jonesec Posted July 7, 2008 Posted July 7, 2008 I was wondering what the expected amount of forgetfulness is that can be attributed to just being a guy. There is the stereotypical boyfriend or husband that forgets birthdays and anniversaries, but I never thought that the guy i've been dating for 2 1/2 years would turn out to be the same way. Yesterday, all in one day, I found out he didn't know my middle name OR the year I was born. I know this isn't life or death stuff, but should I really accept this from my partner, when I know I am putting more effort into knowing who he is as a person? I don't even want to make this into a women vs. men thing, it is just who I am as a person. Its just the constant realizations of what he doesn't know about me, and it blows my mind how he probably had no intention of finding this things out about me.
Walk Posted July 7, 2008 Posted July 7, 2008 Haha.... I've been with my H for well over 4 years, and he forgets my birthday every year. He knows the month, but he gets confused on the day and the year I was born. Now I jog his memory about 2 weeks before my birthday. Last year, I put it in his phone and set the reminder so it'd ring a week prior to my bday. If you're concerned about whether his level of affection for you is dropping because he's forgetting important dates, then check his actions in the bigger picture. For example.. my H may forget the day I was born, but he's concerned enough about my welfare that he checks the car out careful before I make any trips. He's attentive and affectionate when I have problems. He still shows me he loves me in other ways. If you're guy is still attempting to show you he cares about you, and is concerned about your welfare, but he slips on dates then I wouldn't be too concerned. If he's slipping over all in the relationship, then it's time to worry.
KinAZ Posted July 7, 2008 Posted July 7, 2008 I feel the same way, probably because it's not something that you can expect from all men. I went out with a guy for three months, and a loooong while later he still knew my full name, and the date and year of my birth. The guy I was seeing at the time, (and had been with for a much longer period) could even recall those things. I was totally shocked. For me, it was a measurement of just how important I was, even if that isn't necessarily the case. I try to remember that some men naturally remember certain little details while others simply don't, but that doesn't change the way I feel about it or stop me from wondering why.
Lauriebell82 Posted July 8, 2008 Posted July 8, 2008 My boyfriend forgets stuff too..like the big party with 7 guys his freind invited over to our apartment (and told him about a few weeks ago, and he forgot). He forgets the exact date of our anniversary, so I always give him the reminder that is it a double "S" (September 7th). As Walk suggested give him some little reminders. He is a guy, generally they don't keep the same level of sentimental dates in their head as us women do. If it REALLY bothers you, you can talk to him, but I really doubt that will make him remember more. I think it's important for him know the important things in your relationship..what restaurant you like, where you like to be pleasured, things like that. Trivial dates and things of that nature are not a guy's strong point. Getting mad isn't going to change that.
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