itstheestee Posted July 11, 2008 Posted July 11, 2008 Ok, so for starters i am a lesbian! (go team gay!) I met a girl. Shes awesome. she has two kids. ( i like kids, i cant have kids). I wanna presue this relationship, i really do. My last couple of girlfriends, would tell me that i was "too nice" and called me stupid quite frequently. I feel like my heart is tainted. like how can i possible meet somene and have a relationship with the amount of people who heard that i was stupid and force their opinion on others. whats wrong with sending someone flowers after a couple of dates if they go well. I am like a teenager with this one. (I am actually 29). I just want to hold her hand or just be with her as much as possible. We work for the same company, but in different locations. So, we are kind of in two different spectrums of the company. I need some advice. Should I try to presue this? I need input people, input.
carhill Posted July 11, 2008 Posted July 11, 2008 She knows OP, look at it this way. The right person for you will understand and embrace your perspective and behaviors. I personally would be very flattered if a lady sent me flowers after a few dates, especially if I felt a connection with her. She'd likely get some selected ferns and roses from my garden Does that sound like a straight male? Hell no. That's the point. Each of us is different and we can't expect everyone to embrace or even respect those differences. Our work is to value and support those who do. You're not "stupid". I think you know that Welcome to LS
Author itstheestee Posted July 11, 2008 Author Posted July 11, 2008 trust me, she is gay. i was married once to a man, and i am gay. we had that conversation already. she said this to me last night and it has stuck in my head "we def have that connecetion that most people would kill to have". I see this as a good thing. am i correct in that assumption?
carhill Posted July 11, 2008 Posted July 11, 2008 How long have you known this woman? IMO, such connections do exist, but true evidence of them is revealed over time through honest discourse. If her actions match her words, then I would be optimistic
Author itstheestee Posted July 11, 2008 Author Posted July 11, 2008 several months, since feb or march. shes amazing. I get so nervous about meeting people but this just kid of fell in my lap, it was like hey what are you doing after work and we sat and talked for hours, then it went from there.
carhill Posted July 11, 2008 Posted July 11, 2008 My advice would be to be yourself, mindful that a relationship with any human being is constantly in flux. Give of yourself what you freely can give without expectation, like those flowers you wish to send. The right person for you will value and return those sentiments and feelings; however, this person may not feel as deeply and as quickly as you do, so bear that in mind and be patient. Set yourself a realistic timeline for parity if you come to feel a dearth of reciprocation from your partner, but continue to express your feelings as you are natural and comfortable with. IMO, this is key to compatibility, beyond the list of obvious things. Emotional symbiosis and psychological compatibility can stand a lot of tests. I wish you well BTW, if you like to travel, you can earn 20-25 frequent flier miles per dollar for sending flowers. I love sending flowers
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