sally4sara Posted July 16, 2008 Posted July 16, 2008 I was a stripper and dominatrix for two and a half years. I haven't done that for 12 years now. I watched many girls leave and come back, leave and come back in those two years. The money is addictive and as long as she looks good enough to do it, it will be in the back of her mind that she can make extra money twice as fast in this line of work. The job in itself is not easy; it is like working out every night you work for longer than you'd normally workout. So Bones, keep that in mind - easy money/hard work. You two seemed to have come to a compromise. Private "clean" dances only. Here is the catch to that. You said the lap dances take place in a room where say five other girls and clients can be doing the same and people not in the lap dance room can see in. This means while your girl is doing her clean version, her client can see that he would be getting the other kind of lap dance and feel ripped off. He may complain about it and give your girl a hard time about it. Likewise, potential clients will see she doesn't give the dances the other girls give and not ask her. So it will end up taking her twice as long at that work to get the amount of money you two need. This will put the pressure on her and she might cave. Might, not definitely, but might. What I'm saying is she could be in and out of there is three days doing what she did before (no restrictions on dancing and no reason to have to lie if she does it anyway) with the promise to never go back to this line of work again. OR she can tell you she will do it "clean", take twice as long (with you the whole time wondering if she is keeping it clean), and potentially cave to get the amount you need. Either way, depending on how long it takes for her to raise the dough, you will always wonder if she caved to do it or not. Why not pick your battles wisely? If you can deal with her doing this to raise the dough at all, then just let her do her thing. She'll know by this that she can talk to you about anything and you'll understand within reason. But keep her to her promise to never do this again once it is all said and done.
Lizzie60 Posted July 16, 2008 Posted July 16, 2008 I say.. let her go for a few nights.. that's the compromise.. only a few nights.. then it's done.. over.. fini... Just make sure you control your finances so that you don't find yourselves in a bad financial situation once more... so that she'll have to go back again... I would trust her.. no problem.
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