second chance? really?

[JustinWolf]

I now that if I become her side project, then I might walk away and see how she reacts. She got into a fight with him not long ago, the reasons are still a mistery to me. I don't know if I really should even ask her what happened.

 

The bad guy thing? I'm not being a bad guy with her... she hates those, well, at least thats what she claims. She knows I've still got feelings for her and she knows I'd do a lot to be with her cuz I told her. lol. Sometimes I feel I'm really clingy to her but not too much neither but the part of me that wants her, she knows about it.

 

I was thinking, I'd stop telling her I like her and be a friend but I'm afraid I may get stuck in the friend position forever. :-S

[WiseOne1]

Well the bad guy thing was just a example, yea theres a big chance that you might become stuck in the friend position, especcially if your a firend for a longtime.

 

I think you should just stay shy away from her, but you should let her do all of the persueing.

[JustinWolf]

Well, she knows I'd never want to be friends with her. We had that discussion at one point. We were dating for like 2 years and then we spoke from time to time but never really friends. Just small talk and if it was serious talk it ended up with me saying how much I still like her. So we never got to that we're really friends. We broke up it's been more than a year and a half now... But we kept talking and we've gotten to this point. I was the one who broke up and I've told her I really regret that decision and she did tell me that if I didnt, we'd probably still have been together now. So ya...

[JustinWolf]

Updates: I saw her the other day and at one point she said "remember what happened last time..." I knew what she was talking about but i played it safe and asked what and she said "well... you know." Then I said "yes, I remember." and I quickly changed subject.

 

Apparently, she's having lots of issues with her man because she told me that she feels a sort of distance from him ever since I saw her and all.

 

Another thing that is screwing me over is the fact that I was the one who ended the relationship and I've been trying to repent. During the year after our breakup, I went to see her a couple of times where I told her I still liked her and in the end, ended up acting a bit of a jerk. I'm really not, now but she says she can't seem to brush that thought away from her mind.

[JustinWolf]

Are you serious? I don't want that to happen to me lol... We didn't have sex and as far as I'm concerned, I'm not going to get there unless she's not with him. IF she isn't with him, I'm going to have sex with her without feeling bad but if she's with him... I don't think it's ever going to go any further than that. Plus, the fact that right now she's a bit confused and she feels there's a distance between them, I may be able to get into her life I just don't know how to take it from here...

[WiseOne1]

dude don't listen to the people on tis forum.

you are golden.

 

you are doing all the right things, all you have to do is hang out with her & have sex ith her.

eventually she will become distant to her boyfriend and come back to you only because your having sex with her and females emmotions are all tied up between their legs.

 

if your the one having sex with her on a constant basis, sooner or later she's going to ditch the guy IF she wants to be with you

 

it only takes about 2-3 months before she starts to get confused and question her current relationship. sonds like she is already confused as of right now, just play it cool, have sex with her, and before you know it, she'll ditch him or string him along while having sex with you & loving you.

 

then again maybe not & you fufill all her needs, who knows but whatever, your not the bad guy, her boyfriend is lame. he has a cheating whore for a girlfriend, a whore that you want.

 

as far as her crying and feeling bad, thats a load of horse****, she LIKES IT, she likes having sex with you, yeah sure she may feel bad but the pleasure is just to much. She LIKES IT, she doesn't feel bad at all, don't let her fool you.

 

 

"remember what happen" like it was a bad thing. she likes having sex with you, i mean she may THINK its a bad thing in the eyes of society but trust me, she's not at all upset & and she knew what she was doing..

 

forget what everyone else is telling you, your not the bad guy, your cheating ex whoring girlfriend is the bad guy.

 

in in all honesty, if she will CHEAT with YOU, she will cheat ON you.

 

I had a GF like yours.

She had a boyfriend, but she liked me, she wanted to have sex with me, she allowed me to get close.

 

 

eventually i had sex with her & she pretended like she didn't know what was going on

and would cry all the time but eventually after about a month, she stop feeling bad.

 

she ditched him for me, she fell in love with me, she forget about him for like 8 months.

he would text her messages like 'i'm sudicial blah blah' and then i would just take the phone

and put it aside and then **** her to death. she liked it..

 

 

eventually thought i went away and who did she call? she called up her ex and had sex with him,

but thats not the worst of it. she also went on 2 dates and later ****ed one of the guys

on the 2 days.

 

 

She would come over and say all these things like "I know what I am doing is wrong"

"I feel like a whore" then cry blah blah but have sex.

 

so now she's having sex with two people, she even kept up the relationship while having

sex with this dude, i can remember now, she looked so guilty in hindsight.

 

eventually though she left me for him.

 

that ****ing whore, made me love her & then played me like a fool & left me, then had

the nerve to blame me for EVERYTHING and she somehow manage to reverse the breakup

to make it appear like it was ALL MY FAULT.

 

eitherway, i remember the last time i saw her, she told me "baby your going to make

me cheat on my boyfriend" then smiled.

