xpaperxcutx Posted July 8, 2008 Posted July 8, 2008 I'm in a serious dilemma, or it might seem like one, if you were in my shoes. I'm not one for online dating. For all those who are familiar with my posts, I've had a terrible experience with Greek guy (who stopped all contact after the first date). Not to mention I met my ex online (Whom I posted many a times with resentment in breakup forum). But lately I seem to attract alot of guys from myspace? I made a big point of making sure that my status says that I was only on the network for friends, but I seem to attract alot of guys who keep asking me out. I've managed to dodge a couple of weirdoes, and broken up dates with Z ( I had canceled the date at the last minute because I just really wasn't into meeting the guy despite the good vibe I got from him). To be honest I haven't had a date in a while, and maybe I should just mellow out and just try to have fun. There's a guy named E whom I'm a bit attracted to. He's 25 and had been living in Japan for the last 5 years. He's extremely handsome and buff ( like 6 pack, tan, the whole package). I'm not shallow and normally I don't really fall for guys that are packing more on their bodies than they actually have on top ( namely smart wise). Maybe it's the whole stereotype that if guy's work out like Arnold Swarzeneggar, then most likely they're not very smart ( and I don't mean the other myth where they might be lacking something in another department). And also there's that factor in regards to him being a player. I mean a guy with his looks is bound to attract alot of women. I've snooped around a bit, and I've noticed most of his friends are mostly asian women. Maybe I should slap myself awake and assume that a relationship with a guy like that is impossible, and mostly likely he's looking for a play date. What's your opinion on this?
JP77 Posted July 8, 2008 Posted July 8, 2008 I think you are insecure and are being overly judgemental when you hardly know him. Where does vanity come into this?
Author xpaperxcutx Posted July 8, 2008 Author Posted July 8, 2008 I think you are insecure and are being overly judgemental when you hardly know him. Where does vanity come into this? I think guys who like that tend to play women alot and doesn't necessary take anything outside of themselves to heart. Like recently we've been emailing each other back and forth, and I've noticed I've had to repeat certain things despite the fact that I've already told him the answers to. Most likely I'm just what you call a passing glance to him until a better girl comes along.
JP77 Posted July 8, 2008 Posted July 8, 2008 I think guys who like that tend to play women alot and doesn't necessary take anything outside of themselves to heart. Like recently we've been emailing each other back and forth, and I've noticed I've had to repeat certain things despite the fact that I've already told him the answers to. Most likely I'm just what you call a passing glance to him until a better girl comes along. You'll learn in time a vast majority of men are forgetful. For instance, if a girl tells me her birthday, I'll remember it, but if she tells me she is off to zoo on monday, I won't remember it. Why? Because it is not worth remembering. I'd simply tell her to have fun at zoo and if she tells me about her day at the zoo, then all is good, if not, then the conversation moves onto more pressing issues. You might be right, you might be wrong, there's only one way to find out.
Author xpaperxcutx Posted July 8, 2008 Author Posted July 8, 2008 You'll learn in time a vast majority of men are forgetful. For instance, if a girl tells me her birthday, I'll remember it, but if she tells me she is off to zoo on monday, I won't remember it. Why? Because it is not worth remembering. I'd simply tell her to have fun at zoo and if she tells me about her day at the zoo, then all is good, if not, then the conversation moves onto more pressing issues. You might be right, you might be wrong, there's only one way to find out. Yeah I kinda figured that. There were talks that we should meet up one day to just hang. I mean I don't mind, but should I be worried if he starts scrutinizing my looks or anything? I'm sorry, but I admit I am a bit insecure about myself at times, but then again I guess that's why I don't date as much . PS I would also like to add that despite having lived in japan, he's actually white. I don't know if that would make a difference but there was a post on here not too long ago about interracial dating so I thought I might add this in.
