Mydish1 Posted July 11, 2008 Posted July 11, 2008 I was speaking to my friend yesterday and rumors were going around she was engaged. I didn't really take it seriously until she told me she's getting married later this month. It was a bit of a shock and I asked her if I'm invited. She said I am, the date and location. But she also mentioned she didn't invite much people. She seems pretty stressed out that the wedding is being rushed. Though now I'm rethinking if I'm intruding into her personal life by self-inviting myself? And whether she invited me just not to seem mean. Should I talk to her about this?
whichwayisup Posted July 11, 2008 Posted July 11, 2008 How close are you two? If you are feeling weird about it and think that she invited you because you asked if you were invited, just be honest and say, "I see you're stressed out, and I hope me asking if I was invited to your wedding didn't make you feel more stressed. I completely understand if it's only immediate family and very close friends. I won't be offended or hurt if I don't go, last thing I want you to feel is pressured to have me there because I asked about the wedding." Or something like that.
quankanne Posted July 11, 2008 Posted July 11, 2008 or be the good friend and just show up in support of her new life adventure. Because if she's stressed about having to move the whole thing up, I don't think she's going to have the patience to deal with your confusion ... not to say that you as a friend aren't worth that extra effort, but that you could help by doing the positive thing by showing up and being happy for her. There'll be time later to ask about y'alls last visit and her curious behavior.
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