DunnoWhat Posted July 11, 2008 Posted July 11, 2008 Do women do it all the time? I'm chatting with a girl and set up a date for saturday.. we had a good date last saturday too so this will be the second. We usually chat on msn at night time but tonight there was no sign of her although I did spot her online. I did say we'd have to arrange it and she is keen to meet up again (even hinting at it on the date last week) so I'm wondering what game she is playing and why? Also she is on an online dating site constantly emailing people but she assured me she wasn't chatting to anybody.
ate_the_paint Posted July 11, 2008 Posted July 11, 2008 Hard to tell! All you can do is worry about yourself. Back off a little and let her chase you a bit.
bish Posted July 11, 2008 Posted July 11, 2008 Do women do it all the time? Nope. But the women that do I pay no mind. Either they are into me or not. I won't bother with a woman that plays games.
Lizzie60 Posted July 11, 2008 Posted July 11, 2008 Do women do it all the time? I'm chatting with a girl and set up a date for saturday.. we had a good date last saturday too so this will be the second. We usually chat on msn at night time but tonight there was no sign of her although I did spot her online. I did say we'd have to arrange it and she is keen to meet up again (even hinting at it on the date last week) so I'm wondering what game she is playing and why? Also she is on an online dating site constantly emailing people but she assured me she wasn't chatting to anybody. WOW.. I just can't believe this... you only dated her ONCE.. and you are watching her every moves on the Internet... After one date with you, the girl is a 'prisoner' and can't chat with anyone??? or even go on the Internet dating sites? Have you already 'proposed'??? If I were her I would run... you sound very desperate and needy...
CaliGuy Posted July 11, 2008 Posted July 11, 2008 If you're too available to her, she won't find you interesting. Not interesting = not attractive. Chew on that a tad.
Author DunnoWhat Posted July 11, 2008 Author Posted July 11, 2008 WOW.. I just can't believe this... you only dated her ONCE.. and you are watching her every moves on the Internet... After one date with you, the girl is a 'prisoner' and can't chat with anyone??? or even go on the Internet dating sites? Have you already 'proposed'??? If I were her I would run... you sound very desperate and needy... No I'm not watching her ever move on the internet. When I'm checking my mails I see she is on it and sometimes when we chat on MSN she'll say to me there is such and such a person who wants to chat to her. She did say to me "don't worry I'm not chating to anybody" and I said to her I'm not worried to which she replied "oh, ok".
Author DunnoWhat Posted July 11, 2008 Author Posted July 11, 2008 Who normally initiates the chats or contacts? After the date last saturday night I told her we'd chat online. Before that she said if it didn't work out then we won't chat just to be polite but it did work out. There was no contact from that saturday night to monday night. I didn't even send a text message and she is usually online before me and happy to see me. She also was surprised when I told her I was impressed with her. I don't think she thought I liked her...
carhill Posted July 11, 2008 Posted July 11, 2008 OK, do something novel.....pick up the phone and call her and set up the date
Author DunnoWhat Posted July 11, 2008 Author Posted July 11, 2008 OK, do something novel.....pick up the phone and call her and set up the date The date is set but we must arrange times etc.. I'll see her online tonight unless she's suddenly changed her mind.
carhill Posted July 11, 2008 Posted July 11, 2008 *clears throat* Arrange the times on the phone. Trust me
Author DunnoWhat Posted July 11, 2008 Author Posted July 11, 2008 *clears throat* Arrange the times on the phone. Trust me I'm sure some people will accuse me of being needy and desperate if I do that! lol I already told her I'd see her online tonight. The last date lasted 5 hours and she complained it wasn't long enough.. to be honest time flew so tomorrow we're thinking of going to a match and then to pub depending on the weather.
carhill Posted July 11, 2008 Posted July 11, 2008 I'm sure some people will accuse me of being needy and desperate if I do that! lol Why? I ask that sincerely.
bish Posted July 11, 2008 Posted July 11, 2008 If you're too available to her, she won't find you interesting. And if you are not as available, then all of a sudden you are a jerk. Face it, we can't win.
Author DunnoWhat Posted July 11, 2008 Author Posted July 11, 2008 ^ True bish! Why? I ask that sincerely. On every thread there has been some who say I should call the women otherwise it shows lack of interest and if a man did that to them they'd find somebody else... and some who say leave it don't contact the girl for a few day because if a man rang them after a day or 2 then that would be desperate and a turn off.
Trialbyfire Posted July 11, 2008 Posted July 11, 2008 If you're interested in a girl, don't hem and haw about it. Make plans with no hesitation. As Nike says "just do it"!
carhill Posted July 11, 2008 Posted July 11, 2008 My advice is to call versus sending a text message or e-mail. The impetus is still the same, but I think your lady would appreciate my suggested method more
Star Gazer Posted July 12, 2008 Posted July 12, 2008 Let me get this straight... You have made no effort to contact her, and as a result you think SHE is playing games??
carhill Posted July 12, 2008 Posted July 12, 2008 Undependable and unreliable- the epitome of attractive male behavior
Trialbyfire Posted July 12, 2008 Posted July 12, 2008 Undependable and unreliable- the epitome of attractive male behavior Of course sooner or later, crash and burn...baby!
carhill Posted July 12, 2008 Posted July 12, 2008 Smokin' hole in the desert of loneliness and despair
Author DunnoWhat Posted July 12, 2008 Author Posted July 12, 2008 We're meeting today... still she doesn't text me or nothin just says to meet in a place! Strange.. Let me get this straight... You have made no effort to contact her, and as a result you think SHE is playing games?? I don't want to turn her off by flooding her with text messages thats all. I was online the other night and she never showed up and I know she was at home.
Author DunnoWhat Posted July 12, 2008 Author Posted July 12, 2008 Undependable and unreliable- the epitome of attractive male behavior Not calling doesn't mean you're not dependable!
Trialbyfire Posted July 12, 2008 Posted July 12, 2008 We're meeting today... still she doesn't text me or nothin just says to meet in a place! Strange.. I don't want to turn her off by flooding her with text messages thats all. I was online the other night and she never showed up and I know she was at home. Why are you being so passive? As carhill mentioned, pick up the phone and call her. Dating by text message is so not alpha!
carhill Posted July 12, 2008 Posted July 12, 2008 Not calling doesn't mean you're not dependable! Correct. It means you can be depended on to not call. Consistently frustrating behavior can be a positive, see?
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