shananigans Posted July 11, 2008 Share Posted July 11, 2008 so me and my boyfriend have been together for about 10 months, there is no doubt in my mind that he is the one i want to spend the rest of my life is, he tells me that he has a "big surprise" for me at the end of august. I believe that he is going to propose, cuz the end of august is when he graduates the academy and his parents will be in town and he wont tell me if i am right or wrong, but i've made some guesses as to what is is, and the thing that know know it is not is: a dog, a car, hes not asking me to move in cuz he already asked me (i'm moving in after he graduates cuz i dont want to be alone monday through friday in a new place) and its not a trip but the surprise could include one.... every one i have talked to have said its a ring, my mom didnt think that until i told her about the trip thing.... i need opinions please:D Link to post Share on other sites
hotpinklove85 Posted July 11, 2008 Share Posted July 11, 2008 Thats what it sounds like. Although guys are pretty wierd about "suprises". I know that my boyfriend told me he had a big suprise (when we first got together, although that was almost 4 yrs ago and I have known him for 9) and wouldnt tell me. Then he came to my house one afternoon and he had bought himself a brand new truck. I guess the suprise was that I didnt have to take him to work anymore?? But I am not always good at judging what men think but if you are already planning to move in with him, then I think it is probably a proposal. Good luck Link to post Share on other sites
Star Gazer Posted July 11, 2008 Share Posted July 11, 2008 I don't think a guy lets on in advance that he's going to propose. He doesn't TELL you that he has a surprise for you if that surprise is a proposal. I bet you $5 it's a trip somewhere to celebrate completing the academy. Link to post Share on other sites
Prodigal Princess Posted July 11, 2008 Share Posted July 11, 2008 Well I guess it had better be a ring; now that you're obsessed with the thought, nothing else will be good enough. Poor guy. Link to post Share on other sites
hotpinklove85 Posted July 11, 2008 Share Posted July 11, 2008 I don't think a guy lets on in advance that he's going to propose. He doesn't TELL you that he has a surprise for you if that surprise is a proposal. I bet you $5 it's a trip somewhere to celebrate completing the academy. haha I bet your right, guys do stuff like that. I guess you would have to know him, to be able to make that call. Link to post Share on other sites
Lauriebell82 Posted July 11, 2008 Share Posted July 11, 2008 so me and my boyfriend have been together for about 10 months, there is no doubt in my mind that he is the one i want to spend the rest of my life is, he tells me that he has a "big surprise" for me at the end of august. I believe that he is going to propose, cuz the end of august is when he graduates the academy and his parents will be in town and he wont tell me if i am right or wrong, but i've made some guesses as to what is is, and the thing that know know it is not is: a dog, a car, hes not asking me to move in cuz he already asked me (i'm moving in after he graduates cuz i dont want to be alone monday through friday in a new place) and its not a trip but the surprise could include one.... every one i have talked to have said its a ring, my mom didnt think that until i told her about the trip thing.... i need opinions please:D I don't think you should put all your eggs in one basket. A "surpise" in guy world can be anything..like the other poster said hers was her bf's new truck. Yes, it could be a proposal, but my advice is to prepare yourself for it being a suprise for something else. Then you can REALLY be surpised if he pops the question. Link to post Share on other sites
stillafool Posted July 11, 2008 Share Posted July 11, 2008 That is so funny because one time my ex told me he had a surprise for me and he had bought himself a new car. I remember thinking why didn't he just say he had a "surprise" instead of "a surprise for me". 10 months is kind of soon to get engaged isn't it? Is it? Well, you never know but let us know what the surprise was. Link to post Share on other sites
Author shananigans Posted July 12, 2008 Author Share Posted July 12, 2008 but honestly thats not what i'm expecting cuz i'm trying to think of what it could be from the few clues he has given me, i'm just saying that i havent been able to disprove that... like my mom was like maybe its a tv, but he just bought a new tv so i know thats not it, its not a dog.... i told him that i still havent been able to rule out a ring and his reply was nice try still not gonna tell you, where as i've gotten no's for other things, but i know not to expect a ring, like i'm still trying to firgure out what it could possibly be.... maybe i'll guess a car for him see what he says Link to post Share on other sites
Lauriebell82 Posted July 12, 2008 Share Posted July 12, 2008 but honestly thats not what i'm expecting cuz i'm trying to think of what it could be from the few clues he has given me, i'm just saying that i havent been able to disprove that... like my mom was like maybe its a tv, but he just bought a new tv so i know thats not it, its not a dog.... i told him that i still havent been able to rule out a ring and his reply was nice try still not gonna tell you, where as i've gotten no's for other things, but i know not to expect a ring, like i'm still trying to firgure out what it could possibly be.... maybe i'll guess a car for him see what he says Well, first thing is to stop bugging him. Telling him you haven't "ruled out a ring" is probably a little too obvious. It could be anything really, and in my experience as well as most of the other posters, it is most likely that a suprise to him is something that probably wouldn't be as great as a suprise for you. 10 months isn't really that long, you guys need to get know each other better than that IMO. So stop bothering him about what is it, and just expect the "Surpise" to be absolutely anything. Oh and DO NOT act crushed or pissed off if he doesn't propose. Link to post Share on other sites
