RamblinRose Posted July 9, 2008 Posted July 9, 2008 So for all of those out there who have online dated etc. What is your opinion of a guy/girl whom you've established you are exclusive etc, yet you see that person is still somewhat active (i.e. the person logged in within the last 24 hrs, etc etc). I'm in a situation similar to this and I think I might be slightly overreacting, but I wanted outside opinions. RR
CarrieT Posted July 9, 2008 Posted July 9, 2008 If you are exclusive, than you should have a relationship where you can ask *why* they were logging in -- which also begs the question, why were *you* logging in?
Art_Critic Posted July 9, 2008 Posted July 9, 2008 If you are exclusive, than you should have a relationship where you can ask *why* they were logging in -- which also begs the question, why were *you* logging in? Carrie hits the nail on the head.. Ask the question.. you have every right as you are exclusive.. you also should ask why the account is even still active and not either canceled or hidden.
Shygirl15 Posted July 9, 2008 Posted July 9, 2008 Sometimes if my profile is still active, it can be tempting to just take a quick peek and see who emailed me and stuff, even though I know I'll not respond to those emails or contact anyone. It's harmless, at least for me. I think your GF/BF is just perusing, that's all.
Author RamblinRose Posted July 9, 2008 Author Posted July 9, 2008 Sometimes if my profile is still active, it can be tempting to just take a quick peek and see who emailed me and stuff, even though I know I'll not respond to those emails or contact anyone. It's harmless, at least for me. I think your GF/BF is just perusing, that's all. First, in response to Carrie, my account has been cancelled and truly, my only reason for even logging in is to see if this person has hidden or turned off their account. Normally, I'm not the jealous type and I take a person at their word. I don't have issues with my significant other doing things independent of me. The reason I pose this question is that, like I said, we had the 'exclusive' conversation (though brief) and i'm trying to think of why else this person would be logging into their account? (Perhaps to see if I'm logged in to it? etc etc). I'm deciding to just let it go at this point and I figure if things are still going well (and the profile is still up) I will ask about it within the next couple of weeks. We just had the exclusive talk and I don't want to follow it up with "Hey why is your profile still up??"
torranceshipman Posted July 9, 2008 Posted July 9, 2008 I think its a fair question...Id previously dated a guy a few months that I met online and we had a fab relationship (but drifted into friends eventually)...I stopped checking my profile almost immediately after meetin him and never bothered checklin it until after we'd broken up as I wanted to start dating again....thereby avoidin the drama altogether
McLovely Posted July 12, 2008 Posted July 12, 2008 I'm deciding to just let it go at this point and I figure if things are still going well (and the profile is still up) I will ask about it within the next couple of weeks. We just had the exclusive talk and I don't want to follow it up with "Hey why is your profile still up??" Maybe I'm getting overly confident in my old age, but I figure if I guy can't handle hearing and answering such a question after agreeing to exclusivity, then he simply isn't man enough for me. No reason to tip-toe or walk on egg shells. I respect myself too much for that.
gummybear Posted July 12, 2008 Posted July 12, 2008 So for all of those out there who have online dated etc. What is your opinion of a guy/girl whom you've established you are exclusive etc, yet you see that person is still somewhat active (i.e. the person logged in within the last 24 hrs, etc etc). I'm in a situation similar to this and I think I might be slightly overreacting, but I wanted outside opinions. RR When we were bf/gf, that meant zero activity and the profile is cancelled...or else it should be considered cheating.
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