Trialbyfire Posted July 9, 2008 Posted July 9, 2008 http://www.loveshack.org/forums/showpost.php?p=1736745&postcount=39 Hey, Whiteflower, as requested in the link, here's an update to tonight's date. I met this guy through business, in that he attended a few recent meetings, albeit as an observer rather than an owner, contributor or stakeholder for the project. He works for a client of mine but takes care of a division that I rarely interact with, so it's sufficiently at arms-length, without breaking the "don't crap where you eat" rule! Anyways, about a week ago, he asked me out for a drink after a meeting but since I didn't know him at all, I refused. A few days after that, he contacted me through the number on my business card, asking again. While I rarely date anyone who I haven't known for years, I agreed because he seemed to be a nice guy. Of course right after I hung up the phone, I called all my underground industry sources to get the goods on him, which turned up a very positive rep! Cobra, if you're lurking around, yes, I did the CV reference checks!! So, we went out for dinner at a lovely little Greek restaurant that he and his friends frequent regularly. A date that was intended to last for around 3 - 4 hours went on for over 6 hours. I do feel for him since he gets up at 4 a.m. to go to work. After the initial awkwardness of not knowing each other at all, we discovered that we had a lot in common so there was no shortage of topics, familiar names and situations to chat about, regardless of who had to carry the conversation through different parts of the date. All in all, a fun night. And yes, we're on for date #2, this weekend!
jerbear Posted July 9, 2008 Posted July 9, 2008 Cool! Have fun at the 2nd date! Let us know when is the wedding!
sb129 Posted July 9, 2008 Posted July 9, 2008 TBF, thats great news! Make sure you get him a little icepick to chip away at that exterior of yours - although it sounds like he is doing that all on his own!
underpants Posted July 9, 2008 Posted July 9, 2008 Cool, It sounds like you two had a fun time. You checked him out. I wonder if his references will tell him that he was inquired about? My asked me on date 3 if I had researched him yet. I responded with "of course". He smiled and took it as a sign of smart interest. I checked him out before date one. Smart move. I hope date 2 proves to be wonderful. Have fun.
Author Trialbyfire Posted July 9, 2008 Author Posted July 9, 2008 Cool! Have fun at the 2nd date! Let us know when is the wedding! Thanks. TBF, thats great news! Make sure you get him a little icepick to chip away at that exterior of yours - although it sounds like he is doing that all on his own! Thanks. He's not allowed to carry pointed objects in my vicinity...oh wait...negate that!! Cool, It sounds like you two had a fun time. You checked him out. I wonder if his references will tell him that he was inquired about? My asked me on date 3 if I had researched him yet. I responded with "of course". He smiled and took it as a sign of smart interest. I checked him out before date one. Smart move. I hope date 2 proves to be wonderful. Have fun. If his sources hear about it, I don't mind. I'm guessing someone who has something to hide would be offended. I hope he checks out my CV.
Star Gazer Posted July 9, 2008 Posted July 9, 2008 Do you seriously only agree to go out on a date with men you've known for years? Wow. I'm glad you gave this guy a chance!
Kamille Posted July 9, 2008 Posted July 9, 2008 Do you seriously only agree to go out on a date with men you've known for years? Wow. I'm glad you gave this guy a chance! I was thinking the same thing. You throw a wrench in the whole 'friend zone' theory TBF. I am glad you gave this guy a chance and I'm also interested in the whole check cv thing. I usually meet guys through friends, so I guess I almost always automatically get the cv, but never thought to ask around. I'll try it next time, when I feel like dating again, in oh say, two years. (Being alone feels really good right now).
Author Trialbyfire Posted July 9, 2008 Author Posted July 9, 2008 Do you seriously only agree to go out on a date with men you've known for years? Wow. I'm glad you gave this guy a chance! More times than not, yes! I prefer to know someone's background/history first and whether we have sufficient compatibilities to even bother. It's not bullet-proof though but has saved me a lot of grief in the past. Of course I've made exceptions, of which this guy is one of them. More often than not, I've found the exceptions to be a waste of time. At least he's got a sourceable history!
Art_Critic Posted July 9, 2008 Posted July 9, 2008 Do you seriously only agree to go out on a date with men you've known for years? Wow. I'm glad you gave this guy a chance! Something to consider.. sometimes knowing of someone for years gives the relationship a leg up .. When I first met my wife online I didn't know that she was a client of mine til 2 weeks after we started emailing.. We had already set up a date before we figured it out.... The fact I had known her ( only thru the phone though..We never met face to face ) or worked with her for years helped break down all the walls that 2 people who don't know each other have to go thru. ( she had my name and phone number on her computer monitor for 2 years.. right in front of her the whole time..)