frd150 Posted July 12, 2008 Share Posted July 12, 2008 I agree with Lauriebell. I was in his shoes. I planned to do it a certain way and when she least suspected it. There were two times when she thought it might happen and it didnt it was not the way I wanted to do it. I think this brought on alot of resentment on her part leading to the demise of our relationship. She expected Christmas or on a big family trip. I was plannintg to do it a couple months down the road on her birthday. I was planning a getaway for just me and her. Well, she broke up with me shortly after the family trip. Anyway... Do not hold it against him if its not a proposal as Im sure if the two of you area as compatible as you say that will come. I feel that the wedding is all about the bride and what she wants. Her fairytail so to speak. The proposal is the one thing that we guys have total control over, its our thing. Either way Im sure he has something good in store for you so be happy either way. Link to post Share on other sites
Trialbyfire Posted July 12, 2008 Share Posted July 12, 2008 The less you pressure a man for a proposal, the more likely he'll do it. No one wants to be cornered. Who knows what he's got planned but don't be disappointed if he's only buying a house/condo for your cohabitation plans. Link to post Share on other sites
johan Posted July 12, 2008 Share Posted July 12, 2008 At the end of August he will complete the last of his trans-gender operations. Surprise! Link to post Share on other sites
newfoundglory Posted July 13, 2008 Share Posted July 13, 2008 I don't think a guy lets on in advance that he's going to propose. He doesn't TELL you that he has a surprise for you if that surprise is a proposal. I bet you $5 it's a trip somewhere to celebrate completing the academy. I just proposed to my fiancee. You I can tell you that you are incorrect. I was telling her I had a big day set up for us and that it was a surprise. So yes I told her that I had a surprise for her and that surprise was a ring. STOP digging for information. DO YOU REALLY WANT TO RUIN your surprise. HE only told you for the same reason That i told my fiancee. I was so excited about it, I was having a hard time waiting. I just wanted to be engaged to her. He's totally in love with you and it is killing him that he has to wait. So stop worrying about it, you have the rest of your life to spend with him. Link to post Share on other sites
sb129 Posted July 13, 2008 Share Posted July 13, 2008 I don't think a guy lets on in advance that he's going to propose. He doesn't TELL you that he has a surprise for you if that surprise is a proposal. . My fiance totally surprised me. Wouldn't have it any other way. feels more "real". Well I guess it had better be a ring; now that you're obsessed with the thought, nothing else will be good enough. Poor guy. Agreed. No matter how much she says she is cool with it if it isn't a proposal, hes dug himself into a hole now. Link to post Share on other sites
I Luv the Chariot OH Posted July 13, 2008 Share Posted July 13, 2008 Two questions which will answer everything: 1. Are you a teenager? 2. Is this your first relationship? Also, if you aren't living with your bf you'll be "alone Monday through Friday?" o_O Don't you have any friends or family? Link to post Share on other sites
O'Malley Posted July 14, 2008 Share Posted July 14, 2008 Why the rush to get engaged? Just enjoy being with with him and see how things progress. You're focusing on getting a rock instead of being happy for him that he's completing his educational goals and sharing his future with you. Link to post Share on other sites
Author shananigans Posted July 14, 2008 Author Share Posted July 14, 2008 so now i feel like i'm being criticized.... hes already bought a house, its a live in academy so he wont be home monday through friday there fore i would be alone... and i dont care thats its only been 10 months, i am so in love with him i would marry him tomorrow and i know he would do the same, we're not in a rush to get engaged and he wants me guessing as to what the surprise is... i'm 21 and this is not my first relationship.... all i wanted was what the clues could have meant (or could mean, i'm just having fun)... not to be told i'm just a baby or anything like that... Link to post Share on other sites
Author shananigans Posted July 14, 2008 Author Share Posted July 14, 2008 I just proposed to my fiancee. You I can tell you that you are incorrect. I was telling her I had a big day set up for us and that it was a surprise. So yes I told her that I had a surprise for her and that surprise was a ring. STOP digging for information. DO YOU REALLY WANT TO RUIN your surprise. HE only told you for the same reason That i told my fiancee. I was so excited about it, I was having a hard time waiting. I just wanted to be engaged to her. He's totally in love with you and it is killing him that he has to wait. So stop worrying about it, you have the rest of your life to spend with him. he acctually just took me out and bought me a ring (it has my birthstone in it, and i think that he wanted to find out what my ring size was) and if thats the surprise i'm perfectly happy with it i'm not sitting here syaing that is he doesnt propose its over, i could NEVER let him go, not over somthing stupid like that, he also said that he wants me thinking about the surprise, at this point i really dont care if he proposes next month, him getting this ring for me today was an amazing gesture and i love it Link to post Share on other sites