JP77 Posted July 8, 2008 Posted July 8, 2008 Yeah I kinda figured that. There were talks that we should meet up one day to just hang. I mean I don't mind, but should I be worried if he starts scrutinizing my looks or anything? I'm sorry, but I admit I am a bit insecure about myself at times, but then again I guess that's why I don't date as much . PS I would also like to add that despite having lived in japan, he's actually white. I don't know if that would make a difference but there was a post on here not too long ago about interracial dating so I thought I might add this in. Don't worry, not all white men are dangerous pigs who need to bred out of existence because they are serial killers. I am white and I am harmless. What his race has to do with anything I don't know? People are judgemental on every aspect, when you date you are selling yourself to someone and it then upto him or her to decide if they will invest their time further. He'll do more than scrutinize your looks, he'll scrutinize everything about you. Just like you'll scrutinize things about him. Relax and enjoy. You have nothing to lose. Hey, he might even be a decent white man, we do exist, yes. I am not one of them, sadly, but they're out there. Sheesh!
Author xpaperxcutx Posted July 8, 2008 Author Posted July 8, 2008 Relax and enjoy. You have nothing to lose. Hey, he might even be a decent white man, we do exist, yes. I am not one of them, sadly, but they're out there. Sheesh! :lmao::lmao::lmao: Well actually I'm asian, and apparently I realized that alot of white guys lately are strangely attracted to asian women. Why is that?
JP77 Posted July 8, 2008 Posted July 8, 2008 :lmao::lmao::lmao: Well actually I'm asian, and apparently I realized that alot of white guys lately are strangely attracted to asian women. Why is that? Because white women are attracted to black men. I don't know, it's just a stereotype I guess. I have heard a huge number of white men saying they go off with asian girls for the reason stated in my first sentence. My friend is dating an Asian girl, she is from Singapore and she is very intelligent, sweet hearted person, I've certainly never met a white girl with as much charm and intelligence as her. You're going off topic..naughty, naughty.
Author xpaperxcutx Posted July 8, 2008 Author Posted July 8, 2008 Because white women are attracted to black men. I don't know, it's just a stereotype I guess. I have heard a huge number of white men saying they go off with asian girls for the reason stated in my first sentence. My friend is dating an Asian girl, she is from Singapore and she is very intelligent, sweet hearted person, I've certainly never met a white girl with as much charm and intelligence as her. You're going off topic..naughty, naughty. Ahh okay sorry Umm but I was trying to make a point. As I mentioned, I snooped around a bit on his myspace, and almost all of his friends are asian women. So I might think he has an asian fetish. Which in part makes me that he might be a player. And that in part makes me apprehensive about meeting him. Basically from his pictures: He's 6'2, has bleached blonde hair, and is really buff... practically in all of his pictures he's half naked. He's even posted pictures looking like a stripper, half naked with a bow tie and black suit pant.
JP77 Posted July 8, 2008 Posted July 8, 2008 Ahh okay sorry Umm but I was trying to make a point. As I mentioned, I snooped around a bit on his myspace, and almost all of his friends are asian women. So I might think he has an asian fetish. Which in part makes me that he might be a player. You could be right, but do you want to know why the reason's why white men go for Asian women? These are the reason's I've heard from white men who have had experiences with Asian women. They state they (Asian women) are gorgeous, intelligent, exotic, grace better with age, have a fantastic culture, I mean who doesn't like Chinese food or Japanese technology? Who doesn't like Kung Fu? White men love Chinese, Japanese technology and Kung Fu. Bruce Lee has taught millions of white men how to fight. Asian women according to these men set boundaries and aren't doormats like lots of white women. Asian's aren't as submissive. There's lots of other reasons, but I can't be bothered to type them up. Go for it, see what happens. And we all have fetishes, I have fetishes.
blind_otter Posted July 8, 2008 Posted July 8, 2008 :lmao::lmao::lmao: Well actually I'm asian, and apparently I realized that alot of white guys lately are strangely attracted to asian women. Why is that? It's called "yellow fever", dude. My sisters and I used to talk about it, when we all lived together. We're all half asian, but there is a subset of the male population that is freakishly obsessed with asian and mixed asian women.
