Catthemat Posted July 11, 2008 Posted July 11, 2008 Hi! New here. I am 43 and currently doing the online dating thing. Just rejoined plenty of fish two days ago. I had been on there months and months ago. So this one guy writes me. I guess we had chatted months ago, he said he tried to get me to meet him out, then I deleted my membership so it never happened. We have been emailing again for the past few days. I don't remember him at all from months ago, but this time I am very interested in him! But I am not sure if I sent the wrong message. Please tell me if I did. He asked me about my work. Then it goes from here: ME: I travel a lot, but after my next trip, I have some down time and will be home! woo hoo! HIM: Whats your time frame on your downtime. Next week? ME: Well, I leave on Saturday and will be back on Tuesday. Then grounded for a week or so before I head out west to see some friends and the Dodgers. lol He read this message, but hasn't responded! And yes, he has been online. Has he lost interest? Moved on already? Did I say the wrong thing in response? If it matters, he is 39 and a widower who says he is looking for a long-term relationship. Help!
endlesstrains Posted July 11, 2008 Posted July 11, 2008 That sounds like a normal response to me... after all, he asked you. Maybe he is just thinking about how to respond or waiting to not seem too eager.
Author Catthemat Posted July 11, 2008 Author Posted July 11, 2008 Oh ok. I wasn't sure if maybe I had made it seem like I was going to be unavailable for a long time or not. I'm just bummed he hasn't responded. Up until now, he's been very responsive! I'm wondering if he was just trying to see if I would meet him. Maybe I'm being paranoid though.
xpaperxcutx Posted July 11, 2008 Posted July 11, 2008 Oh ok. I wasn't sure if maybe I had made it seem like I was going to be unavailable for a long time or not. I'm just bummed he hasn't responded. Up until now, he's been very responsive! I'm wondering if he was just trying to see if I would meet him. Maybe I'm being paranoid though. I don't think you should be so paranoid about it. It's email... most likely he's busy and haven't had time to refesh his page... Give him a day or two.
Jilly Bean Posted July 11, 2008 Posted July 11, 2008 I think you did just fine in giving him a window of opportunity. Maybe he doesn't want to ask you TODAY what you are doing NEXT week (though he kinda did). Might fear he'll look too eager. Like X said, give it a few days. If no response by next WED, I'd write him off.
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