myfatsym Posted July 7, 2008 Posted July 7, 2008 I'm not sure if I did something wrong here, if anything, and need to know how to handle it. Here is the situation: Over the weekend, I was out of town. When I got back, I told my friend that our group of friends should get together to play rock band. When we were trying to figure out when to do said rock band thing, my friend said this: "yeah i gotta figure stuff out. (insert name of my other friend's girlfriend) wants to go bowling monday but i haven't heard much". So I said, "wait, what about bowling?". Admittedly, I may have encroached right here without intending too. I quickly added an "is it exclusive?". He then responded, "Probably, she sent it out on facebook." I took this probably as an answer to the first question, which was whether or not i was invited, not whether or not it was exclusive. I also don't have a facebook and had been out of town, so I assumed it was a group activity that I hadn't heard about yet. So I talked to my other friend whose girlfriend was planning the bowling party. This is our conversation: me: bowling? monday? friend Yeah. me: whats that? que es ocurriendo? friend: Has anyone told you yet? Monday we're going bowling. me: no friend: my girlfriend has some kind of discount so its only 6.67 per person. me: i haven't heard, cos it was on facebook oh, nice friend: And includes free shoes. me: do they do cosmic bowling on mondays? friend: I think they do it every night. me: oh ok friend: Oh! And I also foudn out I'm going kayaking on Tuesday, so we might have to do the Rock Band thing on Wednesday me: thats ok Well today I hear that this friend has decided to combine the bowling and the rock band, which is fine, but sends the message to me that there is no problem going on. We get the details all figured out, and everything sounds good. I walk away from the computer when he sends me this: friend: For futur reference though, please don't assume you're invited to something just because we are.My girlfriend was the one who was planning this, and the reason that she didn't invite you because she just wanted to invite the people she knew well. So you can say it was 4th lunch* bull**** or whatever, but it isn't. Just for future reference. *At my school, there are two lunch periods, and all of my friends had 4th period lunch while I had 5th, so I rarely saw them all year long. I was kind of taken aback and confused, so I sent this email: "I'm sorry I assumed and invited myself + girlfriend, I had no idea that it was exclusive. I even asked, but Aaron made it seem as if it was a group thing and I just had not heard about it because I was out of town and I don't have a facebook. You also made it seem like I was invited when you combined rockband and bowling into one event. You can tell Mykel that I apologize, as I don't have her email, but for future reference, just tell me this stuff ahead of time. I don't blame the exclusivity on 4th lunch either, so don't worry about it." I really don't want to alienate this friend or the group by imposing, but I am really confuse here. What should I do? Sorry for the long post. [COLOR=#888888] [/COLOR]
kingofclubs856 Posted July 7, 2008 Posted July 7, 2008 well it seems to me that they dont want you to come to there bowling thing ... so if i were u i wouldnt go ... you and your friend could possibly have more fun else where ... i mean think bout it imagine how akward they are going to make it when they see you there... and how they are going to act torwards you ... tell the person who planned it sorry for inviting yourself personaly and tell her she doesnt have to worry bout you going or something
Author myfatsym Posted July 7, 2008 Author Posted July 7, 2008 You know, the other thing is that we have all been hanging out as a group for several years. My friend has been going out with this person for about a year, but she has always been welcome at our gatherings. This bowling outing is with the same people in the same spirit as it always is, so I don't know what the problem is. We are all very good friends. At least that's what I'm lead to believe. But if that were not true, than he's been lying to me for almost 7 years.
kingofclubs856 Posted July 7, 2008 Posted July 7, 2008 how bout you ask everyone else in the group if they have a problem with you going if not than i guess your ok
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