Shygirl15 Posted July 8, 2008 Posted July 8, 2008 Maybe it's the whole stereotype that if guy's work out like Arnold Swarzeneggar, then most likely they're not very smart ( and I don't mean the other myth where they might be lacking something in another department). And also there's that factor in regards to him being a player. I mean a guy with his looks is bound to attract alot of women. I've snooped around a bit, and I've noticed most of his friends are mostly asian women. Maybe I should slap myself awake and assume that a relationship with a guy like that is impossible, and mostly likely he's looking for a play date. What's your opinion on this? I dated a guy like that, a US Marine, so you can imagine how his physical features looked like. Extremely good looking to the extent I felt somewhat insecure. I believe I'm very attractive myself but he seemed to get all the attention whenever we went out in public. I like to have my peace of mind in relationships so personally I would not go for this type in future. They usually have all sorts of women falling all over them to really put any efforts on you, unless you're ready to aggressively pursue them. This guy hardly ever called, and if he did, then it was to schedule another sex date. So yeah, I guess I was just his play date. He also wasn't very smart, I could hardly understand what came out of his mouth. He had a very annoying habit of substituing words with sounds (for those who watch 'The Office', the Andrew Bernard type). And I just had this feeling that he could be bisexual; one night I had a dream I walked on him having sex with another guy. Not discouraging you though, just sharing experience.
Author xpaperxcutx Posted July 8, 2008 Author Posted July 8, 2008 I dated a guy like that, a US Marine, so you can imagine how his physical features looked like. Extremely good looking to the extent I felt somewhat insecure. I believe I'm very attractive myself but he seemed to get all the attention whenever we went out in public. I like to have my peace of mind in relationships so personally I would not go for this type in future. They usually have all sorts of women falling all over them to really put any efforts on you, unless you're ready to aggressively pursue them. This guy hardly ever called, and if he did, then it was to schedule another sex date. So yeah, I guess I was just his play date. He also wasn't very smart, I could hardly understand what came out of his mouth. He had a very annoying habit of substituing words with sounds (for those who watch 'The Office', the Andrew Bernard type). And I just had this feeling that he could be bisexual; one night I had a dream I walked on him having sex with another guy. Not discouraging you though, just sharing experience. That's exactly how I feel. Because he's really attractive, I'm afraid that I might have hard being in the same room as him if we ever get together. I mean in general, I would never fall for a guy who's looks entend to the point of looking like a swimsuit model, not that they're bad to ogle at, but I absolutely believe it's impossible to pursue any type of relationship with them because they can have any type of girls they want.
JP77 Posted July 8, 2008 Posted July 8, 2008 That's exactly how I feel. Because he's really attractive, I'm afraid that I might have hard being in the same room as him if we ever get together. I mean in general, I would never fall for a guy who's looks entend to the point of looking like a swimsuit model, not that they're bad to ogle at, but I absolutely believe it's impossible to pursue any type of relationship with them because they can have any type of girls they want. That's because women like you, place them on the God like pedestal and most men, just want to find a decent woman to love and have the same in return. Sure there are guys out there who use their looks to their advantage, but not every super handsome guy does.
trubella Posted July 8, 2008 Posted July 8, 2008 I mean in general, I would never fall for a guy who's looks entend to the point of looking like a swimsuit model, not that they're bad to ogle at, but I absolutely believe it's impossible to pursue any type of relationship with them because they can have any type of girls they want. i used to be kindof insecure about stuff like this when i dated in the past, one experience in particular i remember about was a model from italy, very well known from his country so you can just imagine how small that made me look in comparison when we would go out. im attractive... but still felt like i wasnt on his level.. after awhile it kindof gets to you when you see women throwing themselves at the person your dating.
Shygirl15 Posted July 8, 2008 Posted July 8, 2008 That's because women like you, place them on the God like pedestal and most men, just want to find a decent woman to love and have the same in return. Sure there are guys out there who use their looks to their advantage, but not every super handsome guy does. Looks like this one does though, what with posting half naked pictures of himself looking like a stripper, and half naked with a bow tie and black suit pant. He sounds like a freak too; be prepared OP..
