seekingsolace Posted July 8, 2008 Posted July 8, 2008 My husband is addicted to porn. It has been this way since before we were married but I just found out about it. He has been doing this during our marriage. His confession. He buys videos and masturbates to them and told me that he can't think of me when he is thinking of the woman he is looking at. We have been married only one year. I'm devastated. He tells me that I am the only woman he wants but yet I can't get passed the fact that he needs to look at other women while he masturbates. I can't help but think that when he is with me, when he closes his eyes he is thinking of other women. I'm also thinking of having am affair. Not for revenge but for my own self gratification. I'm at an age where I feel I need to have sex all the time. Why doesn't my husband want to be with me? My hormones are raging and I need to be with a man constantly. Why does he not think of me and he thinks of others? It doesn't make sense to me. I'm not a big girl and I have an awesome body. I just don't get it.
J2FT1 Posted July 8, 2008 Posted July 8, 2008 My husband is addicted to porn. It has been this way since before we were married but I just found out about it. He has been doing this during our marriage. His confession. He buys videos and masturbates to them and told me that he can't think of me when he is thinking of the woman he is looking at. We have been married only one year. I'm devastated. He tells me that I am the only woman he wants but yet I can't get passed the fact that he needs to look at other women while he masturbates. I can't help but think that when he is with me, when he closes his eyes he is thinking of other women. I'm also thinking of having am affair. Not for revenge but for my own self gratification. I'm at an age where I feel I need to have sex all the time. Why doesn't my husband want to be with me? My hormones are raging and I need to be with a man constantly. Why does he not think of me and he thinks of others? It doesn't make sense to me. I'm not a big girl and I have an awesome body. I just don't get it. Something else is the problem, not porn. What is his past? How is your relationship doing besides his porn "addiction?" Do you have any other issues that might relate to this?
LostHusband Posted July 8, 2008 Posted July 8, 2008 Not another porn thread! That's what men do - they look at porn! What is it, 99% of all men masterbate and the other 1% lie about it? Sorry to joke, but if it is serious, maybe try watching some together some time? Maybe something more geared toward women, they do make couples porn that is more um, gentle(?) so that the women enjoy it, and of course men enjoy it too because it is, well, porn.
Untouchable_Fire Posted July 8, 2008 Posted July 8, 2008 I'm also thinking of having am affair. Not for revenge but for my own self gratification. I'm at an age where I feel I need to have sex all the time. Why doesn't my husband want to be with me? My hormones are raging and I need to be with a man constantly. Why does he not think of me and he thinks of others? It doesn't make sense to me. I'm not a big girl and I have an awesome body. I just don't get it. An affair... yeah that's a mature solution! Have you had one previously? You two have an emotional disconnect... and he is probably addicted. Not your fault, but you do choose how to respond.
Sum1'sGot2RepThe530 Posted July 8, 2008 Posted July 8, 2008 I guess JerseyShorty doesn't hang out on this forum, she'd be here by now!
Enema Posted July 8, 2008 Posted July 8, 2008 How does your husband fit the definition of "addiction" ? the state of being enslaved to a habit or practice or to something that is psychologically or physically habit-forming, as narcotics, to such an extent that its cessation causes severe trauma. Your husband sounds like a regular porn user to me.
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