on her "feet"
carhill Posted July 12, 2008 Posted July 12, 2008 What do you think is the best way? The direct way and honest way. It is OK to love her as a friend but not find the chemistry and compatibility for a relationship. You broke up once before so you do have a roadmap as to how to deal with her feelings and your own. I wouldn't wait until she's "back on her feet".
Author Arise_Serpentor Posted July 12, 2008 Author Posted July 12, 2008 So the reason you are with her is that you feel sorry for her and are just leading her on? Man, end it right now so she can find someone who really does have feelings for her. Why where you helping her anyway? Why is she ready to get back on her "feet" hey, she's got a kid! Besides, she really needs someone right now! Or did need one!
Author Arise_Serpentor Posted July 12, 2008 Author Posted July 12, 2008 The direct way and honest way. It is OK to love her as a friend but not find the chemistry and compatibility for a relationship. You broke up once before so you do have a roadmap as to how to deal with her feelings and your own. I wouldn't wait until she's "back on her feet". i don't know. maybe i'll stick it out just a little longer. Who knows? Maybe love will me like it has her!
Lauriebell82 Posted July 12, 2008 Posted July 12, 2008 i don't know. maybe i'll stick it out just a little longer. Who knows? Maybe love will me like it has her! Wait are you saying you are going to string her along HOPING that you will fall in love with her? TRYING to fall in love usually doesn't work out to well. Does she have any idea that you don't feel the same way she does? Does she tell you she loves you and you don't say it back? HOPING that you will fall in love with her is not such a hot idea dude. I would NEVER want a guy to be with me just because he feels he "has" to just hoping that he'll have the same feelings I do one day. That is not fair to her or you. End it so you can both find someone else.
Lauriebell82 Posted July 12, 2008 Posted July 12, 2008 hey, she's got a kid! Besides, she really needs someone right now! Or did need one! And you can't help her out with her kid as a FRIEND? You can still be there for her without faking that you have romantic feelings for her. If she needs support then fine, you just don't have to be in a relationship for that to happen.
Author Arise_Serpentor Posted July 18, 2008 Author Posted July 18, 2008 And you can't help her out with her kid as a FRIEND? You can still be there for her without faking that you have romantic feelings for her. If she needs support then fine, you just don't have to be in a relationship for that to happen. Well, we used to date! and she wanted to date again and maybe i do too! but i don't have the same feelings as before but maybe they will come back! Shes not back on her feet yet, but getting there!
aubree1982 Posted July 18, 2008 Posted July 18, 2008 Sounds to me like you are being selfish. Have you been honest with her and told her how you feel? Back on her feet? Are you helping her financially? Or what is going on? Just because she has a child doesn't mean you need to stay with her and help her, it will only make things harder for her if you continue this way. If you truly want to see if you can fall back in love with her you at least need to be honest with her about your feelings. Tell her you want to take things slow and that you'd like to fall back in love with her again. Please don't be leading her on and say you want to be with her if you are unsure about what you want.
Author Arise_Serpentor Posted July 18, 2008 Author Posted July 18, 2008 I get what you are saying but i think everything is ok! I know what i'm doing and i can handle it! Where do you think she would be without me?!! hmmm?
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