TheSilentType Posted July 11, 2008 Posted July 11, 2008 Did the person not even respond to you? Did they respond and were blunt? How did you deal with it? Did you get nasty with them? Did you just walk away? Questions....questions....questions. Just curious what others experiences were.
LoveDeluxe78 Posted July 11, 2008 Posted July 11, 2008 Did the person not even respond to you? Did they respond and were blunt? How did you deal with it? Did you get nasty with them? Did you just walk away? Questions....questions....questions. Just curious what others experiences were. You can read my post: Date With A Younger Guy Version 2.0 for more details, but.......... We had 2 great dates and then, NOTHING!!!!!!!! I mean, NOTHING!!! Strange! I have had guys call me after dates where I was not interested; I have had guys who mutually felt the blatant lack of connection and didn't call, which I was grateful for. But I have never had several dates with a guy with whom I felt a strong connection and then NOTHING!!! I was a bit fed up with the game playing, so I texted him and said "I had fun, we talked about hanging out again, sounds like a good idea..." and NOTHING!!!! I even saw him at the place he worked (I'm a customer) and he acted professional, but didn't address anything... I've stopped going there, needless to say.... I don't know if it's him I'm really into anymore, or whether I am just baffled. I don't think I'm coming from a place of arrogance, as in how could someone not want to date me again, but more from a place of surprise, like, wow, I thought the dates went well, maybe he didn't see it that way, but usually, I am very in tuned to the level of connection between myself and another person!!!! Weird!!! So that has been my worse rejection in my 29 years of life and however many year of dating! lol
gummybear Posted July 11, 2008 Posted July 11, 2008 No one has ever rejected me in a mean way. They've all been nice, which kinda even hurts more. Cuz at least if someone is mean bout it, you know they are not worth it.
Jilly Bean Posted July 11, 2008 Posted July 11, 2008 OMG - worst ever was when I was undergrad. Had this MAD crazy crush on this guy. Every now and then we would hook up, but he had a GF at home, and would never "go there" with me. Regardless, at 18, I was a mental patient over him. One day, he passed me on the stairs, and we got into "it" (fighting). He threw his hands up around his gorgeous blond locks, waved them, and just said, "Bean, fuc*ing leave me alone. Just leave me alone." Wow. Even now it hurts to remember it and I shudder. I STILL LOVE YOU RICK!!! CALL MEEEE!!!!! I KNOW WE CAN WORK IT OUT!!!!
JohnnyBlaze Posted July 11, 2008 Posted July 11, 2008 In the long run, the worst rejection I ever received from a girl was a blatant lie. She told me that she never dated guys she worked with, and then turned around a few months later and dated a guy who worked with us. It's not so much the rejection at the time that hurt, but the fact that she thought so little of me as to lie to my face and then openly prove it.
LoveDeluxe78 Posted July 11, 2008 Posted July 11, 2008 OMG - worst ever was when I was undergrad. Had this MAD crazy crush on this guy. Every now and then we would hook up, but he had a GF at home, and would never "go there" with me. Regardless, at 18, I was a mental patient over him. One day, he passed me on the stairs, and we got into "it" (fighting). He threw his hands up around his gorgeous blond locks, waved them, and just said, "Bean, fuc*ing leave me alone. Just leave me alone." Wow. Even now it hurts to remember it and I shudder. I STILL LOVE YOU RICK!!! CALL MEEEE!!!!! I KNOW WE CAN WORK IT OUT!!!! Aaaaawww............that was pretty mean of him!!! But he was young and was being immature about it!!!!! Hugz........
Jake Barnes Posted July 11, 2008 Posted July 11, 2008 Having my then-live in gf tell me that she spent her lunch break blowing a co-worker in his car was pretty bad
LoveDeluxe78 Posted July 11, 2008 Posted July 11, 2008 Having my then-live in gf tell me that she spent her lunch break blowing a co-worker in his car was pretty bad Are you serious???!!! Aaaawww....hope you dropped her fast!!!!!!!
Lights Posted July 11, 2008 Posted July 11, 2008 Did the person not even respond to you? Did they respond and were blunt? How did you deal with it? Did you get nasty with them? Did you just walk away? Questions....questions....questions. Just curious what others experiences were. The number of times that I've been ignored outright and/or walked right past is beyond counting. There've been a few times when they've literally turned and run. I've been insulted a few times, but unfortunately in each case I was not quick enough to make them pay for it. I haven't been able to deal with the situations. The individuals have been able to act with impunity.
rawkwell Posted July 11, 2008 Posted July 11, 2008 In high school, everybody knew I had a crush on this guy. He knew it too. At the dance, he walked right up to me, passed by me, and asked Jenny to dance. I was heartbroken.
