Orbit Posted July 7, 2008 Posted July 7, 2008 I have a bad habit of never making plans. I date and live my life basically on the spur of the moment. I will ask a woman out that night for drinks or dinner and see where things go from there. It has worked somewhat up to this point, but I have been finding that especially during summer people have plans and if I wait til Friday to ask somone to go out during the weekend, the answer is often no because they have plans . So how far in advance do other people give when they ask someone out?
KinAZ Posted July 7, 2008 Posted July 7, 2008 I've found the older I get the more notice I need. hehehe If it's an event that will require shopping, I say 2 weeks. But if it's something casual, a week should do. I think it also depends on the plans you make and your relationship with the person you're asking out. I've had guys suggest doing something over the weekend, but no solid plan, and then check back on Thursday or something to set it in stone and possibly add any detail of what we might do. And it's a good thing too, because something so vague might slip my mind. But if the plans are more specific, I tend not to forget. However, it's still nice to call and confirm the day before or earlier in the day on the day of.
McLovely Posted July 8, 2008 Posted July 8, 2008 1-2 weeks. Any less notice and it likely won't happen, because my calendar fills up quickly.
johan Posted July 8, 2008 Posted July 8, 2008 I don't give that much notice. I'm impulsive. I'll call the same day. If a girl really likes you, she'll almost always make time.
McLovely Posted July 8, 2008 Posted July 8, 2008 I don't give that much notice. I'm impulsive. I'll call the same day. If a girl really likes you, she'll almost always make time. Not if she respects and honors her prior commitments. I might be completely head over heels for a guy, but I'm not going to break my word and my honor to "make" time for him if I already promised that time elsewhere. I have a conscience, ya know. Other than that, I'm all for spontaneity when feasible.
johan Posted July 8, 2008 Posted July 8, 2008 Not if she respects and honors her prior commitments. I might be completely head over heels for a guy, but I'm not going to break my word and my honor to "make" time for him if I already promised that time elsewhere. I have a conscience, ya know. Other than that, I'm all for spontaneity when feasible. Well, if she turns me down, I only have myself to blame. But she'd still better make it up to me.
confused and broken Posted July 8, 2008 Posted July 8, 2008 I would say by Wednesday... if you want a date on Friday... Did you ever think it would be embarrassing for a woman to admit she has no plans for Friday night on Friday night... I know it's immature, but I wouldn't even answer my phone lol
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