NoWhereMan Posted July 10, 2008 Posted July 10, 2008 Had lunch today with a good male friend (divorced) with whom I shared how I am starting the divorce process. He asked me if I was planning to have a "man's night out" if you will. I said no. That's not me. Evidently, right after he served his wife with papers, he started going out regularly to bars, etc. He eventually stopped but he and I both know of some of those (women and men) who did not. I never understood the bar scene. This made me wonder, for those of who initiated the split and felt relief, what did you do? Did you go out and start having Guys or Girls night out or something else? If so, why and how long did you do this before you did not feel the need to anymore?
TrustInYourself Posted July 10, 2008 Posted July 10, 2008 My wife initiated the split. I started going out immediately. She's appreciated the fact that I have a social life, since one of the things she found attractive about me when we first met was the size of my social circle and how I was a very social, outgoing, person. It doesn't have to be about bars. Why not go out and do some of the things you enjoy? Golfing, swimming, house parties, etc. The point of going out is to find yourself and get your STBXW off your mind. You'd be surprised how much healing can happen when you are out having fun, being adventurous, and reconnecting with old buddies. I know I was surprised.
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