CaliGuy Posted July 11, 2008 Posted July 11, 2008 You can read my post: Date With A Younger Guy Version 2.0 for more details, but.......... We had 2 great dates and then, NOTHING!!!!!!!! I mean, NOTHING!!! Strange! I have had guys call me after dates where I was not interested; I have had guys who mutually felt the blatant lack of connection and didn't call, which I was grateful for. But I have never had several dates with a guy with whom I felt a strong connection and then NOTHING!!! I was a bit fed up with the game playing, so I texted him and said "I had fun, we talked about hanging out again, sounds like a good idea..." and NOTHING!!!! I even saw him at the place he worked (I'm a customer) and he acted professional, but didn't address anything... I've stopped going there, needless to say.... I don't know if it's him I'm really into anymore, or whether I am just baffled. I don't think I'm coming from a place of arrogance, as in how could someone not want to date me again, but more from a place of surprise, like, wow, I thought the dates went well, maybe he didn't see it that way, but usually, I am very in tuned to the level of connection between myself and another person!!!! Weird!!! So that has been my worse rejection in my 29 years of life and however many year of dating! lol Aw poor thing. (Move to San Diego)
CaliGuy Posted July 11, 2008 Posted July 11, 2008 In the long run, the worst rejection I ever received from a girl was a blatant lie. She told me that she never dated guys she worked with, and then turned around a few months later and dated a guy who worked with us. It's not so much the rejection at the time that hurt, but the fact that she thought so little of me as to lie to my face and then openly prove it. Yeap. That happens a lot. I've had it both ways (they tell me they dont and yet date me or tell me they dont and date others).
LoveDeluxe78 Posted July 11, 2008 Posted July 11, 2008 Aw poor thing. (Move to San Diego) I DID live in SD for six months (beautiful city) and Orange County for 4 years! Just moved back to San Francisco. Rejections are bad, no matter which form they come in - some are just worse than others!!!
jon01 Posted July 11, 2008 Posted July 11, 2008 You can read my post: Date With A Younger Guy Version 2.0 for more details, but.......... We had 2 great dates and then, NOTHING!!!!!!!! I mean, NOTHING!!! Strange! I have had guys call me after dates where I was not interested; I have had guys who mutually felt the blatant lack of connection and didn't call, which I was grateful for. But I have never had several dates with a guy with whom I felt a strong connection and then NOTHING!!! I was a bit fed up with the game playing, so I texted him and said "I had fun, we talked about hanging out again, sounds like a good idea..." and NOTHING!!!! I even saw him at the place he worked (I'm a customer) and he acted professional, but didn't address anything... I've stopped going there, needless to say.... I don't know if it's him I'm really into anymore, or whether I am just baffled. I don't think I'm coming from a place of arrogance, as in how could someone not want to date me again, but more from a place of surprise, like, wow, I thought the dates went well, maybe he didn't see it that way, but usually, I am very in tuned to the level of connection between myself and another person!!!! Weird!!! So that has been my worse rejection in my 29 years of life and however many year of dating! lol Wow, if that's your worst in 29 years you must be really used to having all the men fall for you. Suddenly when one of them doesn't click you got all baffled and bewildered. Lol
LoveDeluxe78 Posted July 11, 2008 Posted July 11, 2008 Wow, if that's your worst in 29 years you must be really used to having all the men fall for you. Suddenly when one of them doesn't click you got all baffled and bewildered. Lol Rejection is rejection isn't it? It always sucks. It's not that I've never been rejected before, you can never account for other people's taste or sense of compatibility, lol, but it's just that I'm not used to so much momentum and then POUF, NOTHING... I guess he really owes me nothing, but it's more the shock of "Woah, I was WAY off with this one......"
LoveDeluxe78 Posted July 11, 2008 Posted July 11, 2008 Wow, if that's your worst in 29 years you must be really used to having all the men fall for you. Suddenly when one of them doesn't click you got all baffled and bewildered. Lol Plus he was super cool and I liked him.....
jon01 Posted July 11, 2008 Posted July 11, 2008 Rejection is rejection isn't it? It always sucks. It's not that I've never been rejected before, you can never account for other people's taste or sense of compatibility, lol, but it's just that I'm not used to so much momentum and then POUF, NOTHING... I guess he really owes me nothing, but it's more the shock of "Woah, I was WAY off with this one......" Right! Well, if it's any consolation, I've had many of those sort of rejections But my worst ever was my wife of several years leaving me and despite my efforts to win her back, she wanted no more of me and instead fell in love with someone else while we were still together. That's what I call rejection!
