Hopelessly_Devoted Posted July 7, 2008 Posted July 7, 2008 My ex is actually on vacation with the new girl whom he is saying is only his friend and I am sure when they get bck it will be more. But is it possible for them to realize that the other person may not be what they want? He tells me he still loves me and misses me and wishes things were like they were in the beginning. He gives me alot of mixed signals, and I don't know if its because he feels bad and does not want to hurt me or if he means it. He has not really called me in the almost 2 months we have been broken up other than to straighten out bills and things of that sort.
kizik Posted July 7, 2008 Posted July 7, 2008 Wake up. You're being used and played. Does it feel good? No. You feel awful. And you're letting him do that to you with his stupid explanations and mixed signals. Stop playing his game! Stop talking to him! Now!
Author Hopelessly_Devoted Posted July 7, 2008 Author Posted July 7, 2008 Its so hard when you have been with someone for 10+ years. I don't want to bestrung along but I still love him, i have not spoken to him since thursday. I deleted his number from my phone. Why is this so hard?!
kizik Posted July 7, 2008 Posted July 7, 2008 I feel for you. I'm so sorry. What you need to do RIGHT NOW is be with friends and family. You will be OK, I promise. There are many men who will treat you better. Keep your head up, eat well, get some sleep. Write on loveshack often. Truly, kizik
BeHappy Posted July 8, 2008 Posted July 8, 2008 I totally understand how you feel. I also dated a guy for about ten years and he broke up with me for no reason at all. You can't hold on to him to continue having a relationship with you. Take a step back and go NC. Focus on other things that you are dying to do. I focused on my career and went back to school. No one can take that alway from me. =)
tmk25 Posted July 8, 2008 Posted July 8, 2008 I am in a similar situation now. It hurts so bad to know after such a perfect relationship and how much love we had for each other that he can be with another girl. I know she is just a rebound for him, but it doesn't make it hurt less. He has called and says he loves me now and forever and misses me, but I dont know how he can say that and have that girl spend the night in the same week. I finally have decided the best thing is to have NC with him for at least the next month or two. It is the only way he will be able to straighten out his life and decide if he is ready to commit to me, because that is what he was running from, and hope we can work it out from there.... Good luck to you.
Author Hopelessly_Devoted Posted July 8, 2008 Author Posted July 8, 2008 sometimes i think that th he might be scared of coming back fearing that it will be the same as before he left. So NC is ok for some while but I know that after 2-3weeks I need to run into him to stir his emotions and show him that i am changing so he doesn't fear me anymore! But I will be moving on expecting the worst but hoping for the best, kinda of like the lotto!
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