Every day I reach this low at some point and want to break no contact

[confused and broken]

Same old story...

I just write it again and again, and so far I guess it has worked because I haven't broken no contact...

He was a huge part of my support system, and I could always talk to him and get a different perspective on life...

So now that I broke up with him... I can't replace him... I guess he was good at taking my mind off of things, and making me feel better, and then when he was a s***ty boyfriend I was focused on him as a problem instead of other things in my life...

Now I just feel alone, and everyone is like talk to your friends blah blah blah

He was my closest friend, and all of my friends are married or in relationships or I can't talk to them...

I'm lost and I don't know where I'm going...

[Peter_pan]

we are here to help, just talk. let it out. you can break nc, but it will probably make you more sad . try and be strong, meet new people, take up a sport?

[northstar1]

Same old story...

I just write it again and again, and so far I guess it has worked because I haven't broken no contact...

He was a huge part of my support system, and I could always talk to him and get a different perspective on life...

So now that I broke up with him... I can't replace him... I guess he was good at taking my mind off of things, and making me feel better, and then when he was a s***ty boyfriend I was focused on him as a problem instead of other things in my life...

Now I just feel alone, and everyone is like talk to your friends blah blah blah

He was my closest friend, and all of my friends are married or in relationships or I can't talk to them...

I'm lost and I don't know where I'm going...

 

We've all been there, or are there.

For me mornings are the worst when I feel I want to break NC. But I don't, for the same reason you don't.

 

Even if your friends are married/in relationships, I'm sure you can still talk to them.

 

Keep yourself occupied, join a gym, or classes .

[replicator]

Hi Confused.

 

Write down your thoughts. Cry if you can. Reach out to someone if you can.

 

Use this forum - get it out.

 

Since you're the dumper, it's opens my eyes to see that you're going through such a tough time. I think my ex was vulnerable, and I'm upset she allowed herself o go to another man. I'm worried about her, but what can I do...

 

Love bites.

[confused and broken]

Hi Confused.

 

Write down your thoughts. Cry if you can. Reach out to someone if you can.

 

Use this forum - get it out.

 

Since you're the dumper, it's opens my eyes to see that you're going through such a tough time. I think my ex was vulnerable, and I'm upset she allowed herself o go to another man. I'm worried about her, but what can I do...

 

Love bites.

 

I am totally the dumper that doesn't make it hurt less...He actually wanted to spend the rest of his life with me (supposedly)...

What hurts is that he wasn't the right person for me, but we were still extremely close and I gave him a part of myself...

 

I wish that he had been the right guy that would have made my life so much easier...

 

He was a sh**ty boyfriend, and I have no problems forgiving him he is who he is...I just miss the good times, the intimacy and talking to him(his friendship) but no it's not worth it but I forget that often

[confused and broken]

We've all been there, or are there.

For me mornings are the worst when I feel I want to break NC. But I don't, for the same reason you don't.

 

Even if your friends are married/in relationships, I'm sure you can still talk to them.

 

Keep yourself occupied, join a gym, or classes .

 

I think evenings are the worst for me because that is the time we spent together.....or talked...

 

Honestly my best friend hates him so much that she said if she ever saw him she would spit on him so I couldn't even tell her about the last time I got back together with him because she would have thought I was sooo pathetic

[replicator]

I am totally the dumper that doesn't make it hurt less...He actually wanted to spend the rest of his life with me (supposedly)...

What hurts is that he wasn't the right person for me, but we were still extremely close and I gave him a part of myself...

 

I wish that he had been the right guy that would have made my life so much easier...

 

He was a sh**ty boyfriend, and I have no problems forgiving him he is who he is...I just miss the good times, the intimacy and talking to him(his friendship) but no it's not worth it but I forget that often

 

Dumpers get a lot flak here, because so many of us are on the receiving end of it. It's good that you're here, I think it shows that dumpers are human too, and in a real relationship, they don't just walk away so easily.

 

I know my ex is hurt too, and she is only human. It is just difficult, and there is no easy way.

[confused and broken]

Dumpers get a lot flak here, because so many of us are on the receiving end of it. It's good that you're here, I think it shows that dumpers are human too, and in a real relationship, they don't just walk away so easily.

 

I know my ex is hurt too, and she is only human. It is just difficult, and there is no easy way.

 

Hey... I think you are getting closer to forgiveness...

 

OK I'll admit I sometimes even have problems remembering my ex was human...

I think why why why and I just don't get it... (like he was from a different planet) but he's not (i guess) lol

[replicator]

Hey... I think you are getting closer to forgiveness...

 

OK I'll admit I sometimes even have problems remembering my ex was human...

I think why why why and I just don't get it... (like he was from a different planet) but he's not (i guess) lol

 

I go back and forth from feeling like I want to forgive, but it is going to take some time. I want to move beyond everything, and let it all go, but there is no easy way to do that. I'm just too hurt. When you trust someone with your life, you do so because they make you believe that they are firmly committed to you. It eats me up.

 

Anyhow - I do hope you're feeling better. For the sake of the dumpee, if you don't love him enough to be with him, stay NC. It wouldn't be fair to him to give him false hopes. Stay strong.

[confused and broken]

I go back and forth from feeling like I want to forgive, but it is going to take some time. I want to move beyond everything, and let it all go, but there is no easy way to do that. I'm just too hurt. When you trust someone with your life, you do so because they make you believe that they are firmly committed to you. It eats me up.

 

Anyhow - I do hope you're feeling better. For the sake of the dumpee, if you don't love him enough to be with him, stay NC. It wouldn't be fair to him to give him false hopes. Stay strong.

 

I know that your right about NC being the best decision, but the problem is that he always catches me at the weakest moment (it's like he has esp, and knows when I'm really weak)...

 

he will wait because he knows I won't give in yet...

 

Last time he convinced me we could still be friends

of course I knew that would never work... but somehow I went for it next thing I know I am stuck in this deep conversation with him about how he has changed and I can put him on probation and there is no one else for him... how he has been dating other girls but there nothing

AND EVEN>>> GET THIS!!! there is no other guy for me and I will see that if I start dating other guys

That's what caught me (LOL)

I thought maybe he's right maybe he is the only guy for me...

 

And I am still f ed up about that