Prodigal Princess Posted July 11, 2008 Posted July 11, 2008 Regardless, at 18, I was a mental patient over him... I STILL LOVE YOU RICK!!! CALL MEEEE!!!!! I KNOW WE CAN WORK IT OUT!!!! You are a cack, Bean. I've never been outright rejected (yet), however at 22 I was madly in love with my boss who I also lost my virginity to, I pretty much thought he was God. Anyway, I was on his computer at work writing his master's thesis for him (yes, thats how low I had stooped) when an email popped up from a woman saying "babe can you remember to bring home milk tonight? xx". Turns out he was living with and engaged to someone else the entire time we were going out (18 months). When I would stay over at his place it was really just one of his properties... and the lies went on and on, nothing was as it had seemed. They are married with a baby now. The deception is still incomprehensible to me. I'll never get over it. Ever.
jon01 Posted July 11, 2008 Posted July 11, 2008 You are a cack, Bean. I've never been outright rejected (yet), however at 22 I was madly in love with my boss who I also lost my virginity to, I pretty much thought he was God. Anyway, I was on his computer at work writing his master's thesis for him (yes, thats how low I had stooped) when an email popped up from a woman saying "babe can you remember to bring home milk tonight? xx". Turns out he was living with and engaged to someone else the entire time we were going out (18 months). When I would stay over at his place it was really just one of his properties... and the lies went on and on, nothing was as it had seemed. They are married with a baby now. The deception is still incomprehensible to me. I'll never get over it. Ever. Wow that's just horrible, I'm really sorry for you having to go through that. You should have made a point to inform his wife about all this. What a pri*k!
LoveDeluxe78 Posted July 11, 2008 Posted July 11, 2008 Right! Well, if it's any consolation, I've had many of those sort of rejections But my worst ever was my wife of several years leaving me and despite my efforts to win her back, she wanted no more of me and instead fell in love with someone else while we were still together. That's what I call rejection! Ouch! I am so sorry to hear this! How are you dealing with it these days? Do you believe in the old adage "Time Heals All Wounds"? I guess the question is, "how long?"
LoveDeluxe78 Posted July 11, 2008 Posted July 11, 2008 You are a cack, Bean. I've never been outright rejected (yet), however at 22 I was madly in love with my boss who I also lost my virginity to, I pretty much thought he was God. Anyway, I was on his computer at work writing his master's thesis for him (yes, thats how low I had stooped) when an email popped up from a woman saying "babe can you remember to bring home milk tonight? xx". Turns out he was living with and engaged to someone else the entire time we were going out (18 months). When I would stay over at his place it was really just one of his properties... and the lies went on and on, nothing was as it had seemed. They are married with a baby now. The deception is still incomprehensible to me. I'll never get over it. Ever. Oh my, this is more than deception, this is him living a double, or triple life!!! I've always HEARD of people doing this, but guess it is more common than previously thought!!! So sorry you had to go through that!!!! I don't feel you have an obligation to tell his wife. You didn't know her, but you had an obligation to end whatever it is you were having with him, which it seems like you did.
Prodigal Princess Posted July 11, 2008 Posted July 11, 2008 Thanks guys! Yeah, the experience fundamentally changed me for life. Ive never been rejected since, coz I just dont put myself out there anymore. I never told the wife. I suspect she deliberately turned a blind eye to his ways, anyway. Moreover, I dont think I could cope with the drama; I was traumatised enough. It took me a good 2 years to even fully comprehend what he did, I was in denial for ages. I didn't even have the "it's over" conversation with him, I just went silent and let him figure it out. We still have to work together and we still have not spoken about it since. I dont think I could ever articulate how I feel, so there is no point in speaking about it. I think he's grateful I didn't turn psycho on his arse.
jon01 Posted July 11, 2008 Posted July 11, 2008 I dont think I could ever articulate how I feel, so there is no point in speaking about it. I think he's grateful I didn't turn psycho on his arse. This guy is terrible.. but you are through the worst part and it sounds like you have a good attitude. You could someday write a book about it, and it might be a bestseller. What this guy needs, is to pull a stunt like that on one of those psycho type chicks. Like the one from Fatal Attraction. Then he will learn a good lesson.
TudorII Posted July 11, 2008 Posted July 11, 2008 I thought I would cheer this up for a minute and speak the best break up I ever had. A girl I was casual dating for a while was getting transfered because of her job. It wasn't real serious but was exclusive and very sexual. We knew neither of us would do the long distance thing and would move on. So prior to her leaving she made a little video for me of her playing with one of her toys solo to the point of orgasm. The card with the video simply said "you don't have to stop enjoying me just because I'm not here." She was a fun one and I did continue to enjoy her on occassion until I meet my now wife who made me get rid of my single days memorabila. LOL
Pedigree Posted July 11, 2008 Posted July 11, 2008 Did the person not even respond to you? Did they respond and were blunt? How did you deal with it? Did you get nasty with them? Did you just walk away? Questions....questions....questions. Just curious what others experiences were. Worst way I've been rejected...it took the girl in question a whole month before she informed me she had a bf. She was very aware of my advances, reacted positively, caused me to believe that I may be heading somewhere, then brought everything down. How did I deal with it? Pretty much business as usual minus me taking certain stuff as signals and making advances. Still see her now and again on my facebook newsfeed.
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