jerbear Posted July 12, 2008 Posted July 12, 2008 I was out having lunch with co-workers. One of the guys is considering proposing to his GF soon. Part of the conversation was proposal sex. I said you won't be getting anniversary sex when the family is over during Thanksgiving or Christmas so don't even think about that part. One of the things I bought up was not to propose around the holidays, i.e. Thanksgiving or Christmas; hence no proposal date sex. Do women have these types of conversations and what do they usually talk about?
Ms. Red Posted July 12, 2008 Posted July 12, 2008 What is proposal sex? I've never even heard of that. I'm guessing that the proposal date is supposed to be remembered & treated like an anniversary? I don't even remember the date my H proposed to me. But then again, he didn't make it elaborate or anything.
Author jerbear Posted July 12, 2008 Author Posted July 12, 2008 I think I should clarify. I suggested that he doesn't propose to his GF during the holidays. It is very hard to desensitize her and top an engagement. Add on holidays and engagement, that is some stimuli. If he spaced it out, one he'll get more, two it removes the overstimulus, and third he is more sure versus following the status quo. I knew about remember the anniversary date, holidays, first meeting/date, blah blah blah. Just wondering if women have conversations about when you're getting married and discuss timing, situations, even down to the amount of sex due to the timing.
Angel1111 Posted July 12, 2008 Posted July 12, 2008 I don't think women talk about the timing of sex. I think that's specific to guys who are married and/or dating women who use every excuse they can NOT to have sex. I don't even understand this thing about not having sex during the holidays, and when family is around. What's the deal - they're sleeping with you or something??? I don't know. I love sex when I'm with someone I love. I love being touched and kissed by that person, it's a natural act. For a guy to have to plot and plan when and if they're going to have sex is abnormal to me. So this whole timing thing, and 'proposal sex' seem to be the product of men having the extreme bad luck of being with under-sexed women, or being with someone they don't really connect (pun fully intended) with. I think women talk more about a guy's personality, behavior, whether or not they do things that show he adores her, etc. The cute things he says, all that. If men understood the power of showing a woman that she is adored and cherished, they would have the magic key. Treating a woman like a maid, wife, or mom is the real passion killer. I know there are lots of things that women do that turn men off - I'm just giving you a female perspective. When a woman feels truly cherished, she is in complete heaven. And when she doesn't feel that, trouble isn't far behind.
Walk Posted July 12, 2008 Posted July 12, 2008 I was out having lunch with co-workers. One of the guys is considering proposing to his GF soon. Part of the conversation was proposal sex. I said you won't be getting anniversary sex when the family is over during Thanksgiving or Christmas so don't even think about that part. One of the things I bought up was not to propose around the holidays, i.e. Thanksgiving or Christmas; hence no proposal date sex. Do women have these types of conversations and what do they usually talk about? Nope. At least not the female friends I have now, or have had in the past. Has more to do with the fact that women are pretty sure that if they suggest sex that their man will make sure he's available. It doesn't weigh on our minds too heavily about our chances for sex in various situations. Its almost a guarantee that the guy will be up for it. Not always, but in general a guy won't say no. So, guys chances of sex during holiday if he asks his girl at her parents house is (guestimating) 20%. Girls chances if she asks her guy 99.2%.
Mr. Lucky Posted July 12, 2008 Posted July 12, 2008 I I suggested that he doesn't propose to his GF during the holidays. It is very hard to desensitize her and top an engagement. Add on holidays and engagement, that is some stimuli. If he spaced it out, one he'll get more, two it removes the overstimulus, and third he is more sure versus following the status quo. You are really over-thinking this... Mr. Lucky
porter218 Posted July 14, 2008 Posted July 14, 2008 Part of the conversation was proposal sex. I said you won't be getting anniversary sex when the family is over during Thanksgiving or Christmas so don't even think about that part. One of the things I bought up was not to propose around the holidays, i.e. Thanksgiving or Christmas; hence no proposal date sex. ? :confused:Why not?? That has never stopped me from having sex with my husband. Just have to be a little more quiet and sneak around a little.
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