beautiful_stranger Posted July 8, 2008 Posted July 8, 2008 Is it possible for a guy to look back and be with someone who once rejected them? I have recently fallen for a guy who used to be interested in me, and now has moved on and fallen for another girl who apparently is in a long distance relationship. I have been trying to rationalize my feelings towards this guy, and it turns out that it is not the pride of having lost him to another girl, (as boys have moved on from me before and I never really minded that); nor is it the loss of his attention that I have been so used to over the last year or so. In the past, while he was pursuing me, I have always felt the intense chemistry between the two of us, stronger than those i shared with my exes. But when it comes to the question of a possible relationship between us, I would generally avoid it, as I felt that we may not be suitable for a relationship because at times he appears somewhat immature and that may annoy me in the long run. Whilst I'm sure I have feelings for this guy, I concluded that one doesn't really have to be with someone they like, unless that someone is right for you. But now that he's drifted apart, my feeling for this guy has escalated to the point that it felt like a bad breakup. Nowadays, he does not look at me the same way as before and although we keep in touch, he acts rather indifferent to my presence. What is more frustrating is that he would also ask me if I would be interested in any of his friends. Has anyone had this strange situation before? Do you think he would look back if I pursued him?
pandagirl Posted July 8, 2008 Posted July 8, 2008 I'm sure you like this guy, but it honestly sounds like once he moved on, you suddenly got jealous and realized what you lost. He did what was best for him and found another girl that was interested in him. If you really like him, you'll respect his new relationship, and wait until they break up to make your move!
Crestfallen_KH Posted July 8, 2008 Posted July 8, 2008 Would you really want to be with a man who would leave another relationship to be with you? What's changed now? The fact that he has a girlfriend - that's it. All the reasons why you didn't think it would work in the first place are still there. Why even try to encourage him to be with you when he's in relationship with someone who may be better suited to him? It sounds like you miss your ego boost more than anything.
toughcookie Posted July 8, 2008 Posted July 8, 2008 i hope to god he dosent look back, u had ur chance and blew it so the best thing for u to do would be to leave him alone because you probably already hurt him once
A.G.Doren Posted July 8, 2008 Posted July 8, 2008 There's a lot of judges on this board. Examine your feelings and if they're genuine tell him how you feel. The worst that will happen is he'll say no I've moved on and maybe he won't.
Author beautiful_stranger Posted July 10, 2008 Author Posted July 10, 2008 but he's not in a relationship, he just seems deeply infatuated with her, yet she has a long term boyfriend of her own... and hence i wonder if I still have my chances..
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