Author Trialbyfire Posted July 9, 2008 Author Posted July 9, 2008 I was thinking the same thing. You throw a wrench in the whole 'friend zone' theory TBF. I am glad you gave this guy a chance and I'm also interested in the whole check cv thing. I usually meet guys through friends, so I guess I almost always automatically get the cv, but never thought to ask around. I'll try it next time, when I feel like dating again, in oh say, two years. (Being alone feels really good right now). I have two friend zones. One, close friends who are like siblings where incest is not best, two, potential dating material. I work in an industry full of self-entitled men who previous commitments don't particularly matter to. Any girl dating a man in this industry, had better do her homework!
Nevermind Posted July 9, 2008 Posted July 9, 2008 Trial: I am curious, how do you transfer a friend into a date? Make hints, ask out yourself? Have fun!
blind_otter Posted July 9, 2008 Posted July 9, 2008 How exciting, TBF. I love that initial stage of dating when things are going well and you get all excited about going on a date and you're busy getting to know all about your new interest. It's just such a fun time.
Author Trialbyfire Posted July 9, 2008 Author Posted July 9, 2008 Trial: I am curious, how do you transfer a friend into a date? Make hints, ask out yourself? Have fun! Friend zone 2 tend to be guys who've indicated their interest and tend to continue asking me out in a flirtatious, casual way. The transfer happens when I accept. Thanks.
Author Trialbyfire Posted July 9, 2008 Author Posted July 9, 2008 How exciting, TBF. I love that initial stage of dating when things are going well and you get all excited about going on a date and you're busy getting to know all about your new interest. It's just such a fun time. Thanks. It is a fun time but as I expressed to Whiteflower, I'm really not looking for a relationship right now, since being single most definitely has its perks!
Author Trialbyfire Posted July 9, 2008 Author Posted July 9, 2008 Something to consider.. sometimes knowing of someone for years gives the relationship a leg up .. When I first met my wife online I didn't know that she was a client of mine til 2 weeks after we started emailing.. We had already set up a date before we figured it out.... The fact I had known her ( only thru the phone though..We never met face to face ) or worked with her for years helped break down all the walls that 2 people who don't know each other have to go thru. ( she had my name and phone number on her computer monitor for 2 years.. right in front of her the whole time..) It does, in that you know you already "like" each other and have compatible interests.
Star Gazer Posted July 14, 2008 Posted July 14, 2008 Didn't you have a date last night? How'd it go? (Better than mine of last week, I hope!)
Author Trialbyfire Posted July 14, 2008 Author Posted July 14, 2008 It was a lot of fun Star. We went to this little chichi restaurant that he and his friends discovered through word of mouth. As we entered, we bumped into three of his close friends so they joined us for dinner. Since they were close friends, it was a no holds barred, testosterone one-upmanship fest. I spent the entire night killing myself laughing while trying to keep up. All these guys are rapier sharp and funny, especially my date. We're on for next weekend again but the rest of the boys aren't invited, much to their dismay.
Nemo Posted July 14, 2008 Posted July 14, 2008 I just hope the dude is fluent in the many and varied kinds of female orgasms. I'd hate to think he might come up short. "He gave me a clitoral, vaginal, G-spot, and anal orgasm all at once! I spent the next week in a wheelchair, but it sure was worth it."
Star Gazer Posted July 14, 2008 Posted July 14, 2008 So no uninvited nipple rubbing then? Glad you had a good time!
Author Trialbyfire Posted July 14, 2008 Author Posted July 14, 2008 Haha...not a chance. He's quite the gentleman but then my CV check verified that one.
Arise_Serpentor Posted July 14, 2008 Posted July 14, 2008 I'm really glad you did the CV reference check! I am so happy for you!
Author Trialbyfire Posted July 14, 2008 Author Posted July 14, 2008 Thanks AS. It wasn't an actual CV check, this was something that Cobra was teasing me about, a long time ago. I did verify his dating rep, how he treated his employees and his overall industry rep, of which we're both in the same industry. It all turned out positive which to me is a great start.
Lishy Posted July 14, 2008 Posted July 14, 2008 http://www.loveshack.org/forums/showpost.php?p=1736745&postcount=39 Cobra, if you're lurking around, yes, I did the CV reference checks!! I heard he is dating AnswerPlease37??????????? I am glad you gave the guy a chance, he sound lush!!!!!!!!!!! Well done that girl lol
Author Trialbyfire Posted July 14, 2008 Author Posted July 14, 2008 She must be keeping him very busy since he's not posting anymore! Thanks Lishy.
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