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I want to know why she called me. I almost wanna send her a text message from my e-mail or something. Obviously, she's not concerned though, right? If you really missed or loved somebody, you would just go over there, right? I would. She's done that in the past, too. So the only thing I can do is just see if she ever shows up? Don't answer calls, right? I wish I didn't care, but I do. I know she's crazy, but I miss her. What do I do??? Nothing??? If I love her, I don't answer her calls? Should I e-mail her or something? Kill me. I still love her.

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I want to know why she called me. I almost wanna send her a text message from my e-mail or something. Obviously, she's not concerned though, right? If you really missed or loved somebody, you would just go over there, right? I would. She's done that in the past, too. So the only thing I can do is just see if she ever shows up? Don't answer calls, right? I wish I didn't care, but I do. I know she's crazy, but I miss her. What do I do??? Nothing??? If I love her, I don't answer her calls? Should I e-mail her or something? Kill me. I still love her.

 

No. don't contact her. Are you a glutton for self punishment?

 

You know it's gonna bring nothing but pain.

 

No contact Y.

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I thought you changed your number ?? you did post that earlier that it was changed..

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I thought you changed your number ?? you did post that earlier that it was changed..

 

Yes, but she can call me at work, as well as just walk in.

 

Changing the cell just makes it so that she can't contact me any time.

 

I wish I wouldn't have done that heh

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Time to put your foot down Y.. you MUST tell her to stop contacting you.. You MUST keep up your NC...

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Y!!!!!! SNAP OUT OF IT SON!!!! You are exactly right in the sense if she wanted to talk to you badly enough she would leave a message or appear in person. Time for your head to tell the heart shut the *** up!!! You are not alone today, we are with ya.

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Ok, I'm pissed off all over again. I don't wanna talk to her. I want her to ****in' suffer. **** HER!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!1

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F*ck texts and stupid messages and emails. I'm so sick of the little crumbs that they throw at us that we then trip over ourselves to eat up. Face to face or at least a proper phone call, or at least leave a f'n message. To me the worst offender is the text message, how lame. If you talk to her tell her if it's nothing serious then you don't want to talk, you are not interested in chit chat, demand face to face. If they really want something and have something to say that's the least they can do.

 

I'm going to repeat this over and over in my head like a mantra until it sinks in. I'm just imagining that he cares, this crap is nothing, he is not serious until he shows up at my house with the bells and whistles on.

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F*ck texts and stupid messages and emails. I'm so sick of the little crumbs that they throw at us that we then trip over ourselves to eat up.

 

 

That is the straight up truth!! If they have something to say be an adult about it and do it proper!!!!!!!!!!! Y is still winning and doesn't even know it!!

 

ALSO:

 

y, YOU ARE SO MONEY AND YOU DON'T NOW IT! YOU ARE LIKE A BIG BEAR WITH FANGS AND CLAWS.........................

 

I SECOND TO HELL WITH THE CRUMBS!!! I NO LONGER WILL SETTLE FOR CRUMBS, I WANT A BUFFET!!!!!!

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Y is still winning and doesn't even know it!

 

What am I "winning"? Oh yeah, "The Game"? <sigh>

 

Should I have answered, and told her that I will only talk to her in person? Or should I just let her figure that out? Or... ****ing kill me.

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I feel for you about the "game". I think it's stupid, people should just say how they feel. Unfortunatly you have no control over the crap the other person does.

 

Rough spot, I don't know what to tell you. I said in an earlier post they need to show up face to face, I truly think that's what it takes to show honest intent but not everyone is capable of it. But the bottom line is, do you want her back? Don't think so right? Not with Mr. W? Then don't ever talk to her again. There is nothing to be gained. Be honest with yourself, where can it lead? Would you want to argue, cry? what? It will drag all those feelings to the surface again. Everytime I talk to mine, even if it's about something stupid like the mail, my heart beats a thousand times a minute and my stomach ties in a knot and he occupies my whole world again.:sick:

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Y, you're a real person with a soul but you're never going to move on. Go ahead and mourn this girl forever. You're right, she's the best thing ever and you'll never get over her. Whine whine whine I'm so tired of people using this site counterproductively. I don't care about my reputation here anymore, people can respect me or like me, or not, but so much of what goes on here is pure bitching. F*ck that. We're here to solve problems, get better, give advice. Enough of this.

 

Sometimes you reveal your heart, Y, but the rest of the time it's just self-pity. I'm not crying for you people anymore; take charge of your goddamn life and grow a pair or f*cking nuts.

