xpaperxcutx Posted July 14, 2008 Posted July 14, 2008 Who told you this crap? That you can't control your attraction? What if I said that I just can't control my temper.... That doesn't fly does it? Get a grip on yourself. It's not that hard. First off, if you don't understand what creates your attraction... then you will never, ever be able to control it. You will forever be a slave to it! And that sucks... especially for the men you date. You are feisty untouchable, but so right... OP everybody has control over their feelings, such as having feelings for someone, but never acting on it.
carhill Posted July 14, 2008 Posted July 14, 2008 OP, in real life, how do you process the list you posted (great one BTW) within the dynamic of the topic of your first posting in this thread. What I'm trying to say is that this is about you, not your BF. He is who he is. If not too personal, how old is he? Also, you relate that he is polite to your parents and shows you respect. If I were to ask your parents today what they think of your BF, what would they tell me (not you, but me as an "outsider")? I'd like to see some of the other members here process your list. I can understand why you're conflicted. Hang in there
Author KileyAnne9 Posted July 15, 2008 Author Posted July 15, 2008 It's not personal...hes 22. My parents actually like him a lot. He knows how to act around them...so they like him. They know him for all I listed in my last post. They don't know too much about his bad side. I want them to like him. So I hide stuff that they wouldn't like, to be honest. And I'm not quite sure what you mean in by your 1st question...
D-Lish Posted July 15, 2008 Posted July 15, 2008 Well, the good thing about being young is that people can and do change. If he's been keeping his stuff together since you've been dating- perhaps being with you has had a positive affect on him. The smart ones learn from their mistakes and don't make them again. Spending time with him will give you a better indication on whether or not he is the kind of person with the ability to change. I am a much different person now than I was when I was 22... No one can predict whether or not your guy will revert to his old ways or continue to grow and progress into an upstanding individual. If his charge is serious enough- it might be enough to scare some sense into him and prompt him to get his crap together. I went to high school with a guy who used to sell drugs and got arrested after high school for assaulting a police officer. He was quite the bad ass back then. Now he is married with 2 kids, has a master's degree and is running a youth shelter. So, people can and do change- not everyone is capable of doing so... but many can. I don't know how serious his charge is- but hopefully it was enough to make him rethink where he wants to end up in life.
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