Author Far Behind Posted July 11, 2008 Author Posted July 11, 2008 Far, I think if you stand still and stop chasing this guy long enough, then maybe he will become the pursuer. Otherwise, all you are doing is enabling him to NOT have to do any work. Why should he? You're making all the moves, accepting all the crumbs, and he doesn't even have to return your calls. Actually, this week was the first time I initiated a phone call, he has always been the pursuer. He seemed genuinely happy that I called back and later in the conversation, he said "and you called me, that's awesome." I told him at that point that it felt awkward, and he said again he wants me to call him anytime I want to. That being said, I would never call him all the time and make myself a pest. I don't know where this is going. He told me again today that he likes talking to me...he has the kid til the 21st. I'm just going with the flow and trying to not have expectations. He did give me a mixed message this week and I called him on it. He apologized.
tkgirl Posted July 11, 2008 Posted July 11, 2008 Actually, this week was the first time I initiated a phone call, he has always been the pursuer. He seemed genuinely happy that I called back and later in the conversation, he said "and you called me, that's awesome." I told him at that point that it felt awkward, and he said again he wants me to call him anytime I want to. That being said, I would never call him all the time and make myself a pest. I don't know where this is going. He told me again today that he likes talking to me...he has the kid til the 21st. I'm just going with the flow and trying to not have expectations. He did give me a mixed message this week and I called him on it. He apologized. I don't think you were "chasing" him or accepting crumbs at all.. no way! you are way too classy for that you just needed to see what was up... I'm so glad you decided to give it another chance and call him.. guys CAN be flaky and their idea of time and calling is a lot different that ours sometimes. And while it's good to let them pursue us, sometimes they do need a little kick in the @$$ now and then! hang in there girl.. stay strong and happy! things will be just fine... GNR... lol!
Author Far Behind Posted July 11, 2008 Author Posted July 11, 2008 I don't think you were "chasing" him or accepting crumbs at all.. no way! you are way too classy for that you just needed to see what was up... I'm so glad you decided to give it another chance and call him.. guys CAN be flaky and their idea of time and calling is a lot different that ours sometimes. And while it's good to let them pursue us, sometimes they do need a little kick in the @$$ now and then! hang in there girl.. stay strong and happy! things will be just fine... GNR... lol! Thanks, TKGirl, you definitely understand what I'm saying...thanks for your support!!!
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