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Ok, well anyway, I regret not answering now, so if she calls me at work, I will answer, but I will tell her I'm willing to talk face to face only. I think.

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Y, you're a real person with a soul but you're never going to move on. Go ahead and mourn this girl forever. You're right, she's the best thing ever and you'll never get over her. Whine whine whine I'm so tired of people using this site counterproductively. I don't care about my reputation here anymore, people can respect me or like me, or not, but so much of what goes on here is pure bitching. F*ck that. We're here to solve problems, get better, give advice. Enough of this.

 

Sometimes you reveal your heart, Y, but the rest of the time it's just self-pity. I'm not crying for you people anymore; take charge of your goddamn life and grow a pair or f*cking nuts.

 

Totally agree, I am done crying and bitching. I am moving on and leaving her in the past.

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Y....are you bipolar??

I understand you want to know why she contacted you, but the dramatics are a bit ridiculous. One post you saY *** her..then the next 'should I call her"??? I mean

seriously..come on. Eeveryone here is offering you great advice and support. Maybe

you should stop obsessing on your OWN problems and help someone else.

 

I don't think I have read one post where you offer someone else advice or support without talking about YOUR issue. I don;t even think you truly read anyone's advice. You are just wailing about your problem. Take time to help someone else....

and then come back to this.

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Y....are you bipolar??

I understand you want to know why she contacted you, but the dramatics are a bit ridiculous. One post you saY *** her..then the next 'should I call her"??? I mean

seriously..come on. Eeveryone here is offering you great advice and support. Maybe

you should stop obsessing on your OWN problems and help someone else.

 

I don't think I have read one post where you offer someone else advice or support without talking about YOUR issue. I don;t even think you truly read anyone's adice. You are just wailing about your problem. Take time to help someone else....

and then come back to this.

 

I agree with you...

 

there's no point in helping this dude...he just wallows in his own misery and takes and takes without helping himself and others

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I agree with you...

 

there's no point in helping this dude...he just wallows in his own misery and takes and takes without helping himself and others

 

I am starting to agree with you and Chantress. I have given him much advice for almost a month or two and instead of acknowledging any of it he will continue ranting. Now the pain is caused by him, NOT BY HER!!! She is gone and the reason of her calling is obviously not important because she has not gotten back with him. He is the creator of his own misery at this point. he will not listen to any advice given. I really felt good for him when she called a few times the other day and he held strong. Now he is back to square one. Y if you are reading this post, P I S S ON HER ALREADY!!!!!!! UNTIL SHE SHOWS AT YOUR DOOR WITH HER BAGS (NOT EVEN SURE THAT IS A GOOD THING FOR YOU) !!!

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The group has spoken. We're sick of your selfishness, Y. And don't get all sad, you brought this on yourself.

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The group has spoken. We're sick of your selfishness, Y. And don't get all sad, you brought this on yourself.

 

Kizik, does that mean Y has to turn his torch in??? Maybe he should... He may use it to burn down her and Mr. Wonderful's pad, ya dig!!!!

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Survivor style... kick this motherf*cker off the island. He can use the torch to burn himself like a Buddhist monk.

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I totally disagree. Y was doing remarkbly better before his ex opened a can of hurt on him by calling twice. I have seen several posts where the Y has offered his opinion and advice. I haven't seen anything where he's attacked anyone here. While sure the ranting seems a bit much at times, it seems to be working as he has stuck with n/c. Everyone handles it differently. Nobody is forcing any of us to read his rants. Haing an ex call makes moving on so much harder, consider yourself fortunate if your ex has at least respected you enough to allow you to get on with your life rather than come back and try and kick you while your down.

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The issue, IMO, is that he doesn't respond to any of the advice with so much as a 'thanks,' or even acknowledges it, never helps anyone else, and is consistently and pointlessly negative.

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Whatever you do don't think of the times you made love to her and her taste and her smell and how nothing can ever replicate that again, because then youll certainly want to know what shes thinking

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The issue, IMO, is that he doesn't respond to any of the advice with so much as a 'thanks,' or even acknowledges it, never helps anyone else, and is consistently and pointlessly negative.

 

Same here!

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The issue, IMO, is that he doesn't respond to any of the advice with so much as a 'thanks,' or even acknowledges it, never helps anyone else, and is consistently and pointlessly negative.

Thia isnt true, he's said thank you many times.

 

Hes also complimented many posts (including one of yours i think) and told people he can totally sympathize

 

Beyond that he's one of the most talented posters in terms of expression Ive seen and who are you to kick him off?

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