 

 

I was thinking to myself WOW, my ex sure fooled me.

that whoring bitch.

that ****ing bitch, i don't even hate her, i would like to spit in her face if i see her again.

 

Dude you are 100% right, well accept on the cheating part that she will cheat on you also. But man you rule!

 

Justin, you are golden! Make your move, you just have to turn it up a little, you need to hang with her more, and build your way up, become more friendly and flirty as time goes by.

 

You may wanna start off by rubbing her breast again, and then rub her thigh, and then tongue kiss her. You bassically wanna move closer and closer to sex. Just like the "Johnson25" says that womens emotions are tied between there legs, and its the truth!

 

The only thing you need is for her to have sex with you and your gonna slowly start to get her back.

[orangesean]

This whole thread is just silly.

[JustinWolf]

It seems to me that people think I'm out here to have sex with her. No, that's a false statement because the fact is, I'm trying to get her back. Some of the replies I've gotten have turned this into a silly joke but trust me, it's not. I'm really trying to be with the girl I really like. In fact, I'm trying to avoid talking about her bf and try to be more of a friend and see if ever something happens I may get back into her life. She, herself, says that there is a distance between them. I don't even know if I should trust her on this.

 

I never wanted to start this thread and make it a big joke because to me, it's really not. I only want people's advice on this matter and make sure it's something that makes sense. Right now, I aknowledge the fact she may or may not cheat on me if she went as far as she did with me while being with her boyfriend. I said I like her, as far as I know, it doesn't imply me being monkey-coo-coo over her. If anything happens, in my mind, I will at least have known that we tried and it ended bad *knockonwood*

 

Recently, we had another conversaiton where she said she still feels that he's acting weird and that the distance is still there but they are going together to some place and she said maybe over there they will have a time to get together again. Why she told me that leaves me no clue. I also said that there is no point in me staying because in the end she may as well say that she doesn't want to be with me and that'll just hurt me. She said that she knows about it and that right now, one relationship isn't working how can she know the next one will. She said as far as she knows, right now she can't be with anyone else and that she doesn't know about the future.

[orangesean]

He might suspect she's cheating on him with someone... hmm...

[WiseOne1]

Im sorry if i made you feel disrespected in any type of way. All we were saying is that you want her back right? We were just saying that sex would possibly make her regain feeling for you again.

 

I don't think its becoming a joke nor am im trying to make it out of a joke,all that anyone was saying is that she seems to be on the edge, when it comes to choosing who she wants to be with, and that anything could change the way she feels and she could come running back to you.

[steve9417]

we're in a similar position here Justin & thought might would share my situation

 

i finished with my ex 6 months ago - I ended it late last year and we've kept in email contact since - one of those emails confirmed that we were in a similar position on missing one another & i offered to meet her - she was frightened of meeting me as she said she was protective of herself & for the last 2 months i've played the NC

 

i've just seen her at the weekend for the first time since we finished - we clicked straight away and were holding hands / hugging - she said she'd had a lovely time and has missed me so much - she would not kiss me on the lips (she kissed my neck) and had a long embrace goodbye

 

we spoke yesterday 3 days after that meeting and she then told me she was in a new relationship (she hadn't told me that over the weekend when we were together !!!) - i assumed that this meant the end - and when i asked her if the case she said she didn't know what to do - things were complex for her - she feels i'm her natural life partner but has an obligation to this new man - a head / heart dilemma - she's been very transparent with her new man on meeting me and where she is with that

 

I love her and my motives are genuine - if we're to work then I want to get back with her with dignity and self respect - you and I are slightly different as i'm not going to entertain a love triangle - there's been too much hurt already for me over the NC period, meeting at the weekend and her call 3 days later - besides I'm not prepared to disrespect myself by playing a mental / emotional game - its such a tough call this for me like it sounds for you - i'm going to talk with her tomorrow and tell her that i can't do this to any more

 

i believe that you need to treat people like you would yourself ....... i have to let it be now .......... if its meant to be, it will be

[Trialbyfire]

Im sorry if i made you feel disrespected in any type of way. All we were saying is that you want her back right? We were just saying that sex would possibly make her regain feeling for you again.

 

I don't think its becoming a joke nor am im trying to make it out of a joke,all that anyone was saying is that she seems to be on the edge, when it comes to choosing who she wants to be with, and that anything could change the way she feels and she could come running back to you.

If she has an ounce of integrity, having sex with her will make her feel even more guilty and push Justin away for good.

 

The question is, does she have an ounce of integrity? If not, she'll keep him around for side-booty.

 

Neither situation is a good idea. You're making assumptions that women think like men.

[JustinWolf]

WiseOne1, I didn't mean to say you brought the topic to a joke. I really didn't mean that and I'm sorry if you thought I was incinuating that. It's just that the way people see this whole ordeal seems kinda weird to me but anyways I have made a decision. Oh yess ^^

 

I'm going to play my part, just be me, have fun, stop saying i like her, stop touching and caressing and all that. I'll be a friend and if one day it comes to us being together than good otherwise, screw it. long live happiness.