jellyfarm Posted July 9, 2008 Posted July 9, 2008 Gosh! Guys must really be intimidated by me and my Jewish features, my next-to-zero neediness, my sharp wit and occasional mental eccentricities , obsession with career and my love for Batman, comic book illustration and bluntness. Ah, godammit, yer twits! It's your friggin' loss mates! No, wait a minute! I might be a guy! No, wait....I'm not! Or could I be? OMG, I could be! I'm the girl guys wanna have to watch footie on telly, or tell me how bad sex with their gf was last night or the one who shares the popcorn with them while watching Hellboy II! (Which rockzz btw!) Holy testacles! What cesspool have I got myself into! HELPPP!!!:laugh:
endlesstrains Posted July 9, 2008 Posted July 9, 2008 I grew up a tomboy and a few years ago I was still the same... I had lots of guy friends but no boyfriends. Guys automatically "friend-zoned" me and I think a lot of them assumed I was a lesbian because I was not very "girly" and liked to just hang out with the boys. I kind of went through a process of finding myself and in the process became more "girly" (I am still me, I just now enjoy things like jewelery and girly clothes) and all of a sudden I was dating material. Guys who never gave me a second glance before were hitting on me or asking me out. I think that it is expected that we fall into traditional gender roles at least to a small degree in order to attract the opposite sex... you should always be yourself, but embrace your womanly side too so the men don't see you as just one of the boys.
Author jellyfarm Posted July 10, 2008 Author Posted July 10, 2008 Thank you endless trains. You know a friend of mine once told me this but I thought it was horsepucky, but you may be right. Unfortunately, the only thing that's feminine about me is makeup. Haha! That's it! I just can't see anything in me more womanly than that and I've embraced that love for colour on my face more than anything else. My normal love for fashion is cool shirts, tees, cropped 3/4 or punk berms and sneaks/converses. I'm a really artsy fartsy creative person so I don't like to dress too much conventionally. I'm 35 but I still think like a 20 -year old punk! So that fashion sense probably leaves a lot to be desired because it doesn't include dresses, skirts and stilletos because I think somewhere in my upbringing or education, I began to associate women who are into those as being bimbos or weak-willed women. Don't ask me why but it's just not me. And any woman who makes herself vulnerable to a man emotionally or mentally I also abhor. I think it's past relationship issues that made me realise that I don't want to be that vulnerable to any man anymore so maybe I've gone into defensive mode but again, I don't discount all men and want to be open to someone mature and loving, ya know? Maybe I'll change then....hmmmmm...
Enema Posted July 10, 2008 Posted July 10, 2008 Artsty Fartsy, tomboy, immature 35 year old who doesn't open up emotionally? Maybe 35 year old guys are looking for feminine, mature, sensible women as they're starting to think about settling down. Sure, you're great to hang out with... but to live with or be with forever? ughh!
Author jellyfarm Posted July 10, 2008 Author Posted July 10, 2008 Artsty Fartsy, tomboy, immature 35 year old who doesn't open up emotionally? Maybe 35 year old guys are looking for feminine, mature, sensible women as they're starting to think about settling down. Sure, you're great to hang out with... but to live with or be with forever? ughh! I concur with you! I wouldn't be able to live with an egotistical male chauvinist pig who expects his woman to put food on his table and be a superwoman, feminine, sexy, wage-earning, luscious slave. I may be unfeminine and a bit child-like who's in touch with my inner happy child but I'm definitely not dumb or stupid enough to compromise and 'settle down'. I would go for settling UP. I totally have no problems with myself...I just wish others would see my unique personality and the giving, conscientious PERSON I am...not a dumb bimbo, man, woman....PERSON...HUMAN BEING... It's not about looks....it's about HEART! Ugh to all the stereotypical people out there! People like you! Hack!
Fun2BMe Posted July 10, 2008 Posted July 10, 2008 I totally have no problems with myself...I just wish others would see my unique personality and the giving, conscientious PERSON I am...not a dumb bimbo, man, woman....PERSON...HUMAN BEING... You're way too full of yourself and that's more unattractive than any other quality you are analyzing.
Fun2BMe Posted July 10, 2008 Posted July 10, 2008 So that fashion sense probably leaves a lot to be desired because it doesn't include dresses, skirts and stilletos because I think somewhere in my upbringing or education, I began to associate women who are into those as being bimbos or weak-willed women. Don't ask me why but it's just not me. Very pathetic to think that narrowly. Looking attractive does not make a woman a bimbo or weak-willed, it makes someone who thinks that unintelligent - sorry to burst your overly inflated bubble of your brain. And any woman who makes herself vulnerable to a man emotionally or mentally I also abhor. If a man wanted a woman who doesn't express her feelings, he might as well date a blow-up doll. I think you really need to re-examine your thoughts if you want to attract a man. Go shopping for a cute dress and stilletos, and chip away that hard exterior you have imprisoned yourself in.
Trialbyfire Posted July 10, 2008 Posted July 10, 2008 jellyfarm, you're very one dimensional. Try increasing your limited interests, while self-improving, so men find something about you attractive enough to date v. perceiving you as a buddy.
blind_otter Posted July 10, 2008 Posted July 10, 2008 IME when you repeatedly have the same issues, over and over again, with different people - the problem likely lies within you, rather than with everyone else....
quankanne Posted July 10, 2008 Posted July 10, 2008 Unfortunately, the only thing that's feminine about me is makeup. Haha! That's it! strategically placed jewelry will make them think of you in terms of "girl" – a belly-ring if you're not freaked out by the idea of a piercing (heh heh, tell them you're considering a nipple piercing, and REALLY watch the looks on their faces) … an ankle chain is a nice feminine touch, as are toe rings or even rings on your fingers. My personal desire is to drop enough weight and purchase a silver chain to wear around my waist. You don't often see that, so I think it'd be cool to see a silver chain peeking out from under a crop top or with a two-piece bathing suit ...
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