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Okay, I've heard of rejection...BUT...have you ever heard of rejection BEFORE being rejected? Basically, a woman doesn't even let you get FAR enough to even ask her out? :bunny:

 

Say you bump into a woman you know, you hadn't seen her since the last party or get together at the last Memorial Day BBQ 6 months ago...and you say, "How how are you doing, hadn't seen you in a l ong time! What have you been up to lately? You hadn't been hanging out with us much lately.!"

 

And you get, "Man, sheesh, life has been so CRAZY lately, busy with school, busy with work, hadn't even had time to get out to see my friends, even my FRIENDS are irritated wthat I haven't hung with them"

 

Translated: "Don't even think of asking me out" "I'll throw this series of words and phrases of how my life has been topsy turvey lately, so he gets the hint not to even bother asking me out"

 

And of course, the guy says, "So, want to grab lunch sometime?"

 

Her, thinking, "Is this guy an idiot, can't he take a hint?"

 

Ladies, you do this, admit it, right? LOL

Linux Established Member

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Usually it's when women randomly throw out the fact that she has a boyfriend even though your conversation has absolutely nothing to do with him. For example:

 

(5 mins before class starts)

You: "Hey Karen, I wasn't in class yesterday and I wanted to quickly skim over it in the book before he starts lecturing...what was the new material that we covered?"

 

Karen: "Oh sorry, I wasn't here yesterday either. [she could of stopped right here] My boyfriend and I took a trip to the beach instead of going to school since it was such as nice day outside yesterday. My boyfriend is a spontaneous guy like that, you know.

 

You: (confused look on your face) Ok... thanks for the random information I didn't solicit or care about...

serial muse Established Member

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Okay, I've heard of rejection...BUT...have you ever heard of rejection BEFORE being rejected? Basically, a woman doesn't even let you get FAR enough to even ask her out? :bunny:

 

Say you bump into a woman you know, you hadn't seen her since the last party or get together at the last Memorial Day BBQ 6 months ago...and you say, "How how are you doing, hadn't seen you in a l ong time! What have you been up to lately? You hadn't been hanging out with us much lately.!"

 

And you get, "Man, sheesh, life has been so CRAZY lately, busy with school, busy with work, hadn't even had time to get out to see my friends, even my FRIENDS are irritated wthat I haven't hung with them"

 

Translated: "Don't even think of asking me out" "I'll throw this series of words and phrases of how my life has been topsy turvey lately, so he gets the hint not to even bother asking me out"

 

And of course, the guy says, "So, want to grab lunch sometime?"

 

Her, thinking, "Is this guy an idiot, can't he take a hint?"

 

Ladies, you do this, admit it, right? LOL

 

Whoooooaaaa, you sound really, really paranoid here. Maybe she was just busy? Based on your posts, I'm starting to wonder if you're a bit over....um, "stressed" about rejection. You see it everywhere. Maybe relax and stop looking for it?

D-Lish Established Member

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mmm, I don't think it's done on purpose for the most part.

Sometimes when you're dating someone and you're high in the clouds, it's a novelty to announce you have a "bf". I don't think it's a ploy...

 

You didn't give Karen any indication you were even thinking about asking her out- so the bf mentioning was simply the truth about what she has done the day before.

 

I think you're reading too much into it. Even the girl that mentioned how busy she was, was probably just mentioning she had been busy!

 

I wish I had told this creep that lives on my street I had a bf... He's a 60 year old loser with stains on his wife beater and a huge pot belly. He always whistles or makes rude comments- and he followed me up the street yesterday asking me to give him a kiss for his b-day. I wasn't smart enough to tell him I was attached and today he came into my courtyard where I was sitting with my dogs and plopped himself down and told me he thinks we should have some casual fun together...EW!!! It's those kinds of situations when a girl might mention she is seeing someone... not in responses to innocent questions.

 

I dunno L... I think perhaps you are misreading these things.

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He always whistles or makes rude comments- and he followed me up the street yesterday asking me to give him a kiss for his b-day.

Most 60 y/o pervs I've been around don't care whether you're married, engaged, cohabiting or a nun. Their generation (soon to be mine :D) is used to not taking no for an answer. I don't know that you could've done anything to nip that particularly foul-smelling plant in the bud.

 

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OP, this is easy....look at her, smile, empathize with her situation and ask her girlfriend out :D

Linux Established Member

Linux

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mmm, I don't think it's done on purpose for the most part.

Sometimes when you're dating someone and you're high in the clouds, it's a novelty to announce you have a "bf". I don't think it's a ploy...

 

You didn't give Karen any indication you were even thinking about asking her out- so the bf mentioning was simply the truth about what she has done the day before.

 

I think you're reading too much into it. Even the girl that mentioned how busy she was, was probably just mentioning she had been busy!

 

I wish I had told this creep that lives on my street I had a bf... He's a 60 year old loser with stains on his wife beater and a huge pot belly. He always whistles or makes rude comments- and he followed me up the street yesterday asking me to give him a kiss for his b-day. I wasn't smart enough to tell him I was attached and today he came into my courtyard where I was sitting with my dogs and plopped himself down and told me he thinks we should have some casual fun together...EW!!! It's those kinds of situations when a girl might mention she is seeing someone... not in responses to innocent questions.

 

I dunno L... I think perhaps you are misreading these things.

 

Opps... I guess I didn't make it clear... This didn't actually happen to me I was just stating that this is the type of scenario where a girl is tell you don't even bother asking her out.

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Linux is right; 35 mentions of the phrase "my boyfriend" is generally enough to drill the answer into all but the most hardcore perverts.

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Okay, I've heard of rejection...BUT...have you ever heard of rejection BEFORE being rejected? Basically, a woman doesn't even let you get FAR enough to even ask her out? :bunny:

 

Say you bump into a woman you know, you hadn't seen her since the last party or get together at the last Memorial Day BBQ 6 months ago...and you say, "How how are you doing, hadn't seen you in a l ong time! What have you been up to lately? You hadn't been hanging out with us much lately.!"

 

And you get,

 

Translated: "Don't even think of asking me out" "I'll throw this series of words and phrases of how my life has been topsy turvey lately, so he gets the hint not to even bother asking me out"

 

And of course, the guy says, "So, want to grab lunch sometime?"

 

Her, thinking, "Is this guy an idiot, can't he take a hint?"

 

Ladies, you do this, admit it, right? LOL

 

Totally. And it's so annoying when guys don't just get it. Will give you a short story. Facebook: I don't pay much attention to it and basically responds to all friendship requests without paying much attention. My boss had an IT issue, calls up a guy from IT section to fix his comp, I happen bump into the IT guy in the hallway. He's like, "wait, I think I know you, you're my Facebook friend!" Geez. I'm speechless for a sec, and I'm like "yeah, I remember you!" (of course not). He's like "how about we have lunch this afternoon and get to know one another?". Eek! Such a turn-off. So Immediately I go into "Man, sheesh, life has been so CRAZY lately, busy with school, busy with work, hadn't even had time to get out to see my friends, even my FRIENDS are irritated wthat I haven't hung with them"

 

He's like okay then, maybe tomorrow or when things are less crazy for you? I think:"Is this guy an idiot, can't he take a hint?"

SeraBella Established Member

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Honestly, there have been times when I've said things to keep people from asking me out...including mentioning a boyfriend, stating how busy I am, etc. but for the most part when I say those things it's NOT a presumptuous rejection. It's just because I like to talk.

Jilly Bean Established Member

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Yes, I totally do it. Its called the "pre-emptive dump." Just in case you *thought* of asking me out, I want to spare us both the pain of going through that unnecessary exercise.

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