jimbo Posted July 9, 2008 Posted July 9, 2008 Do women always run hot and cold. For example, some days, we're talking several times a day. Then a few days go by and we don't talk. Then, we are talking several times a day again...
ate_the_paint Posted July 9, 2008 Posted July 9, 2008 Most definitely! Especially if they're still weighing all their options. Just go cold on her for a couple of days and make her chase you. Find something to do and go do it. If she calls say "Hey I'm busy for the next couple of days but lets get together on [insert free day here]". That should do the trick!
portcitykitty Posted July 9, 2008 Posted July 9, 2008 I think men run hot/cold just as much (if not more) as women do. And everybody's reasons vary. Both my guy and I are guilty of running hot/cold...our calls vary as well, sometimes once a week, to a few times a day, and we both have our reasons.
portcitykitty Posted July 9, 2008 Posted July 9, 2008 Most definitely! Especially if they're still weighing all their options. Just go cold on her for a couple of days and make her chase you. Find something to do and go do it. If she calls say "Hey I'm busy for the next couple of days but lets get together on [insert free day here]". That should do the trick! BTW, I've seen the same exact advice from women pertaining to men running hot/cold!
HelloHello Posted July 10, 2008 Posted July 10, 2008 This is the game man! Its called push pull and it makes for great attraction. You don't want to see her too much anyways. Yeah next time she calls you act like you are busy and only have a second to talk. Then setup a time to meet and then hang up. Its attractive. Have seen her before in person?
Ariadne Posted July 10, 2008 Posted July 10, 2008 Do women always run hot and cold. For example, some days, we're talking several times a day. Then a few days go by and we don't talk. Then, we are talking several times a day again... Women only go hot and cold when they don't love you. Say, they don't care about you much, but, you talk about some other girl, or ignore her, or don't call her much. And then she wants you. And you think, oh, she loves me now. When she never really cared.
Author jimbo Posted July 10, 2008 Author Posted July 10, 2008 Yea. We went out from March - May. She said I was not emotional enough or something. Said she really liked me and was attracted to me, but did think I felt the same for her. She said I acted to her more as a really good friend than a boyfriend. I said I do, but it takes time for me to open up. None the less, she wanted to call it quits, and I say OK, but said she wanted to remain friends. Did not really think she was serious so I let it go. Two months later she started calling me out of the blue. Now she calls, texts, leaves messages more than before. During this time, I had started to (unsuccessfully - see other post) attempt to date other women. So not sure if this is karma, or she wants to give me another try. At the end of the messages she says she looks forward to seeing me or hopes to see me soon. Like I said, hot and cold. I'd be more than willing to give it a go again, cause I really liked this girl. We had a lot in common, but again, I am not an emotional person in terms of wearing my heart on my sleeve, or open up my whole life to another person. Always, since my late teens been basically on my own. Never show you hand, never show emotion, just get the job done. Hence the army and everything. Never much bothered me, as I know I can rely on myself. This is probably the reason why I am so bad at relationships. I've been this way for so long, it is not easy for me to let someone in. You need that survival mode when you only have yourself. You also need that in tours. Yea, you have your army brothers, but you still need to have a no emotion type of personality so you do not show what's true to you. Its done well for me in that aspect, but friends and women... Not so much. Not sure how to change... Fourteen plus years is hard to turn off in a matter of weeks. This do not trust or let in anyone way of thinking is cemented in my head, and I just do not know how to open up.. I know I went off tangent a little, but really at a loss..
Author jimbo Posted July 10, 2008 Author Posted July 10, 2008 Women only go hot and cold when they don't love you. Say, they don't care about you much, but, you talk about some other girl, or ignore her, or don't call her much. And then she wants you. And you think, oh, she loves me now. When she never really cared. Never said she did not care for me, I guess. What she said is in her heart she is in the middle. She thinks I have interest in her, but is not 100% sure. This is what led to the break up.
monkey00 Posted July 11, 2008 Posted July 11, 2008 Im dating a girl very much behaving like you in terms with you and this girl. Anyway you don't necessarily have to wear your heart on your sleeve to let someone in or present some emotion at least to the person. When I was younger I was a very emotionally distant guy, not by choice but because I was not as socially outward as I am today. Emotion is a good thing, you're human. Use it to your benefit.
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