whichwayisup Posted July 11, 2008 Posted July 11, 2008 guidance but I am mad at her for abandoning me for a whole month while she's on vacation with no contact. That's not what I signed up for. Remember she is your therapist, not your friend. She has a life outside of her workplace and as much as it sucks that you can't be incontact with her during her holiday time, try your best to use the skills that you've learned from her. Post here, vent away as much as you need. Talk to your women friends, your family too, and whatever you do, DON'T do something that you'll regret. If you have ANY doubts, don't follow through on it. I am suprised that she didn't leave a number of another T just incase you needed to talk, but then again, it's not like you're suicidal or depressed - You have some issues, but they're not considered life threatening. Maybe she wants you to use this time on you and journal thoughts, work on you and grow abit so when she's back, she'll see alot of progress within you.
Author Fun2BMe Posted July 14, 2008 Author Posted July 14, 2008 I just met with my ex. He invited me to go to a mutual friend's together, then afterwards we spoke for a while. He had a lot of questions, like why I did some things etc. I felt really nervous and on the spot and told him I didn't feel comfortable talking about it. He was being nice yet a little impatient with me. I am so mad my therapist wasn't there for me to help out how to have handled the situation. Now I feel likeI want to win him over suddenly whereas before I was feeling over him and even mad at him. When he dropped me off, instead of saying when we'd see each other again or offering to come down, he just said he'd contact me when his schedule clears up, which sounded very vagued and made me feel angry but I realize we're not a couple anymore. It's just very difficult again. I wish I had said some things differently so he'd be more into me like I blew my opportunitiy, but he did complement how I looked as I was getting out of his car and asked why I looked so good, if it was my hair that was different or what, but I'm not sure if he was being sarcastic because why would he suddenly care how I looked after telling me he had to wait for his schedule to clear before he'd contact me. I'm feeling so hurt, like it's not the same as before, like I ruined the relationship the way I so dramatically ended things and now I wasn't even able to answer his questions. He felt he had done nothing wrong which really hurt after everything he had done, yet I was the one feeling guilty. Anyways, I'm confused again. I am suprised that she didn't leave a number of another T just incase you needed to talk, She did give me the contact for 2 therapists - one male, one female, but how can I start all over with a new person then jump back to her. She can't just leave me hanging like this but at this point I need to dig around and find those numbers because I can't take things any more between the ex bf and ex friend.
Ssheena Posted July 14, 2008 Posted July 14, 2008 call the female one and go talk to her. Even if you don't start all over you can just explain and go over how the encounter made you feel and what you are feeling now and she should be able to give you a different way to look at it. Do it.
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