Virgo1982 Posted July 11, 2008 Posted July 11, 2008 I think this is it. I read some of his other post and think he just lost interest in her. From what I could pick up, they were middle aged and he lost his attraction to her and wanted something younger. I hope she has grown a back bone and left the marriage. So do you think he lost interest before or after he asked her to work on the marriage?
NoIDidn't Posted July 11, 2008 Posted July 11, 2008 I read his threads/posts too. His posts came off as completely disconnected from W and OW. He didn't care about either as he admitted that he was with one because of the kids and the other because of the sex. Even the way he told her about his "girlfriend" was disconnected. Don't know that I could bond with someone like that, hysterically or not. Maybe he shows more emotion to his accountant?
Virgo1982 Posted July 11, 2008 Posted July 11, 2008 I read his threads/posts too. His posts came off as completely disconnected from W and OW. He didn't care about either as he admitted that he was with one because of the kids and the other because of the sex. Even the way he told her about his "girlfriend" was disconnected. Don't know that I could bond with someone like that, hysterically or not. Maybe he shows more emotion to his accountant? He does seem very logical. He asked for something. He didn't get it. He found it. Maybe he'll find someone as logical as he is and they can live happily ever after...
angie2443 Posted July 12, 2008 Posted July 12, 2008 So do you think he lost interest before or after he asked her to work on the marriage? I don't know. All I know is that he came on here a few times calling middle aged women unatractive. He talked about his wife's middle aged friends, calling them pathetic because they were trying to looking younger because men didn't look at them anymore. I think he just wanted to keep the wife to take care of the home while he dated someone younger. This is just the perception I got from his post. I don't think the wife could have done anything to keep her husband interested. I think he wanted something that she could no longer be.
Trialbyfire Posted July 12, 2008 Posted July 12, 2008 I read his threads/posts too. His posts came off as completely disconnected from W and OW. He didn't care about either as he admitted that he was with one because of the kids and the other because of the sex. Even the way he told her about his "girlfriend" was disconnected. Don't know that I could bond with someone like that, hysterically or not. Maybe he shows more emotion to his accountant? The way he came across in those latter threads, made me wonder if they were fantasy revenge threads.
angie2443 Posted July 12, 2008 Posted July 12, 2008 Maybe he shows more emotion to his accountant? Maybe not. He once talked about the "idiots" that he worked with. He sounded like a miserable old man that didn't hold many people in high esteem. Maybe he was just having a bad day when he wrote. Then again, most of us have our bad days. It doesn't mean that we all take it out on other people.
NoIDidn't Posted July 12, 2008 Posted July 12, 2008 What I loved about his posts were how he always berated BWs for getting old, fat, and ugly and deserved to be cheated on. I mean it. I loved his scolding views of BWs. Always good for a laugh, that one. Tell me what you really think, Scriv. LOL. I wonder if his story ended up like Hard2Think's where the poor OW apparently was in love but he was a husband that really just wanted his W's attention back? And the OW showed up at Scriv's house with a box of letters. I can't imagine him actually wanted to post about that.
Virgo1982 Posted July 12, 2008 Posted July 12, 2008 I don't know. All I know is that he came on here a few times calling middle aged women unatractive. He talked about his wife's middle aged friends, calling them pathetic because they were trying to looking younger because men didn't look at them anymore. I think he just wanted to keep the wife to take care of the home while he dated someone younger. This is just the perception I got from his post. I don't think the wife could have done anything to keep her husband interested. I think he wanted something that she could no longer be. I stand corrected.
Author twice_shy Posted July 14, 2008 Author Posted July 14, 2008 I don't think any of us can be so certain. I remember when he first explained the problem. Apparently, it took his cheating for her to give him what he asked for. (Please don't jump on me like a rabid cheeta.) I just remember him asking her to work on the marriage, without results. I basically get the impression that infidelity is much worse than refusing to work on marital issues. I think that's unfair. I don't think SD is saying he's perfect and I don't think his wife is perfect. So cheating is good to basically blackmail a spouse into being everything one wants in their spouse? And even when she did start giving it to him, he still talked about his wife, and other betrayed wives, like trash. I am wondering if she was overcompensating by giving him all this sex, then the fog lifted, she started thinking clearly, and is now taking his butt to the cleaners and isn't takin' such the tough guy, male chauvanist attitude now.
Author twice_shy Posted July 14, 2008 Author Posted July 14, 2008 He does seem very logical. He asked for something. He didn't get it. He found it. He should have gotten a divorce rather than talk about his wife, and other women, like they are trash. Maybe he'll find someone as logical as he is and they can live happily ever after... With his attitude towards women, I doubt it.
Recommended Posts