Why is it so hard to get over a crush?

[TheSilentType]

I met a beautiful girl one year ago. She flirts a lot with me. I think she likes my attention and constantly flirts with me or tries to be around me.

She left me really confused at the beginning of the year because she would constantly try to be around me.....I've never seen her behave in such a manner with the other guys in our class.

 

Needless to say, I've never asked her since she has a bf who she's engaged to (which by the way she never brought up).

 

I know nothing will ever come from all this flirting, so it was not till a few months that I've made a point to ignore her and speak as minimally to her as possible.

 

But I have a hard time forgetting her. And I constantly waste so much time thinking about her. I don't know why....maybe its just because she was one of the most beautiful girls that has ever flirted with me and because she did small things that were thoughtful.

 

Why is it so hard to get over these people? Whats wrong with me that I hold onto something so meaningless?

[LoveDeluxe78]

I met a beautiful girl one year ago. She flirts a lot with me. I think she likes my attention and constantly flirts with me or tries to be around me.

She left me really confused at the beginning of the year because she would constantly try to be around me.....I've never seen her behave in such a manner with the other guys in our class.

 

Needless to say, I've never asked her since she has a bf who she's engaged to (which by the way she never brought up).

 

I know nothing will ever come from all this flirting, so it was not till a few months that I've made a point to ignore her and speak as minimally to her as possible.

 

But I have a hard time forgetting her. And I constantly waste so much time thinking about her. I don't know why....maybe its just because she was one of the most beautiful girls that has ever flirted with me and because she did small things that were thoughtful.

 

Why is it so hard to get over these people? Whats wrong with me that I hold onto something so meaningless?

 

 

Because she'll always remain a fantasy in your mind - the relationship never had a chance to play itself out. Sometimes the "could have been" is far more memorable than the actual relationship. It's the potential that keeps you pining for her, if this makes any sense.

 

I can totally relate.....

[whichwayisup]

Could it be that your crush turned into fantasies, and that has been feeding your feelings? Her flirting was nice, but maybe it wasn't meant to be taken so deeply, and you thinking about her so often has fed your feelings too, hense fantasy.. Also her kindness, well maybe she's just a kind person and you read into that?

 

I hope you're able to let go of her and find someone who will love you back. You're a good egg (or shall I say pup? I love that avatar) and deserve the absolute best.