Lauriebell82 Posted July 14, 2008 Share Posted July 14, 2008 so now i feel like i'm being criticized.... hes already bought a house, its a live in academy so he wont be home monday through friday there fore i would be alone... and i dont care thats its only been 10 months, i am so in love with him i would marry him tomorrow and i know he would do the same, we're not in a rush to get engaged and he wants me guessing as to what the surprise is... i'm 21 and this is not my first relationship.... all i wanted was what the clues could have meant (or could mean, i'm just having fun)... not to be told i'm just a baby or anything like that... I dont' see where anyone has called you a baby in this thread. If you are only 21 then you have PLENTY of time to get engaged and married. Let it happy naturally, forget about the clues and enjoy your relationship. Then you can be REALLY surprised when he proposes to you. Link to post Share on other sites
Trialbyfire Posted July 14, 2008 Share Posted July 14, 2008 shananigans, I think it's sweet that he took you out to get a promise ring. 'Grats! No one is knocking you. What everyone is trying to tell you is not to expect a proposal, just let things happen naturally. There are too many women who sit around obsessing about this so it spoils their own enjoyment of what's happening at the moment. I've been proposed to a number of times. Each time was a shock. While there are some guys who will tease, most don't since they want it to be a surprise, a kind of sweep you off your feet gesture. Link to post Share on other sites
Author shananigans Posted July 21, 2008 Author Share Posted July 21, 2008 so i'm like 100% sure thats he is going to propose, some things happened this past weekend 1). we were asked twice in like 20 minutes if we were getting married 2). one of those people flat out asked me... when that happened i was taken aback and didnt know what to say so i glanced at him to see his reaction and he was sneakily trying to put his hand up to his mouth to tell the person not to say anything pretty much...... but i told him that i wanted him to be happy and carry out the surprise as planned Link to post Share on other sites
sb129 Posted July 21, 2008 Share Posted July 21, 2008 Well, I really hope he is going to propose because the fallout isn't going to be very pleasant if he doesn't. Link to post Share on other sites
Lauriebell82 Posted July 21, 2008 Share Posted July 21, 2008 so i'm like 100% sure thats he is going to propose, some things happened this past weekend 1). we were asked twice in like 20 minutes if we were getting married 2). one of those people flat out asked me... when that happened i was taken aback and didnt know what to say so i glanced at him to see his reaction and he was sneakily trying to put his hand up to his mouth to tell the person not to say anything pretty much...... but i told him that i wanted him to be happy and carry out the surprise as planned That doesn't mean he is going to propose..keep that in mind. I agree with sb that the fallout is not going to be pretty if you don't get your proposal. Your hopes are up WAY too high. Please don't EVER think that you are 100 % sure that a man will propose to you..because you are not. Even if he was planning on proposing, he may very well "chicken out" or feel that the timing is not right and not go through with it at that time. It sounds like your mind is pretty much made up, but for the sake of your relationship you need to come down from the clouds..because if he doesn't propose and you have a really bad reaction, that is really going effect your relationship. Just a question, but why are you in such a hurry? It seems like you REALLY REALLY want this, and I totally understand that you do, but why can't you just wait for the right moment? Constantly thinking/wondering if he is going to propose is totally going to ruin the moment for both of you. 10 months is not that long to be together and it's not like you have been waiting around for years. What's the deal? Link to post Share on other sites
Author shananigans Posted July 21, 2008 Author Share Posted July 21, 2008 whatever you guys are jerks i dont know why i joined this stupid board..... Link to post Share on other sites
sb129 Posted July 21, 2008 Share Posted July 21, 2008 whatever you guys are jerks i dont know why i joined this stupid board..... What a lovely reply to some of the thoughtful and rational advice you have received. You joined because you wanted advice. You got advice, except unfortunately it wasn't exactly what you wanted to hear. Thats life, thats what happens when you ask for advice on a public forum. It doesn't make people "jerks" for expressing their opinion. Heres another one for you: Due to your most recent post, I think you are FAR too immature and young to even be contemplating marriage after only 10months with a man. I doubt you even have any concept of what marriage is about. its about alot more than a ring. Good luck with that. Link to post Share on other sites
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