celinedion1 Posted July 10, 2008 Posted July 10, 2008 I can't get over how much my ex has changed from the person who I used to know. So today I asked him why he cheated on me instead of just breaking off the relationship. He told me that he cheated on me and fell so deeply in love over his internet girlfriend (who he hasnt met in person yet), is because I don't want to do the same career as he does. He basically told me that since I don't want to be or am into 3d modeling on the computer as much as he is, that he saw no future with me and cheated on me. Is it really possible for someone to not want to be with someone else just because they have a different career preference than you do? I personally think that he's just messed up mentally and I have given up trying ot figure him out since it's not worth it. Side note little rant: He also told me today that he likes to do other things besides 3d modeling but he just doesn't want to do them with me. He then told me that he's going ot treat his new girlfriend always nice and attend to her always (like how he did with me the first year). I asked him if he was going to stop treating her well after the first year and he told me no that he always wants to treat he well. Why does he suddenly want to treat her like a queen and never want to stop but he treated me great the first year then treated me like crap the rest of the time. Is just makes me mad to hear him tell me that hes always going to treat her good when he treated me like crap a lot of the time. Sorry for the little rant he just annoys me sometimes.
stlnsmile Posted July 10, 2008 Posted July 10, 2008 I can't get over how much my ex has changed from the person who I used to know. So today I asked him why he cheated on me instead of just breaking off the relationship. He told me that he cheated on me and fell so deeply in love over his internet girlfriend (who he hasnt met in person yet), is because I don't want to do the same career as he does. He basically told me that since I don't want to be or am into 3d modeling on the computer as much as he is, that he saw no future with me and cheated on me. Is it really possible for someone to not want to be with someone else just because they have a different career preference than you do? I personally think that he's just messed up mentally and I have given up trying ot figure him out since it's not worth it. Side note little rant: He also told me today that he likes to do other things besides 3d modeling but he just doesn't want to do them with me. He then told me that he's going ot treat his new girlfriend always nice and attend to her always (like how he did with me the first year). I asked him if he was going to stop treating her well after the first year and he told me no that he always wants to treat he well. Why does he suddenly want to treat her like a queen and never want to stop but he treated me great the first year then treated me like crap the rest of the time. Is just makes me mad to hear him tell me that hes always going to treat her good when he treated me like crap a lot of the time. Sorry for the little rant he just annoys me sometimes. You really really need to talk to Sedgwick.....her man dumped her because she wasn't a bass player.........uhhh...okay! Whatever dude......get over yourself you narcissist:)
replicator Posted July 10, 2008 Posted July 10, 2008 That is a very silly reason, and I wouldn't buy it. I say move on, you don't need to be with a guy like that. To be frank, he sounds horrible.
lollipop Posted July 10, 2008 Posted July 10, 2008 It's very tempting to berate yourself and think that he will actually be wonderful with the new girl, but the fact is that he will not be able to sustain those feelings for her either. Yes, it may be all lovey-dovey for the first bit, but inevitably his interest in her will disappear and he will start treating her like crap. Don't fall into the trap of thinking that this has something to do with YOU - it is HIS issue.
backto1 Posted July 10, 2008 Posted July 10, 2008 That guy is either a freak or major wimp for not being able to give you the real reason. I really can't decide which....the breakup over the internet girl he hasn't met yet makes me lean towards freak. I can't wait for you to find someone worthy of your love.
Author celinedion1 Posted July 10, 2008 Author Posted July 10, 2008 Thank you all so much for your kind words and great adivce. This past month has been an emotional roller coaster for me. The hardest part is knowing that he has been in my life since i was 16 and he was 15, however he's a very different person than he used to be. I don't even know the person that he's become. I've seen him emotionally and mentally come undone, over the past month. I'm learning to realize that it's not me that has the issues (as he made it seem) but it's him. He's become emotionally and mentally unstable and I hope that he one day gets the help that he needs. The best thing for me is to move on completely with my life, because I don't need someone in my life who will bring me down. I'm looking forward to the day that he moves to indiana to be with his online girlfriend. However chances are with how he is, he'll end up back here. I know i will one day when the time is right find a great guy who is deserving of my love. Until that time shall come I'm focusing on the possitives in my life and am looking forward to the many travels that I have planned.
miss_28 Posted July 10, 2008 Posted July 10, 2008 don't worry... karma will bite him in the ass... he hasn't even met her? god... that one is going to end well... and his excuse is pathetic, superficial and egotistical.
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