Author xpaperxcutx Posted July 8, 2008 Author Posted July 8, 2008 Looks like this one does though, what with posting half naked pictures of himself looking like a stripper, and half naked with a bow tie and black suit pant. He sounds like a freak too; be prepared OP.. :lmao:
JP77 Posted July 8, 2008 Posted July 8, 2008 Looks like this one does though, what with posting half naked pictures of himself looking like a stripper, and half naked with a bow tie and black suit pant. He sounds like a freak too; be prepared OP.. If you've got it flaunt it. I haven't got anything, so I choose to keep wrapped underneath a wooly jumper. As for myspace, people can be whatever they want on myspace, it doesn't mean they are that way off of myspace. The OP should give it try and see what happens. Judge him once you have spent enough time with him to forge a clear judgement of him. You might see what you like. Check his records for any serial killer past though, us white men are just crazy. (Sorry, I couldn't resist, that's the funniest, I have ever heard. It was so blunt, it was a killer. Whoever said it is funny).
Jilly Bean Posted July 8, 2008 Posted July 8, 2008 Yeah, I don't see how he's vain, X. He obviously spends a lot of time on his physique, so he is proud to show it off. But, I think you're already sabotaging it before it even gets off the ground...
Shygirl15 Posted July 9, 2008 Posted July 9, 2008 If you've got it flaunt it. I haven't got anything, so I choose to keep wrapped underneath a wooly jumper. As for myspace, people can be whatever they want on myspace, it doesn't mean they are that way off of myspace. The OP should give it try and see what happens. Judge him once you have spent enough time with him to forge a clear judgement of him. You might see what you like. Check his records for any serial killer past though, us white men are just crazy. (Sorry, I couldn't resist, that's the funniest, I have ever heard. It was so blunt, it was a killer. Whoever said it is funny).[/quote] JP77, you darn well know I was the one who said it!!
D-Lish Posted July 9, 2008 Posted July 9, 2008 Ahh okay sorry Umm but I was trying to make a point. As I mentioned, I snooped around a bit on his myspace, and almost all of his friends are asian women. So I might think he has an asian fetish. Which in part makes me that he might be a player. And that in part makes me apprehensive about meeting him. Basically from his pictures: He's 6'2, has bleached blonde hair, and is really buff... practically in all of his pictures he's half naked. He's even posted pictures looking like a stripper, half naked with a bow tie and black suit pant. haha... Papercut... um... he has been living in Japan for 5 years- he probably made a lot of Asian friends....lol. It's just a reasonable assumption. We all have types- I prefer guys with black hair and blue eyes... it's just a look that I am into. mmmm, sounds to me like you are looking for excuses because you are a bit gun shy at the moment because of your past pain. If you don't give anyone a chance... you won't have a chance at finding happiness. I know lots of guys that just like "beautiful women"... whether they are blonde, brunette, short, tall, exotic, thin, curvy, etc. I don't think he would be attracted to you ONLY because you are Asian...lol. I think he would be attracted to you because he thinks you are beautiful in your own right. Stop making excuses girl...!! Go on a date- have some fun. The worst that can happen is that you won't like him.
Dark-N-Romantic Posted July 9, 2008 Posted July 9, 2008 There was a study done that shows that more relationships and marriages end if the man is more attractive than the woman. It was on a talk show one time. DNR
Author xpaperxcutx Posted July 9, 2008 Author Posted July 9, 2008 There was a study done that shows that more relationships and marriages end if the man is more attractive than the woman. It was on a talk show one time. DNR O.o I don't want to marry the guy... but that just sounds depressing and hopeless.
Author xpaperxcutx Posted July 9, 2008 Author Posted July 9, 2008 haha... Papercut... um... he has been living in Japan for 5 years- he probably made a lot of Asian friends....lol. It's just a reasonable assumption. We all have types- I prefer guys with black hair and blue eyes... it's just a look that I am into. mmmm, sounds to me like you are looking for excuses because you are a bit gun shy at the moment because of your past pain. If you don't give anyone a chance... you won't have a chance at finding happiness. I know lots of guys that just like "beautiful women"... whether they are blonde, brunette, short, tall, exotic, thin, curvy, etc. I don't think he would be attracted to you ONLY because you are Asian...lol. I think he would be attracted to you because he thinks you are beautiful in your own right. Stop making excuses girl...!! Go on a date- have some fun. The worst that can happen is that you won't like him. Omg I know... I'm just... sigh... what are the chances of me not falling for him?
D-Lish Posted July 9, 2008 Posted July 9, 2008 There was a study done that shows that more relationships and marriages end if the man is more attractive than the woman. It was on a talk show one time. DNR Must be totally true then.
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